bamaguy20 Posted June 7, 2004 Share Posted June 7, 2004 is it just me or does it seem that whenever get dumped by an ex they just seem so much hotter than they did when you were with them....my ex girlfriend is a real good looking girl, but since she broke up with me and ive had such a hard time with that because i was really in love with her, she just seems so incredibly hot to me....it makes me more mad to think about, because now i feel like ill never get with another girl half as good looking as her...wondering if anyone else has felt liek this before.. Link to post Share on other sites
Mezz Posted June 7, 2004 Share Posted June 7, 2004 Its all about wanting what you cant have. Also, it might have to do with trying to find someone new, and people all want to look their best in case they meet them. Link to post Share on other sites
azgirl Posted June 7, 2004 Share Posted June 7, 2004 Maybe it's just a case of wanting what you can't have. Unfortunately, I can't say that I am there with you. In fact, each and every one of mine has gotten LESS attractive. And my current ex is a great looking guy. I, too, initially thought that I would never find a more attractive guy to date, but here's the thing. His behavior right now is VERY ugly. And that kind of behaviour changes the way I look at him completely. Link to post Share on other sites
tom_gbr Posted June 7, 2004 Share Posted June 7, 2004 i know what you mean and i feel exactly the same....when my ex finished it with my randomly on the phone one night i didnt see her in person till two weeks later as we live two hours away. we went out for a meal to this restaurant we always used to go to...for old times sake....i was sitting there and she went to go to the toilet..i watched her as she was walking away from the table and it suddenly kicked in how amazingly attractive she was and that she wasnt mine anymore....also i think in those two weeks of not seeing each other she had been down the gym a lot as her body was more curvy than ever after that night i said to myself that i had to sort myself out....im working out every day now....improving myself...i know we are going to bump into each other in just over a months time as we are going on holiday same, time same place....im going to show her that im looking better than ever and show her what she let go off....in a way this is a type of revenge for me...a way of me saying that "im much better off without you" Link to post Share on other sites
edweirdo Posted June 7, 2004 Share Posted June 7, 2004 My wife told me she didn't love me anymore and never did. Because we had just had a child I stayed with her for about 2 years before we seperated. During that time she lost a lot of weight and visited the tanning salon at least twice a week. It was really painfull to watch her get better and better looking when I couldn't have her. She is exceptional now, but we are almost divorced and she is dating (read having sex) other people already. It just rips me up inside. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bamaguy20 Posted June 8, 2004 Author Share Posted June 8, 2004 actually about an hour ago, i just saw my ex face to face for the first time in about a month....was walking through the mall where she works, and guess she spotted me and ran up to me and started talking....not exactly what i would have done, but whatever.....talked for a little bit, smoked a copule of ciggarettes, and now i got a knot in the pit of my stomach again...not because of anythign she said, just because..and i dont like it.....but b ack to waht i was sayinga bout exs getting hotter, after not seeing her for a month and running into her again, i think that gave me time to clear my head more...because id on feel like shes "SO" hot anymore....she looks like she may have even put ona couple pounds around her waist....seeing her gave me back my stomach ache again, but it helped me realize she isn't some goddess that i had been thinking she was the past month.... Link to post Share on other sites
GlitterMonster Posted June 8, 2004 Share Posted June 8, 2004 Hey can i ask you dudes this.....Ok its like this in my relationship I was hot to my boyfriend right...but i got kinda lazy u know (put on some weight, stopped looking good for him etc.) basically I took him for granted :-( and now after hes left me im just like you guys, im going crazy mad in love with him all over again, going crazy in lust and my heart feels like its bleeding. Do you think, now that i have all this time, should i like do these things u are talking about your ex girlfriends did..i lost a lot of weight recently due to the broken heart and depression, im now 120 lbs @ 5 ft 6 and i want to start working out and going to the tan salon. My ex loved women that would dress classy and do their (hair, nails etc.) coz it showed effort...and he always shopped for me and bought me pretty outfits and perfums...Should I do this, and send him some pics? I know it sounds so desperate and CHEESY (LOL) but im desperate... He always told me im beautiful im not saying im ugly or anything but i wanna u know..Wow him lol god i feel silly plz help ok its like this i posted a story earlier about my situation but right now im trying to focus on getting my ex boyfriend back....well its a long story but yeah he broke up with me because he hads a lot of issues (responsiblity, depression, he lost trust in me its a stupid misunderstanding that happened) and I know for sure he's not seeing anybody else and he told me he still luvs me but thinks we cannot have a relationship that will work out... What do you guys suggest I do? I cant leave him alone becoz i want him to feel i still love him and always will be here for him...and I wanna make myself look really Good not only for myself, but for him and for my future! Link to post Share on other sites
JustHot Posted June 8, 2004 Share Posted June 8, 2004 When a woman moves on from a relationship whether she's the dumper or the dumpee, but especially if she's the dumpee, she gets better looking, reinvents herself and changes a lot. It is a way of claiming one's independence and power as a woman. More often, the better looking she gets the more she changes inside, her goals, etc. because she starts getting attention from men who never used to look at her or who she never thought she could get. She gets more self esteem and also looks better because of that. Confidence is always more attractive to the ex or any man. Usually she lost the guy because she was not confident and he took her for granted. Link to post Share on other sites
Music Lover Posted June 9, 2004 Share Posted June 9, 2004 OH MY GOD JUSTHOT!!! What a GREAT answer!!! NOw that I've been dumped I won't see him until I look GREAT! I did let myself go in the relationship and I took him for granted. Even if he does not notice that I look different I know that I will feel better about myself. Link to post Share on other sites
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