East7 Posted March 18, 2012 Share Posted March 18, 2012 I guess I should have included that I've told her to F off many times near the end. I have even forward emails from her to her H....So the consequences don't seem to work. I know her H doesn't care cause he'd do something about it. So yes I did my part...and now I don't respond anymore... I wouldn't be so sure about this. I don't know any man that would be careless about his W infidelity.. Either you don't have her H's good/active e-mail address OR she has gaslighted him telling him that you are making up things etc etc... Link to post Share on other sites
Lostinlife4now Posted March 18, 2012 Share Posted March 18, 2012 So your the type that changes numbers, close email accounts, block chats, etc? Sorry I see that as unnecessary energy and time spent on trying to keep someone out of your life. And even if I did what I learned is if they want to contact you they will. So with that said I moved on or else I would have responded. p.s. I see you post in this forum....so Alice what is your story? Confused....I am like you...I didn't change any numbers or addresses...I JUST DON'T RESPOND to the twit!! Outta sight, outta mind!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confused4Now Posted March 18, 2012 Author Share Posted March 18, 2012 I wouldn't be so sure about this. I don't know any man that would be careless about his W infidelity.. Either you don't have her H's good/active e-mail address OR she has gaslighted him telling him that you are making up things etc etc... Try a Narcissistic man who's been caught many times with escorts and his share of women. A man after finding out his own W did the same thing but never left the marriage. He feels entitled to do anything he wants cause he knows she will never leave. Link to post Share on other sites
Emme Posted March 18, 2012 Share Posted March 18, 2012 Try a Narcissistic man who's been caught many times with escorts and his share of women. A man after finding out his own W did the same thing but never left the marriage. He feels entitled to do anything he wants cause he knows she will never leave. Even more reason why they deserve each other. Link to post Share on other sites
Blue eyed baby RN Posted April 26, 2012 Share Posted April 26, 2012 Hmm however you have continued to IM with her on several occasions since your "anniversary" of your going NC and she has now pulled you back in to believing she is coming finally and creating all that great future faking....the most important person to be honest with is with yourself! She has done NOTHING toward her divorce and never will! Slippery slope...and so much for the NC working so great... Link to post Share on other sites
LoveTKO Posted April 26, 2012 Share Posted April 26, 2012 jJust reply with an email telling her you're gay and it was all a big lie.... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
spice4life Posted April 26, 2012 Share Posted April 26, 2012 Good for you Confused4now for staying NC and being strong enough to ignore her fishing attempts. It sounds like her and her husband are sick and like to play with peoples minds. Revel in the fact that you've cut her loose, changed your life for the better and didn't stoop to her (and his) level. Karma will bite them in the a** eventually. You can count on it. I wouldn't honor her response with a thing. Simply meet it with indifference and delete it with the attitude of "whatever"...lol. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Blue eyed baby RN Posted April 26, 2012 Share Posted April 26, 2012 problem is C4N did respond to IMs and is believing the future faking again, thinking she is coming again, even though nothing has changed from a year ago! She is messing with him again! Link to post Share on other sites
spice4life Posted April 26, 2012 Share Posted April 26, 2012 problem is C4N did respond to IMs and is believing the future faking again, thinking she is coming again, even though nothing has changed from a year ago! She is messing with him again! Excuse me if I missed something here, but are you privy to information that the rest of us aren't? I read through this entire thread and no where does it say he responded. He ignored her attempt. Venting about it here doesn't mean he is sucked back in to the whole "future faking" thing. Link to post Share on other sites
East7 Posted April 26, 2012 Share Posted April 26, 2012 problem is C4N did respond to IMs and is believing the future faking again, thinking she is coming again, even though nothing has changed from a year ago! She is messing with him again! Are you C4N xMW ??? How do you know so many details ? Link to post Share on other sites
spice4life Posted April 26, 2012 Share Posted April 26, 2012 Are you C4N xMW ??? How do you know so many details ? That's precisely what I was wondering myself. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Blue eyed baby RN Posted April 27, 2012 Share Posted April 27, 2012 No I'm not his xMW but I've been a close friend of C4N since I was 15 and he was 18. You people have been his support system since 2008, and 2 key components to successful change is recruiting a strong support system and arranging your world for success. I'm hoping you can rally around him because it's very telling that the day after his birthday he popped on here to proudly tell how his xMW hand popped up but he had successfully ignored her! However hasn't come on to tell how for the past over a month he has communicated with her on almost a daily basis, did respond, has gotten caught up again in her lies and future faking. I'm hoping that since you've been his support system before he will seek out that support again. And btw he asked me to join and post to this site a couple years ago, so I'm not doing something behind his back. Link to post Share on other sites
