nick d Posted March 8, 2012 Share Posted March 8, 2012 Just kind of curious what helps other people get through their day when they are hurting or sad from a break up? For me, going to the gym or watching movies at home alone seems to calm me the most. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Seq37 Posted March 8, 2012 Share Posted March 8, 2012 Sleep. Hate waking up to remember the hell though. Too much sleep is bad as well. I'd say watching a tv show you really enjoy.. one that takes you away from the bad for a while. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nick d Posted March 8, 2012 Author Share Posted March 8, 2012 I have found that I sleep alot more now than I use to.. I guess it just hides me from the reality for a while :/ Link to post Share on other sites
Melrapuo Posted March 8, 2012 Share Posted March 8, 2012 Exercising is the best thing to do. Releases endorphins and makes you feel great afterwards. Taking up new hobbies (drawing, reading, collecting stuff, etc) is a great way to keep your mind off things too. O and if u havent already, rearrange furniture in your house. Its a great way to trick your mind into not reminding itself of paste memories.from within the house. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Scorpio Posted March 9, 2012 Share Posted March 9, 2012 Reading. Movies never worked for me because it was too easy for my mind to wander. With books my mind was more engaged. Granted, most of them were books about coping, which wasn't necessarily a distraction. Still, it helped me get through the day. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nick d Posted March 9, 2012 Author Share Posted March 9, 2012 Reading. Movies never worked for me because it was too easy for my mind to wander. With books my mind was more engaged. Granted, most of them were books about coping, which wasn't necessarily a distraction. Still, it helped me get through the day. Any coping/relationship books you would recommend? I've been looking for a good one to read. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Scorpio Posted March 9, 2012 Share Posted March 9, 2012 Any coping/relationship books you would recommend? I've been looking for a good one to read. 1) "Obsessive Love" by Susan Forward 2) "Plato Not Prozac!" 3) "The Art of Happiness" Link to post Share on other sites
Author nick d Posted March 9, 2012 Author Share Posted March 9, 2012 1) "Obsessive Love" by Susan Forward 2) "Plato Not Prozac!" 3) "The Art of Happiness" Thank you Mr Scorpio. I'll be sure to give one of those a try. Link to post Share on other sites
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 9, 2012 Share Posted March 9, 2012 Just kind of curious what helps other people get through their day when they are hurting or sad from a break up? For me, going to the gym or watching movies at home alone seems to calm me the most. Definitely the gym!! I go 6 days a week for 2 hours and it has saved me in a huge way. Health and bod are much better and the spirit is getting there. I watch happy and funny movies, sometimes adventure, I listen to non love songs, LOL!! Lots of jazz, zen, classical. I play a lot of Scrabble, too:) Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted March 9, 2012 Share Posted March 9, 2012 Any coping/relationship books you would recommend? I've been looking for a good one to read. Those books might be well written, but I think they can also keep you dwelling on it. The best thing you can do is step up the self-care. Excercise, sleep, eat right, clean up the house, and spend your free time doing things that make you feel in control. Play sports. Stay away from the XBox. Hang out with friends. Go see your mom. Avoid hang overs. Talk to women just to be friendly. Do NOT put all the blame for what happened on yourself. Expect to do those while feeling hollow and in pain. But do them anyway. If I had been smart and strong enough to do those things, I'd probably have a better life now. Easier said than done. Live and learn. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 9, 2012 Share Posted March 9, 2012 Those books might be well written, but I think they can also keep you dwelling on it. The best thing you can do is step up the self-care. Excercise, sleep, eat right, clean up the house, and spend your free time doing things that make you feel in control. Play sports. Stay away from the XBox. Hang out with friends. Go see your mom. Avoid hang overs. Talk to women just to be friendly. Do NOT put all the blame for what happened on yourself. Expect to do those while feeling hollow and in pain. But do them anyway. If I had been smart and strong enough to do those things, I'd probably have a better life now. Easier said than done. Live and learn. Paint a room a different color:) Regarding books, I always delve into a juicy biography--Rick Springfield's will be my next one. Coping books will keep you dwelling. I agree with Johan. Nature walks are great, too. Breathe in fresh air; it is good for the healing soul. Link to post Share on other sites
ThatDudeXO Posted March 10, 2012 Share Posted March 10, 2012 Flirt. See what your options are for who you want to be your next victim of love. Remind yourself that you are one sexy motherf...er and your ex is missing out on what you have to offer! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TaintedHeart Posted March 10, 2012 Share Posted March 10, 2012 Any coping/relationship books you would recommend? I've been looking for a good one to read. I can mend your broken heart by Paul Mckenna. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 10, 2012 Share Posted March 10, 2012 Flirt. See what your options are for who you want to be your next victim of love. Remind yourself that you are one sexy motherf...er and your ex is missing out on what you have to offer! Absolutely good and fun advice:) Link to post Share on other sites
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 10, 2012 Share Posted March 10, 2012 I can mend your broken heart by Paul Mckenna. ...Is this Paul McKenna cute;)?j/k Link to post Share on other sites
TheUnthoughtKnown Posted March 10, 2012 Share Posted March 10, 2012 Music and walking. Don't really like exercise much so gym was out and cliched anyway. I went walks that lasted 3 odd hours sometimes and took me out of the city. I always had music, I was updating my iPod every day with new music. The band I got into the most was Mumford & Sons, who had not long released their debut album at this point. Still to this day I think of her when I hear them - in fact they played tonight in New York on The Secret Policemen's Ball, which is exactly why I took to the boards tonight. Funny how music can evoke an almost Pavlovian response in a person. However that's why I recommend music. It's like a sponge - it takes all your memories and hurt and anger and soaks in it. When all my friends got bored of hearing me moan about my break up, music was like having a friend who never got bored, who always wanted to listen. And who'd take 3 hour walks out of the city with me so he could do it. Link to post Share on other sites
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