CALOVELY Posted March 5, 2012 Share Posted March 5, 2012 Another work of fiction by a terrible "writer". 4 Link to post Share on other sites
DonVee Posted March 5, 2012 Share Posted March 5, 2012 (edited) He is lying to two women and thinks that he can get away with it. I called his wife 2 months ago, and told her about the affair, but didn't tell her my name. She didn't seem to believe what I say.... The affair resumed as if nothing has happened ??? In the meantime I went on writing my blog about new our encounters... Yes, I have a blog in which I have described every single detail, since the very beginning. Neither him, not his wife knew about it. I'll need to call his wife again and tell her the additional details about the affair. It's not an easy decision, though. She needs to know that the affair never stopped. I will send her the link. :eek: I will never understand why the OW is only willing to give up all the details of their dirty little affair AFTER the Wayward Spouse has upset them... If you didn't call her and inform her from the beginning then why do it now? Your disgusting! Edited March 5, 2012 by DonVee 2 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 5, 2012 Share Posted March 5, 2012 Don't feed the trolls, comes to mind......Just sayin'. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted March 5, 2012 Share Posted March 5, 2012 We really are a sorry bunch of bait takers. That under the bridge dweller sure knew how to yank our chains. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
frozensprouts Posted March 5, 2012 Share Posted March 5, 2012 is this real? what kind of a person goes online to make this kind of "proclamation"? Link to post Share on other sites
Lostinlife4now Posted March 5, 2012 Share Posted March 5, 2012 Wait!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Is Adriana2012 for real or not?? Is she a troll??? I am so CONFUSED??? Someone HELLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
frozensprouts Posted March 5, 2012 Share Posted March 5, 2012 Wait!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Is Adriana2012 for real or not?? Is she a troll??? I am so CONFUSED??? Someone HELLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP!!!!!!! hmmm... I think you may be crying out into the darkness on this one:laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
Author Adriana2012 Posted March 5, 2012 Author Share Posted March 5, 2012 Wait!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Is Adriana2012 for real or not?? Is she a troll??? I am so CONFUSED??? Someone HELLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP!!!!!!! I'm real. My blog is real. Stop the paranoia, please. I would very much appreciate opinion from people who have been in my shoes already, OW/OM. Where are they? Seems like only BSs have responded to my thread so far. It's been a long day for me, already. Link to post Share on other sites
Motor35 Posted March 5, 2012 Share Posted March 5, 2012 um....so what is the opinion/advice you are asking? it has been lost amongst your dastardly plans.... Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 5, 2012 Share Posted March 5, 2012 I'm real. My blog is real. Stop the paranoia, please. I would very much appreciate opinion from people who have been in my shoes already, OW/OM. Where are they? Seems like only BSs have responded to my thread so far. It's been a long day for me, already. Okay, I'm sorry I accused you of being a troll. It was me who brought it up first. What is it that you actually want to happen? Honestly. For her to kick him out and he'll come to you and be 'yours'. They will divorce and you'll be together happily ever after? Or is this a sure way of ending the affair once and for all so YOU can find love and happiness with a (single) guy when the timing is right? You cannot control him, her or their marriage. YOU get no say in how they handle things behind closed doors. Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted March 5, 2012 Share Posted March 5, 2012 What's your blog address? 4 Link to post Share on other sites
DonVee Posted March 5, 2012 Share Posted March 5, 2012 What's your blog address? Yes... I would love to read them too! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mercy Posted March 5, 2012 Share Posted March 5, 2012 I'm real. My blog is real. Stop the paranoia, please. I would very much appreciate opinion from people who have been in my shoes already, OW/OM. Where are they? Seems like only BSs have responded to my thread so far. It's been a long day for me, already. You are a bit cruel for my taste but if it's advice you're looking for here's some - stay away from women like you, they'll steal that 'priceless' man you're hanging onto. Seriously, what will you do with the likes of him if he decides to come your way? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted March 6, 2012 Share Posted March 6, 2012 He is lying to two women and thinks that he can get away with it. I called his wife 2 months ago, and told her about the affair, but didn't tell her my name. She didn't seem to believe what I say.... The affair resumed as if nothing has happened ??? In the meantime I went on writing my blog about new our encounters... Yes, I have a blog in which I have described every single detail, since the very beginning. Neither him, not his wife knew about it. I'll need to call his wife again and tell her the additional details about the affair. It's not an easy decision, though. She needs to know that the affair never stopped. I will send her the link. I'm confused....I didn't read the whole thread so pardon me if you already answered, but why would YOU continue the affair if you told his wife? Surely you didn't need to....you were not being forced into it...so why did you tell the wife and continue and even make a blog writing details about it and now you're planning to tell her again? This is all very strange behavior.... What are you hoping to gain by telling her and why were you still in the A??? Link to post Share on other sites
HHC Posted March 6, 2012 Share Posted March 6, 2012 , but why would YOU continue the affair THis is my question too Link to post Share on other sites
Angelina527 Posted March 6, 2012 Share Posted March 6, 2012 I'm real. My blog is real. Stop the paranoia, please. I would very much appreciate opinion from people who have been in my shoes already, OW/OM. Where are they? Seems like only BSs have responded to my thread so far. It's been a long day for me, already. I was an OW an my opinion stands. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 6, 2012 Share Posted March 6, 2012 The affair resumed as if nothing has happened ??? In the meantime I went on writing my blog about new our encounters... Yes, I have a blog in which I have described every single detail, since the very beginning. Neither him, not his wife knew about it. One thing, why would she believe you since you refused to tell her your name. Another thing, why on earth would you 'blog' about your affair? To brag about it? Give pointers to other OW in your situation or just to make a point? Sorry, I guess I don't see the point in blogging about it . 1 Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted March 6, 2012 Share Posted March 6, 2012 I think we need to read the blog to advise further. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted March 6, 2012 Share Posted March 6, 2012 Yoooooo Hooooooo Link to post Share on other sites