alexandria35 Posted April 27, 2012 Share Posted April 27, 2012 No I'm not his xMW but I've been a close friend of C4N since I was 15 and he was 18. You people have been his support system since 2008, and 2 key components to successful change is recruiting a strong support system and arranging your world for success. I'm hoping you can rally around him because it's very telling that the day after his birthday he popped on here to proudly tell how his xMW hand popped up but he had successfully ignored her! However hasn't come on to tell how for the past over a month he has communicated with her on almost a daily basis, did respond, has gotten caught up again in her lies and future faking. I'm hoping that since you've been his support system before he will seek out that support again. And btw he asked me to join and post to this site a couple years ago, so I'm not doing something behind his back. Oh wow. That's an interesting twist. Hopefully C4N will come back and let us know what's going on. Link to post Share on other sites
spice4life Posted April 27, 2012 Share Posted April 27, 2012 Wow, thanks for clarifying. Your posts were confusing at first, but now I completely understand. Link to post Share on other sites
Bellechica Posted April 27, 2012 Share Posted April 27, 2012 C4N, get back on here. Your MW isn't leaving her H......she hasn't has she? Hmmmm Link to post Share on other sites
LoveTKO Posted April 27, 2012 Share Posted April 27, 2012 No I'm not his xMW but I've been a close friend of C4N since I was 15 and he was 18. You people have been his support system since 2008, and 2 key components to successful change is recruiting a strong support system and arranging your world for success. I'm hoping you can rally around him because it's very telling that the day after his birthday he popped on here to proudly tell how his xMW hand popped up but he had successfully ignored her! However hasn't come on to tell how for the past over a month he has communicated with her on almost a daily basis, did respond, has gotten caught up again in her lies and future faking. I'm hoping that since you've been his support system before he will seek out that support again. And btw he asked me to join and post to this site a couple years ago, so I'm not doing something behind his back. Wow...you've got all the dirt! Any updates on whether Justin Bieber will marry Selena Gomez? Link to post Share on other sites
Gentlegirl2 Posted April 27, 2012 Share Posted April 27, 2012 Are you CFN's keeper. I wonder why you felt the need to come on here and let everybody know ? I will interested to hear from himself. GG Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confused4Now Posted April 30, 2012 Author Share Posted April 30, 2012 No I'm not his xMW but I've been a close friend of C4N since I was 15 and he was 18. You people have been his support system since 2008, and 2 key components to successful change is recruiting a strong support system and arranging your world for success. I'm hoping you can rally around him because it's very telling that the day after his birthday he popped on here to proudly tell how his xMW hand popped up but he had successfully ignored her! However hasn't come on to tell how for the past over a month he has communicated with her on almost a daily basis, did respond, has gotten caught up again in her lies and future faking. I'm hoping that since you've been his support system before he will seek out that support again. And btw he asked me to join and post to this site a couple years ago, so I'm not doing something behind his back. I've been thinking how I was going to respond to this update...Let me start by saying on the 1 year anniversary to the day. xMW reached out to me regarding a work review issue. Being a ex-manager in a big corporation xMW wanted some input in her upcoming yearly review. I gave her some input through email and IM chats. I didn't talk to her on the phone nor did I meet her. It stayed business mostly the first few days. Then she started with the whole I'm going to leave him and I'm getting stronger routine. She will always love me but it is her journey an she hope at the end of her marriage we could try again. I said nothing. She volunteered most of what happen in the last year however to me it sounded like the same exact thing. Nothing changed. RN knows I've been on this forum for some time and she's a very good friend. I have some very close friends who are fearful of what could happen if xMW stepped into my life. I will make clear that even though she did the whole future faking and stuff I didn't believe it. Once we got past the business side of it....there really wasn't anything else to say. The good thing is I didn't spiral, have anxiety or even tripped. Maybe I'm at a point of indifference. In a way I wanted to see if I was over her. So we are back to NC....cause I told her I'm pretty good with my boundaries. I also know her reaching out is her not respecting my NC. I guess what I saw was even though she said she's changed...I didn't see it. OH well.... Link to post Share on other sites
BigLiam Posted May 2, 2012 Share Posted May 2, 2012 I'd steer clear of contact.In fact, you might consider avoiding romantic realtionships with married men or women altogether, if you have not already done so. Link to post Share on other sites
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