StrikeFreedom Posted March 4, 2012 Share Posted March 4, 2012 I broke up with my girlfriend of almost 2 years last year in May 2011. The break up happened because I found myself thinking a lot about a past love interest of mine and I felt that I couldn't be with my girlfriend at the time because I was unable to fully give my heart to her. I perused the past love interest and realized that things weren't better with the girl I thought my heart desired, they were just different compared to my ex girlfriend. I realized shortly after leaving my ex that I loved her too and only broke up with her because I was trying to do the right thing by following my heart and not leading my ex on for any longer. After the break up we did an on and off thing for the past 6 months. It's been really painful and my hearts been torn up from all the back and forth dating and her having another boyfriend now. I feel like I can't get over what happened. We had a good thing going but I just couldn't understand why I thought I loved another girl. Then when I got that girl I realized that it didn't make my heart feel differently. Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted March 5, 2012 Share Posted March 5, 2012 You still hadn't healed from the past so you couldn't give all that you needed to the new girl. You were very honest with her and I think that was great. She has started to explore herself and other options, you need to start working on yourself too. Link to post Share on other sites
radiodarcy Posted March 5, 2012 Share Posted March 5, 2012 as usual, i'm in complete agreement with Philosoraptor. you were busy pursuing this other girl while the gf you broke up with took that time to heal and move on. the best thing you can do for yourself is to cut off all contact with her and start working on yourself so you can move forward as well. Link to post Share on other sites
Leigh 87 Posted March 6, 2012 Share Posted March 6, 2012 U did not really, truly want either girl. U were with your girlfriend, but u were unsure if u were crazily, deaply, in love, and if she was " the one" u wanted to settle down with, marry, etc. So, u did the right thing. The fact it did not work out with the other girl, does not mean your girlfriend is right for you. After 2 years, you would know by now if she was a girl u wanted to marry, and spend your life with. Link to post Share on other sites
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