BETTERFLIRT Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 ahhh... thanks for clarifying. It's MY fault that he reached out and touched my arm. I get it now. Could I ignore it as being true that this is the result of your unhappy face that he reacts that way? I would not be honest with you. Even you confest it like this when saying " we said hi, we didn't talk at length which is really odd for us which made me think that he didn't like me and it was just in my head and then when we briefly spoke I said I was nervous about something and he reached out and rubbed my arm just under my elbow." A boy can think and guess what is hapening according to a girl's behavior. Maybe this is a form of saying "Sorry" for not paying too much attention to you, now I will act being more concerned, is not it? Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 I DO think there are women (and men) in the world that create an aura of "feel sorry for me" energy so that people pay attention to them - maybe this guy was responding to your energy you were presenting that day? It happens a lot... Men love to "rescue"! But they have to constantly be on the search for someone who presents that situation where they feel needed and powerful. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Stillgrowing Posted March 20, 2012 Author Share Posted March 20, 2012 (edited) I do agree that there are men and women that put off that aura, I've never been one of them. In fact, people always err on the side that I don't need rescuing, lol. I get a lot of comments on how I'm always collected, mellow, in control, my friends joke that half the time I don't seem like I have a pulse. Even when my Dad was sick and dying, and subsequently died, even though I have a large amount of support and friends, no one made me meals or anything like that, a few people commented that it seemed like I had it all together and assumed I would ask them if I needed anything. No one ever wants to rescue me. and when I said I was nervous to the guy I was laughing because it was a silly thing to be nervous about and I was kind of making fun of myself for it. It wasn't in a "poor me, I think you need me to rub my arm" it was more of an, "I'm a jacka$$ and can't believe I'm actually nervous and a little sick to my stomach over this". There probably is something to the putting off a vibe thing tho. I very well could have been putting off a vibe of "let's not get too friendly" when I wasn't near him. I'm one of those people that isn't super approachable looking when you first meet me and then people realize I'm friendly when they get to know me. He knows me pretty well so knows I'm friendly but must put off something if all the people I've ended up close to have said they thought I was a bi$ch when they first met me. Maybe I had that vibe going on that day. Edited March 20, 2012 by Stillgrowing Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 He touches your elbow after you say you're worried about something (a soothing gesture) and he does so in front of his family members and yours, and you think this means he likes you? Are you serious? You're attracted to him so you're actively looking for signs that he feels the same way. But from the sounds of it, all it was was an elbow touch. I have two male friends who just last week patted my back, used one hand to squeeze my shoulder (in a "calm down, it's okay" way), and touched my arm in other ways to make emphasis on what they were saying - and they did this all with their wives standing next to them. Link to post Share on other sites
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