DazedandConfused91 Posted February 29, 2012 Share Posted February 29, 2012 Hey, So my boyfriend left back home on the 24th after staying here 5 days since he has left we barley talk and it's beginning to take it's toll on me. I really can't do it. He changed but not for the better. I have tried several times to talk to him about it to no avail finally after not getting a answer once again I sent him a message saying.. " Since once again I can't get a answer from you but i'm more then sure everyone else can. You are not the same person I thought you were. You went from being the sweetest person I know where EVERY NIGHT no matter the circumstance we would talk, where you would answer my texts whether they were important or not. I don't feel like your girlfriend I feel like a friend you decided to disown.. Obviously something has changed. I can't say I'm happy anymore. Please don't give me the excuse that your with your friends because that never stopped you before.. I remember a time I use to sit there for hours on end while you played LOL etc and never complained. I can't do this. I'm sorry but I just can't.. because it's really making me wonder and it's hurting me. I ain't b!tching at you if anything I made up a million excuses for why things changed so much since you left. I don't wanna change the person you are but you are not the same person I came to love and if the " new " you is who your gonna remain to be I have no business staying with you because it's stressing me out.. Figure out what it is you wanna do.. I am not in any circumstance trying to change the person you are but I want the old (his name) back.. " I sent that message last night I know he read it but hasn't replied.. I am not sure what to do now. I'm thinking about changing my FB relationship status to single and just letting it go but i'm also thinking about giving it until friday to get a answer.? Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted March 1, 2012 Share Posted March 1, 2012 Honeymoon period ends, people stop trying so hard and get comfortable, things change. The end of the honeymoon is the last stop for many relationships as we get used to the combination of extra effort and rose colored view of everything that we have. Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted March 1, 2012 Share Posted March 1, 2012 How long have you been together? How much time have you spent together? If it's a case of the honeymoon phase being over and you're now being taken for granted, then this is especially hard in an LDR, because effort HAS to be made in LDR's or they'll fizzle out and/or become just a friendship. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DazedandConfused91 Posted March 1, 2012 Author Share Posted March 1, 2012 a Month we're fairly new at all of this. after I sent that msg I waited 24 hours with no reply to change my fb status which 3 hrs later he changed his as well and finally replied. Wasn't what I wanted to hear but I heard him out and in a way I understand. He asked me to give him one week to get out of this faze and then to make a decision then. Link to post Share on other sites
IcomeInPeace Posted March 1, 2012 Share Posted March 1, 2012 After reading both of your posts I think you should just let it go. Whatever is going on with him he has chosen not to let you in on it right now. You let him know how you feel and he chose not to address it so his levels of concern for you are questionable. I think you guys let the "word" love into your relationship entirely too fast. You can love your idea of someone but in a matter of months it's impossible to actually love someone when you can't possibly know them yet. Love is a strong word that's been diluted for so long that it's now misunderstood and abused intentionally as well as unintentionally. He did things you weren't used to but far too often women don't expect us to do what men should do and just go along with it instead of demanding to be treated like a woman. Lastly my advice is to love yourself more and I don't mean that in a negative way. I don't know you but I know you have something different to offer than his exes so you shouldn't be worried about how they looked. If you're not confident about what you possess others won't be either. Take it in stride as a lesson learned and with the knowledge that he missed out. Take care Link to post Share on other sites
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