packersgirl Posted June 9, 2004 Share Posted June 9, 2004 Ok folks, I'm just looking for different stories and different opinions here. Now, sorry to all you single people (I'm single too, so don't feel too bad here...) but this question is directed more towards married/engaged/long term relationship people. When did you know that the person you were dating was "the one"? How did they make you feel before you started dating them? I hope to hear some good stories!!! Link to post Share on other sites
mendingmyheart04 Posted June 9, 2004 Share Posted June 9, 2004 I'm single and honestly believed I had found "the one". We broke up. I'm serious though and I realize it's for the best, but as far as EVERY thing I ever wanted in a man this guy had it. My lesson here is that obviously he wasn't my dream guy. Funny I was just wondering about this same thing. How many of us think we've met "the one" and even go on to get married and then the illusion is gone and we get divorced. I think the only way of knowing if someone is "the one" is when you're still married in your 80's. Link to post Share on other sites
sportsloving Posted June 9, 2004 Share Posted June 9, 2004 I asked one of my golfing buddies how he met his wife. Said that his best friend set him up on a blind date. When they were saying goodnight, he told her that she was the one he was going to marry. They have now been married 50 years (in August). Link to post Share on other sites
timber Posted June 9, 2004 Share Posted June 9, 2004 From what I have heard from some of my friends who are married they always say "When you know...you know" I think it could also go the other way though- "When you DON'T know...then you know" Link to post Share on other sites
Author packersgirl Posted June 10, 2004 Author Share Posted June 10, 2004 I asked both my grandma and my aunt... both have had very successful marriages, they both said that it hit them out of the blue but they just knew, my aunt said she heard a voice in her mind, and she hated my uncle then! I'm not expecting to hear an audible voice, but I think I'll know when the time is right for me to know. Link to post Share on other sites
estakado Posted June 10, 2004 Share Posted June 10, 2004 You know that they are the one when you can think of no one else and when faced with a challenge or advance from another all you do is think of your "one" and it sets you straight. You know that they are the one when they have seen you from your very worst till your very best and they are still the one for you....and yes I still miss her.....DAMMIT! Link to post Share on other sites
PoodleGirl Posted June 10, 2004 Share Posted June 10, 2004 I don't like the idea that there is only "one" true "soulmate" out there for all of us. We all change throughout our lives so much that someone I might have fallen in love with 5 years ago would be completely wrong for me 10 years down the track. Why limit yourself? Enjoy and learn from all the relationships you have. I thought I had found 'the one' in my ex, then met my current partner and am equally happy in this relationship. I won't think that when if it ends, there is no one left - there are plenty! Link to post Share on other sites
Thinkalot Posted June 10, 2004 Share Posted June 10, 2004 I'm engaged. We met nearly 3 years ago. There were sparks flying straight away, chemistry, connection, and lots of caring. He was so different to other men I had dated. I was ready to meet someone (meaning I'd been single and happy for a while), and within a few weeks I felt I loved him. We just clicked so easily, as if we had known each other for ages. Within a couple of months I felt sure he was the one for me. I began imagining our wedding day! (never done that before). He felt he'd finally found the true love of his life too. Now, all this is love and infatuation and lust, and romance... After a while, we had some pretty big challenges, but I still kept thinking I would end up marrying him. There were times I wondered why I still clung to the idea...maybe I was scared to let go...who knows. He felt sure...then went through a few moments where he wondered if maybe it wasn't meant to be after all, because we hit some pretty bad rough spots. But everytime we nearly broke up...we just couldn't walk away from each other. The underlying bond was too strong. So we stayed and worked through many issues and our love grew even stronger and more real. We still have some issues and we can be volatile. But, we feel 'in love', happy and committed to each other. We know we are meant to be together, and that we are challenging each other, and enriching each other's life. I have no doubts about my decision to marry this man. It is right and wonderful. I don't think it will be easy. We aren't the most placid couple! But it will be full of love and teamwork and passion, and emotion, and hard times...and lots of good times. Link to post Share on other sites
swtbonita Posted June 10, 2004 Share Posted June 10, 2004 You know a person is the one because you don't have any doubts that the two of you together will be able to get through both the good times and difficult times. My bf and I have been together for 2 1/2 years and we have also have a few bumps on the road and never once did we think we were not meant to be together. We are both better people together then if we were apart. We work well together and realize that we both need to put in the effort to make it work. I don't have any doubt that he is the one for me. When you find that one person: you will be able to express your deepest feeling you will communicate well you will understand each other without words you will look at each other and feel safe you will have this unbelieveable sense of comfort you will cherish every moment you are with them you will do everything you can to make that person happy you will make decisions based on them you will think about them every moment of the day you will just know The only thing i don't understand is why people try to make people fit their ideal person, when they are clearly not. I know couples that have been together for 2 - 3 years and are constantly fighting about a new stupid topic every week... How can this be "the one" for them? Link to post Share on other sites
Author packersgirl Posted June 11, 2004 Author Share Posted June 11, 2004 Swtbonita ... good insight! One of my best friends is dating this girl. She and he fight about everything, have different views on important subjects, and just don't fit well. But, since he is so eager to get married, he has been trying to make everything work and trying to make her into his ideal girl for over a year. It will be a sad day if they ever get married... I know she's not for him. Link to post Share on other sites
YellowLioness Posted June 21, 2004 Share Posted June 21, 2004 I couldn't resist this one, as my boyfriend and I met purely through fate, but I don't really want to bore anyone with that cheese that only Wil and I would find, and do find, miraculous... At first, he really got on my nerves, to be honest. But, after the first time we got one-on one-time, I knew he was the one. He feels the same way, naturally. He's my best friend, literally, he's the best friend I've ever had. He's a wonderful lover, he's handsome and smart, and he would do anything for me. For example, he moved his whole life around, left his friends, just so that we could live together. We were long distance for 8 months, and he was in college, and I'm older, so I paid for everything (hey, gas is expensive! ;-)) so that we could see eachother. I woudln't have done that for any other man on this planet. We fight alot (we're both aries, BORN ON THE SAME DAY) but we never talk about breaking up, or wanting to see other people. We see ourselves as a unit and conduct our lives around eachother. It's great! I don't want to ramble about my relationship, but the feelings I described are what you should feel if you're with the "ONE." I used to think that I'd never find anyone, that I didn't have a soul mate and would have to wonder the world by myself. Now, I know that's not true. Cam Link to post Share on other sites
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