Author TurningTables Posted March 9, 2012 Author Share Posted March 9, 2012 That's not what I asked. I'll ask it a different way. I didn't imply that you should change your cell. Why is xMM not blocked from your cell phone? EVERY cell phone and/or carrier has blocking capability either at a nominal cost or free. Yes you did ask me. You asked me how is he texting my cell? That could be taken a couple different ways as in: why havent you changed your number? or why havent you blocked him? You know, I dont mind being asked questions and people on here making me think. Heck, these wonderful fOW and BS are the ones who helped me make that decision to end things and kept cheering me on. I do, however, mind when someone speaks to me like Im stupid. I will answer you question though. I looked everywhere on my cell and there is not a blocking capability. I also did call my carrier a ways back, but its like $10 a month. I cannot afford it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author TurningTables Posted March 10, 2012 Author Share Posted March 10, 2012 Really? An investigation to change an email address? I don't buy that. You don't need to go into detail with them and name names. You would tell them it's a personal and private matter. It's an email address for a university, not the Department of Defense for Christ's sake. It's the IT department, not the police department. Don't buy it at all. Alice, I have been as honest as I can stating my situation. Please stop posting on my thread. Thanks. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
alexandria35 Posted March 10, 2012 Share Posted March 10, 2012 Really? An investigation to change an email address? I don't buy that. You don't need to go into detail with them and name names. You would tell them it's a personal and private matter. It's an email address for a university, not the Department of Defense for Christ's sake. It's the IT department, not the police department. Don't buy it at all. Alice I'm not sure if you're being reasonable here. At my place of employment our email addresses are assigned to us. They don't take changing these addresses lightly and yes I would be expected to provide a damn good reason for wanting my address changed. If I told them it was for a personal and private matter they would not look favorably upon that as it's a work email address NOT a personal private address. I would be very reluctant to bring this up to my employer and would only do so if I truly felt like I was being stalked or threatened. I don't work for the Department of Defense either, but I can't just call I the IT department and order up a new email address. Things of this nature go through our security dept and like I said, they don't take it lightly. I don't think TT did anything wrong. She had told this MM before that if he contacted her she would let his wife know. This is something I have seen many posters here advise OW to do when the MM won't stop pestering her. TT was correct to follow through on her words and let MM know she means what she says. She isn't the OW anymore, she has expressed remorse and regret and now she is doing the right thing. I think she deserves some credit for that. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
18Years2Late Posted March 10, 2012 Share Posted March 10, 2012 Alice, I have been as honest as I can stating my situation. Please stop posting on my thread. Thanks. Amen TT...let me know if this works for u... Link to post Share on other sites
wannabdone Posted March 10, 2012 Share Posted March 10, 2012 Oh TT.... You are a great person, don't feel bad. This wasn't your fault. You did the right thing for you, and its unfortunate she is married to such a scum. Hugs to you girl. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Lostinlife4now Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 Really? An investigation to change an email address? I don't buy that. You don't need to go into detail with them and name names. You would tell them it's a personal and private matter. It's an email address for a university, not the Department of Defense for Christ's sake. It's the IT department, not the police department. Don't buy it at all. Alice...when I was in college, I had an e-mail address assigned to me, this is very true..And I was so glad to be there and learning, I would have NOT dared or explained why I would want a new e-mail address. Personal and private matters should not be brought into a school e-mail address. Must agree with TT!!!! And I have not blocked any numbers on my phone or anywhere else for that matter so as to not have xMM contact me. I just don't answer and delete any information he may have sent to me. Simple as that!!! Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 Hey TT, I can definitely understand your remorse, but as most have already said, it's not your fault that she married a scum. He would still be a scum if she didn't know. You're not the one making this up...it's the truth....and what happens henceforth is on them. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted March 12, 2012 Share Posted March 12, 2012 At the time of the EA, I was separated and since then D. My M has been over for a very very long long time. If you were seperated and then soon divorced, then calling it an affair, on your end anyway, makes it sound like you are still married. And if the last statement is an attempt at justifying if you were engaging in an affair, its a load of bunk. People who are still married try to say their marriage was over long before it was ACTUALLY over as an excuse for what they did. However I digress, you said you were separated and soon divorced when it started. So the last statement doesn't apply to you. Just a note for the people engaging in affairs that try to use that excuse. And I dont understand your last statement? What do you mean by me not saying a word about him or what Im doing to him? By calling it an affair it tells me that you are still married. Which you clarified that you are not, which again, you shouldn't call it an affair, on your end anyway. The "him" to whom I was referring was the husband I thought you still had. Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted March 12, 2012 Share Posted March 12, 2012 Sorry..wouldnt let me edit but I wanted to add that Yes, I did have an EA. I am not like some OW who go around blaming the MM because he is the one whose M. Its just as much my fault as it his. Its good that you have the wits about you to admit that. Too many OM/OW think they have no responsibility to be decent to someone else. Its the whole, do unto others thing. But again, you did say that this started as you were getting ready to divorce your H, so perhaps it wasn't really an affair on your part, but not a good thing regardless because the OM was married. Link to post Share on other sites
Author TurningTables Posted March 12, 2012 Author Share Posted March 12, 2012 Hi. I wanted to thank everyone who posted to me. I really hope that I can put this whole ordeal behind me now and move on without looking over my shoulder. One day at a time... Link to post Share on other sites
Author TurningTables Posted March 12, 2012 Author Share Posted March 12, 2012 Its good that you have the wits about you to admit that. Too many OM/OW think they have no responsibility to be decent to someone else. Its the whole, do unto others thing. But again, you did say that this started as you were getting ready to divorce your H, so perhaps it wasn't really an affair on your part, but not a good thing regardless because the OM was married. Hi nofool4u. I had been separated for over a year when this EA happen. I was in the middle of D. I was lonely, afraid and xMM just happen to be there. I do often wonder if it could have been anybody at that time. Link to post Share on other sites
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