amanda_emm Posted March 5, 2012 Share Posted March 5, 2012 I have been with my boyfriend for over 7 months now, I was very quick getting out of the realtionship with my ex to getting into a new relationship with my current partner, however we did take things slow to begin with we didn't know each other so we were just seeing each other and having fun. He went on a guys holiday as we 1st got together and I gave him the go ahead to go and have fun as long as he was honest with me when he came home, he came home and although I found out myself he had kissed a girl with her tagging him on a photo on facebook the next day he probably would have told me that night. I went away with my friends for my 21st and I didn't do anything and I was honest with him. He is a year and a half younger than me and was in a serious realtionship before where he was engaged (he was only like 16/17 tho) but we got together officaially when I came home from my 21st, he knows his ground with me and knows exactly where he stand he knows I won't let anyone walk over me or make a joke of me! And I thinks this is what he likes about me as I'm quiet fiesty. We have a great relationship and were like best freinds we get a really good laugh and can be ourselfs and just generally are like 2 peas in a pod! ... I work a lot and work at w.e's in a pub so don't go out much, he goes out with his friends and I've always with everyone had quite an issue with trust with him I didn't show it I put it behind and although I thought about it a tried not to but he texted a lot of girls as he called friends like I did guys buuuut.. He had been acting weird I was going through an abtopic pregnancy wasn't sure wither the acting weird was what we were going through as a couple or other resons anyway time went on I got the baby took away then like a week later i had found out he had kissed a girl 3 months before but told her he was single still txted her as she was one of these friends!! A went absalutley mad the fact we were going through the pregnancy and just thought he thought more of me.... I let things cool of he came to speak to me and I'm not silly but a genuianlly think he was sorry and one lie turned in to two so I wouldn't find out from anyone else but him but he was waiting untill everythin else had calmed before he told me .... WRONG MOVE but mistakes happin. I have forgaving him and he has been amazing with me just like a perfect boyfriend I couldn't ask for better ..... But he hasn't went out on a guys night and its been like 4 weeks from I found out and he's thinking about going on a guys holiday but he is going away 2 weeks with his family and a week with my family I don't mind him going with his family two weeks its just going away a week with the guys that's really upsetting me and I think it will break us up as I am not up for sittin a full week worried about what he's doing who he's with and if he with girl I couldn't do it to myself I just can't seem to get this jealousy thing away I don't totally trust him as it will take a little building up to do but when iv asked friends or family for advice they say "you can't let him not go on holiday" but I think I can because at the end of the day he's brought the no trust issue into our relationship I have a right to make him make it up to me although I do want him to go out for a guys night out because I'd rather get over the nights out just now before I get to comfertable with him not going out and when he does ill freak out I'd rather get it over and done with so I can build my trust up or start to ..... What do uz think sorry for such a long story! Xx Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted March 5, 2012 Share Posted March 5, 2012 he has been amazing with me just like a perfect boyfriend I couldn't ask for better yes you could ask for better. Say...a guy who doesn't cheat on you and lie to you...? Here's the thing, you don't trust him, and for good reason. I wouldn't trust this kid either, he has proven he is NOT trustworthy. Personally, I don't think that trust is going to be rebuilt and I think you'll walk on eggshells, and be anxious anytime he is apart from you for as long as this relationship continues. I'd bail before you get any more invested. You are crazy young, and he is even younger...enjoy some singletime. Link to post Share on other sites
Author amanda_emm Posted March 5, 2012 Author Share Posted March 5, 2012 Your right! I do always walk on egg shells and if I don't leave him it will be him leaving me as I'd sufficate him which would make me feel like a totall push over I have a lot of self pride (not that I love myself) but I like to think I don't take s**t from guys and I seem to be making an exception here. He tells me everything I want to hear like no I'm not going on holiday then he goes to his friends n comes back and says aw were going in at the w.e to look at holidays imtryin to be tuff and say no your not and although he listens to me I'm eventually just going to push him away anyway by telling him how to and when to live his life! ..... Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
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