iamtastee Posted June 7, 2004 Share Posted June 7, 2004 I have a situation with a very close friend of mine and it's really iggin me. Here goes: Me and my friend have been close since Jr. High School (we are both 25 now). We both go to each other for advice on our romantic relationships and respect each other's opinions and observations. Now, I now how touchy it is to tell another woman something about her man. My approach is to tell my friends something ONCE and let them have it. For instance, if I see their guy out with another girl,or know that their SO is involved with another female in a more than friendly situation,I tell them once,and how they deal with it is their decision. I'm a supporter to my friends,not a judge or jury. However,for the past two years,my friend has been dating someone that is rumored to be homosexual. EVERY single individual that I know and that knows him says that he is in the closet,but most definitely gay. The first time I heard this,I disregarded it as an odle rumor and didn't make mention of it to her. But after that,most of the people that he associates with,even his frat brothers,were surprised to hear that he was dating my friend because they thought that he was gay. After another friend of mine (who is not friends with her) told me that he was once caught kissing another male in his dorm,I told my friend about it. She told me that she had heard it before, and even thought that he was before she found out that he was interested in her. She says that she asked him about it and that he said that he once worked with a guy who was homosexual and they became friends. He would go to the gay club with his friend just to hang out,and since people saw him there, they started saying that he was also gay. Now,his mannerisms do reflect the stereotypes of a gay male,but stereotypes are just that. My friend really does care alot for this guy, thats why I know it is hard for her to want to face the fact that her boyfriend may in fact be gay/bisexual. To add to that--major embarrassment. I have no concrete proof that these rumors are true,but we stay in a small city. Most of the time there is always some truth in the rumors because everyone is somehow connected to everyone else. I and quite a few others have told her,should I just let it go and keep my nose out of it? But it pisses me off. Not because he may be gay/bisexual or whatever,but because I don't believe that he is being honest with my friend about it. Link to post Share on other sites
average guy Posted June 8, 2004 Share Posted June 8, 2004 Originally posted by iamtastee My friend really does care alot for this guy, thats why I know it is hard for her to want to face the fact that her boyfriend may in fact be gay/bisexual. To add to that--major embarrassment. But it pisses me off. Not because he may be gay/bisexual or whatever,but because I don't believe that he is being honest with my friend about it. It sounds to me like you are alittle mad that he could be gay or bi, because of the "embarrasment" it might cause her. This is homophobic. I understand you are worried about your friend, but you are worried about her for the wrong reasons. As long as her man is faithful and loves her, I see no reason for you to do anything except support her and her relationship with him. Link to post Share on other sites
daisyg61 Posted June 21, 2004 Share Posted June 21, 2004 Yes i think you have to leave it she will find out some day Link to post Share on other sites
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