Ms. Red Posted March 6, 2012 Share Posted March 6, 2012 so what do you want to happen? I 2nd this question. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Adriana2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Author Share Posted March 6, 2012 I think we need to read the blog to advise further. I'll let his wife read it for now. Here is an excerpt... ... Why doesn't he end the affair with me and recommits to his marriage? All this hiding, secret calls, strange maneuvers before and after a cocktail party, early morning meetings... it all requires certain amount of energy. Why doesn't he invest that energy in improving the relationship with his wife? I asked him so, but he says that he is no longer wasting time to recover the relationship with her. He tried in the past, failed and gave up completely. Now he is determined to stay married and to lie whenever needed. While she is determined to play her power games on him. Fair enough. He is in the fog of ambivalence. His marriage is too good to leave, too bad to stay in it. Having a partner on the side who is not only his girlfriend, but also a companion who understands and accepts him, is a solution that works for both, him and his wife. New studies reveal that cheating is about everything, but sex. Some married people don't know or don't want to connect with each other anymore. It works for his wife too. Being married (although cheated on) suits her. Because they are two co-dependants that wouldn't try to change a thing, no matter how bad or how betrayed they feel. They are in denial. They are roommates raising a child. Better bad marriage, than no marriage at all. Otherwise, what would they tell the couples they are befriended with? They think they are saving their marriage. Any reasonable observer would say that the marriage has been dead for a long time now. What they are trying to do, is not saving the marriage, but avoiding the divorce at all costs. When I told her the news, she might have thought that now I am the problem. An old adage says "Don't kill the messenger". I'm not the problem. I'm the symptom of their bigger underlying problem. If their marriage was good enough, I would have never had a chance to share anything intimate with her husband. Good marriages are rock solid. This one is based on lies. After my first call he is staying at home more often, to be "seen" spending time at home as a devoted husband, so that later, once he re-gains her trust, he can win his freedom back. Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted March 6, 2012 Share Posted March 6, 2012 Textbook stories from a MM as told by the AP. You don't have to settle for sharing. Why do you? Link to post Share on other sites
beenburned Posted March 6, 2012 Share Posted March 6, 2012 Ad, Don't you understand that everything the MM told you about his wife and marriage is total lies? MM sounds like a serial cheater, who doesn't give a rats a** about anybody except himself. He will stop at nothing to get what he wants, at everybody else's expense! Link to post Share on other sites
Lostinlife4now Posted March 6, 2012 Share Posted March 6, 2012 I'm real. My blog is real. Stop the paranoia, please. I would very much appreciate opinion from people who have been in my shoes already, OW/OM. Where are they? Seems like only BSs have responded to my thread so far. It's been a long day for me, already. Paranoid??? No I don't think that is the correct word....Untrusting is much better!!! Thanks for setting the record straight!!! Link to post Share on other sites
woinlove Posted March 6, 2012 Share Posted March 6, 2012 I'll let his wife read it for now. Here is an excerpt... ... Why doesn't he end the affair with me and recommits to his marriage? All this hiding, secret calls, strange maneuvers before and after a cocktail party, early morning meetings... it all requires certain amount of energy. Why doesn't he invest that energy in improving the relationship with his wife? I asked him so, but he says that he is no longer wasting time to recover the relationship with her. He tried in the past, failed and gave up completely. Now he is determined to stay married and to lie whenever needed. While she is determined to play her power games on him. Fair enough. He is in the fog of ambivalence. His marriage is too good to leave, too bad to stay in it. Having a partner on the side who is not only his girlfriend, but also a companion who understands and accepts him, is a solution that works for both, him and his wife. New studies reveal that cheating is about everything, but sex. Some married people don't know or don't want to connect with each other anymore. It works for his wife too. Being married (although cheated on) suits her. Because they are two co-dependants that wouldn't try to change a thing, no matter how bad or how betrayed they feel. They are in denial. They are roommates raising a child. Better bad marriage, than no marriage at all. Otherwise, what would they tell the couples they are befriended with? They think they are saving their marriage. Any reasonable observer would say that the marriage has been dead for a long time now. What they are trying to do, is not saving the marriage, but avoiding the divorce at all costs. When I told her the news, she might have thought that now I am the problem. An old adage says "Don't kill the messenger". I'm not the problem. I'm the symptom of their bigger underlying problem. If their marriage was good enough, I would have never had a chance to share anything intimate with her husband. Good marriages are rock solid. This one is based on lies. After my first call he is staying at home more often, to be "seen" spending time at home as a devoted husband, so that later, once he re-gains her trust, he can win his freedom back. Adriana, I don't know much about you, but I do think everyone deserves a love life that isn't as focussed on someone else's marriage as this post is! A long marriage is a complex, evolving entity, touching so many different aspects of life for the two people directly involved. Trying to analyze it from the outside, when you don't even have full access to one of the parties, and the other one is known to lie, is surely a waste of time. Don't you think? 4 Link to post Share on other sites
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