The Coworker.

[antball]

So, I'm gonna make this as short as possible.

 

I recently started a new job at a camp site outside of the city, met this girl who was also new, who was on the bus with me. She layed on my lap, sleeping for the whole bus ride. We talked for the whole ride. I don't know if this matters or not but she's a Gemini and I'm a Leo male. Our first day, after both our shifts, I invited her to come to my dorm-room to watch a movie with me, she agreed to come over that night, and she started rambling on about her ex boyfriends/husband being married to three other women (including her) and her five kids, house, blah blah blah.

 

I'm 24 and she's 35. I know. I found her attractive, like really cute. So after our long conversation in my dorm-room, I told her to come cuddle with me in my bed, and she did just that. She said that she felt safe and secure in my arms on the bus ride (while she was in my bed), and we started cuddling more and more... until we kissed, we kept kissing. We got a little excited, (she was on her period), we didn't do anything. (She gave me oral). She told me that we can have sex tomorrow (which never happened). After our little "cuddle in my room", it's like she's pretending that never happened after, I tried to sneak a kiss the next day, and she pushes me back. (She says, No, Stop, Don't do that).

I grew feelings for her, (I know, stupid!). Because she's had TONS of boyfriends/aquaintainces

I feel like I was just some guy to fill a void that night (it was an emotional night for her, apparently, she cried a little, while talking to me).

 

Every time I ask her if she wants to watch a movie, or hang out, she makes up an excuse. She's had a pretty rough past (with guys, especially!), so I tried to listen to ALL her problems, and she "appreciates" it apparently. So, I was wondering what your thoughts on this situation is? Should I just move on, and find someone worth growing feelings for.

 

Thank you.

Edited March 2, 2012 by antball

[TeeZee]

Some people think that by listening to her talk about her problems that early on, you are playing a role that is not sexual, more like a girlfriend. Seems like she is not that into you, and moving on would be a good move.

[CC12]

Should I just move on, and find someone worth growing feelings for.

 

Yes. It's not going anywhere if she's rejecting your advances.

[PlumPrincess]

Five kids? Talking about ex-husbands? Sleeping in your lap? Cuddling and oral sex? And now she became cold with no explanation?

 

I recommend you to drop contact with her as soon as possible. She is clearly a troublemaker with a complete lack of understanding of herself and other people. There's a big age difference between you guys and if you have to ask about a situation like that on a relationship forum, you are too young and too inexperienced to deal with someone her age.

 

Mature younger guy and older woman - might work out.

Inexperienced younger guy and inmature older woman - BIG trouble.

[marianne78]

You're better off moving on and finding someone who deserves you and is worth cultivating feelings for. It's obvious that she's not into you despite the interlude in your dorm room. Besides, she does sound like trouble.