Richard_87 Posted June 7, 2004 Share Posted June 7, 2004 Hi all Brief story - Ive fancied this girl for quite a while... I guess we consider each other to be friends at the moment, she tells me quite a bit about herself.. However she's got a pretty apalling background.. She was born to an insanely young mother.. I dont want to go into details, but it shocked me for ages.., she has never met her dad or anything like that... She got abandoned, and then eventually ended up back with her mum for most of her childhood... I guess you can draw your own conclusions as to what type of a childhood it was for her, but you wouldn't guess it talking to her... Anyway as we sat and talked and had some rare time together she was telling me how she had run away from home .. She is now living with her auntie.. Every night she argues with her mum about things and I know she doesnt eat enough and is possibly losing sleep over it.. She seems good at putting on a facade over all this... Ive liked her for ages, but its only recently that Ive become aware of all this.. Shes started smoking too, which I should have seen coming as completely inevitable... So ive got some dilemmas... 1) Obviously she is a lovely normal warm girl who I am deeply fond of, but how do I go about things when she is going through such a tricky situation.. She hasnt exactly been set an example by her parents on conducting a loving relationship... Anything I should be prepared for/doing? 2) I do not see her enough to build anything more than a stuttering friendship... We dont have many common interests (I dont think this is too much of a problem in the future because we get on really well anyhow).. We go to the same college, but she is not my age and does not do any lessons/activities with me... Is there any other way I could go about in order to get into her thoughts a bit more? 3) Her mate recently asked me if I liked her.. I replied in the affirmative .. I havent seen them since because I have been on holiday.. What should I be in for when I get back to college??? lol... Ive never been in this situation before.. Anyway any thoughts/opinions would be greatly appreciated... its not easy being in love with this girl, but there aren't many like her Thanks loveshackers.... Link to post Share on other sites
average guy Posted June 8, 2004 Share Posted June 8, 2004 It sounds like she probably does need help dealing with some issues (her relationship with her mum) but they are probably best handled by a profesinnal (with your support and frienship). I would try and get her to go to a college counselour (go with her and wait outside if she is hesitant or nervous). Otherwise, just let if go slowly and see what develops. Rushing into a relationship now might not be the best thing for her (or for you if she is in a troubled state of mind at the moment). Anyway, good luck and try and be there for her Link to post Share on other sites
Author Richard_87 Posted June 8, 2004 Author Share Posted June 8, 2004 Thanks for the feedback.. interestin... Im sure she would have gone to a counselor beforhand if she needed one, or her friends would have got her to go... Its been going on for ages really... Link to post Share on other sites
beatbox Posted June 13, 2004 Share Posted June 13, 2004 Originally posted by Richard_87 Hi all Brief story - Ive fancied this girl for quite a while... I guess we consider each other to be friends at the moment, she tells me quite a bit about herself.. However she's got a pretty apalling background.. She was born to an insanely young mother.. I dont want to go into details, but it shocked me for ages.., she has never met her dad or anything like that... She got abandoned, and then eventually ended up back with her mum for most of her childhood... I guess you can draw your own conclusions as to what type of a childhood it was for her, but you wouldn't guess it talking to her... Anyway as we sat and talked and had some rare time together she was telling me how she had run away from home .. She is now living with her auntie.. Every night she argues with her mum about things and I know she doesnt eat enough and is possibly losing sleep over it.. She seems good at putting on a facade over all this... Ive liked her for ages, but its only recently that Ive become aware of all this.. Shes started smoking too, which I should have seen coming as completely inevitable... So ive got some dilemmas... 1) Obviously she is a lovely normal warm girl who I am deeply fond of, but how do I go about things when she is going through such a tricky situation.. She hasnt exactly been set an example by her parents on conducting a loving relationship... Anything I should be prepared for/doing? 2) I do not see her enough to build anything more than a stuttering friendship... We dont have many common interests (I dont think this is too much of a problem in the future because we get on really well anyhow).. We go to the same college, but she is not my age and does not do any lessons/activities with me... Is there any other way I could go about in order to get into her thoughts a bit more? 3) Her mate recently asked me if I liked her.. I replied in the affirmative .. I havent seen them since because I have been on holiday.. What should I be in for when I get back to college??? lol... Ive never been in this situation before.. Anyway any thoughts/opinions would be greatly appreciated... its not easy being in love with this girl, but there aren't many like her Thanks loveshackers.... Link to post Share on other sites
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