lovelybrownbeauty Posted March 10, 2012 Share Posted March 10, 2012 Ok, so ive been with my boyfriend for 4years going on 5 years we have a 2 year old daughter and things arent and havent been going so good.....we fight and argue everyday, im not working temporarily and he doesnt appreciate the things i do for him, every night he has dinner made a clean house a bath waiting for when he gets off and all he can do is complain!!!... ive been trying to keep him happy but have been ignoring my happiness. I feel as though we are only together at this point for our child. not to mention we havent had sex in 3 months . so i got tired of it and explained to him the way i am feeling and things need to change....this has been going on for 2 years now and everytime i try to sit with him and talk to him and i feel as though it goes in for a minute and comes right out. He continues to do the same things causing us to break up. granted he isnt the only person in the relationship that does things bc im sure i upset him too. long story short, everytime we break up i find comfort in someone else but always end up missing him... ive never cheated on him ive only slept with other guys when we broke up which to me isnt cheating bc we arent together...he have gone and found new women to on those breaks. 2 weeks ago i got fed up again tired of the neglect, not feeling appreciated, his family hates me im sure its bc im black and they are these hardcore italians...they make me completely uncomfortable when im there and he says nothing....he doesnt tell me im beautiful anymore, and when asked about children in the future his response was even more hurtful.....so after all of this i cheated with an ex and had such a heavy guilty heart from that i confessed and told the truth.... i feel as though that made everything worse....i feel as though i shouldnt have told him but my conscience was eating away at me....i dont know what to do....i feel even more hurt now that i told him bc all the reasons why i did that are 10x worse:( i truly love him but weve lost what we had when we first got together...we are never on the same page and its killing me to see 4years go to nothing bc we couldnt see eye to eye and i made one mistake.....I really need advice im lost and have done nothing but cry all day....im depressed and stressed and really need brutally honest feedback....what should i do to make this work? should i even try at this point? :( Link to post Share on other sites
darkmoon Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 (edited) nothing will be okay til you are both calm then talk do not contradict him even if he's wrong thus he has no reason to walk off (in a huff) and i do mean calm a daughter needs a dad but stay calm and don't pressure him just apologize one mistake you said as if the "one" makes it matter less be careful not to insist on the "it was just one" you were wrong is how he will see it so say sorry dress nice don't forget to smile even at strangers it generates smiles given back which i think you could use xx < here's just one for starters Edited March 11, 2012 by darkmoon Link to post Share on other sites
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