confused192 Posted March 9, 2012 Share Posted March 9, 2012 So what do you do if you've found the man that you know, with everything you have, is right for you...but he is with another woman? He's amazing. End of story. And I think he may also be interested in me on some level but, as he's in a relationship (he's had a girlfriend for a year and half and they moved in together right before we met), it is hard for me to gauge how he feels. I feel like the case is hopeless, although I know relationships come and go. I just can't seem to let go of the fact that this amazing person will likely slip through my fingers! Any thoughts? Anyone been in this situation? Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted March 9, 2012 Share Posted March 9, 2012 You're a pretty girl. Find somebody whose not taken. Link to post Share on other sites
tornangel Posted March 9, 2012 Share Posted March 9, 2012 He belongs to someone else. U are way to pretty to be 2nd place. U cant live ur life in someones shadow. And how is he so perfect if he isnt faithful? sorry , just a question. Cheaters always have a reason. He doesnt seem healthy to me. And I think u should take care of u and get what u deserve Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted March 12, 2012 Share Posted March 12, 2012 I just can't seem to let go of the fact that this amazing person will likely slip through my fingers! He can't slip through your fingers because you haven't got him. She does. Link to post Share on other sites
Eclypse Posted March 12, 2012 Share Posted March 12, 2012 People often spend years waiting for that perfect person to be available. Before they realise it 10 years have gone by and they haven't achieved anything with their own lives. As I'm sure you know it is a lot different having a crush on someone, to actually being in a relationship with them. I implore you to actively seek other (available) men. You may find your soulmate among them. You could meet him tomorrow. If this guy and his girlfriend break up in the future, and you happen to still be single, then by all means pursue him! Just don't go around trying to steal him from his girlfriend please. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Fitz Posted March 12, 2012 Share Posted March 12, 2012 Many women get caught up on forbidden fruit. The fact that a woman has already staked a claim on him, makes the "forbidden fruit" all the more alluring and desirable. Don't fall into the mind game. Link to post Share on other sites
Crazy4what Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 go for it his not married yet:) If him and you have mutual feelings. Sometimes guys are just scared to leave the other women since their already comfortable with. Link to post Share on other sites
goldengirl11 Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 (edited) From my point of view, I think presence plays an important part. If you are seeing him around things may happen naturally. Whether in my situation (which am trying to move on from) I don't see this person around so I know it is very unlikely anything will happen, unless he breaks up with the girl and he gets in touch. It would appear that isn't the case for you though so good luck! Also for me I was already involved with the man/old colleague I'm talking about, so it felt (perhaps not surprisingly) hurtful he started dating someone else at the same time, even though we hadn't discussed exclusivity yet, when we had only started getting intimate. I also hadn't seen him for a month which blame myself for mainly, which made it easier for him to move on I guess. I admit that I still hope we will cross paths again one day though and unfortunately think he probably knows this, hence I get the feeling he has moved on/taken me for granted whilst I have occasionally tried to keep in touch. Although now back to NC again! Unless he tries to contact me though. Sorry if I went a bit off topic there! Edited March 24, 2012 by goldengirl11 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 Stop feeding his ego and move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea, cast your net. Link to post Share on other sites
goldengirl11 Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 Stop feeding his ego and move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea, cast your net. That's a good way to put it! Link to post Share on other sites
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