suggestions?

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I just got left by common law partner in a very brutal way.

He told me, or well yelled at me that I was the biggest issue in his life, his biggest problem -all with profanity and belittlement. This was also done in front of third parties on 'his side'.

3 weeks ago, he called my parents asking for my hand in marriage, as he was going to 'surprise' me to go look at rings.

 

There is obviously a lot more to our story. I am by no means implying I was perfect, however I feel like a fool, because I was on a road to 'betterment', I believed in him...and because progress was not as quick as he would've liked, I got booted. Not to mention we are both under tremendous amounts of stress at this point in our lives. I made sure to communicate this to him, he failed to communicate this to me (I found out from a friend).

 

Also, we have a 10 month old daughter and he is intent on keeping relations with her.

 

Right now, I am hurt and disappointed with the entire situation. More so I hurt and feel really guilty, because I grew up in a 2 parent household as did he, now my daughter will be raised by separated parents from the get go. My parents are still together, his dad up and left his mom/entire family after 30 years and moved countries.

 

Our relationship was definitely salvageable, it was by no means close to an end. We shared mutual feelings/dreams for the future etc. I feel as if without trying, he threw in the towel without even thinking about it.

 

Any advice/suggestions on if I should cut my losses and move on, if I should 'wait' around, I'm not sure...

 

Currently I am in another city away from him, living by my parents. I felt lonely and unsafe in the apartment we shared above the restaurant he owns.

Cops were involved for precaution, with our last altercation, not for charges, simply for precaution.

We are in our mid-20s

I am a full time student at university, and was commuting an hour to and from school every week, with our daughter who I would drop off and pick up from my side of the family.

His mother lives 10 minutes away in the same city as where we lived together and is really of no help. She is too busy living the single life. (Now she shows she is there for him to help 'fight' me [she has a very weird relationship with him, like she is scared of losing him, its very uncomfy], she was one of the 3rd parties involved in the last altercation)

He runs a restaurant, works 13 hour days, 5-6 days a week.

He helped out around the house and with meals, I did majority of laundry/tidying, my side of the family helped a lot with food/meals.

(3 bedroom apartment, myself, him, my daughter, 1 really big dog, 1 small dog -massive shedders which drove me nuts -fur everywhere!) The 2nd bedroom of the apartment was the restaurants 'office'. The 3rd bedroom was 'storage'. The apartment had a door in the middle of the hallway dividing it for privacy however people were up and down all the time. Kitchen not much room, simply a stovetop, a fridge a microwave. Basically very small living quarters for a 3 person/2 dog 'family' -without much privacy.

 

...if any other information is needed to help better grasp the situation do let me know and I will provide.

 

Thank you