DonBeso12 Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 relax sunny, the poor girl has been through enough. her head is probably spinning over this guy as it is. The reality is, no matter what we say, this is something she is going to have to realize on her own. While my post may seem to overly polite, there is a method to the madness. im confident that this girl will find her way, with your advice, and with mine. were on the same team here. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 relax sunny, the poor girl has been through enough. her head is probably spinning over this guy as it is. The reality is, no matter what we say, this is something she is going to have to realize on her own. While my post may seem to overly polite, there is a method to the madness. im confident that this girl will find her way, with your advice, and with mine. were on the same team here. Read man. She isn't planning on seeing him this weekend. He ignored seeing her like a dirty dish towel. You may want to actually look at what info someone is typing before responding. The guy isn't making any effort for her. She needs to understand how to have a healthy boundary that doesn't beg a man to be with her when he clearly shows he doesn't want to be. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nadineinlove Posted March 11, 2012 Author Share Posted March 11, 2012 What you're failing to see is that you made the effort. He wasn't making enough effort at all. You initially WENT TO HIM for the weekend. Why? Why not make HIM make the effort to come to YOU? Then you waited - next weekend - nothing - next weekend - nothing. He's simply not making effort! Yet you continued pushing. And I bet you were willing to go to him again? Make a man make the effort for YOU! YOU are worth it! The RIGHT man will go to any length to see you - he isn't the right guy! I went to him, because he lives alone I don't.. I have a car he doesn't.. I'm working, hes at school. And i continued pushing because A: I thought he had genuine reasons to not be able to see me, and B: I didn't want to walk away from this knowing I hadn't made an effort. (and i also had bought him a gift for his birthday and was really excited about giving it to him!) I just got way ahead of myself cos we were finally giving things another go.... Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 Ok - so now that you know - next time make the man make effort for YOU - to see YOU - and you wait and let him chase a bit. See how that goes... Link to post Share on other sites
Author nadineinlove Posted March 12, 2012 Author Share Posted March 12, 2012 Ok - so now that you know - next time make the man make effort for YOU - to see YOU - and you wait and let him chase a bit. See how that goes... Can I not do that with the guy this topic is about? Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedOne4 Posted March 12, 2012 Share Posted March 12, 2012 I think you can try. But honestly with the way he seems to be acting, part of me thinks it's hopeless with trying that with him. I say take time to heal and let your prince charming come to you and make the effort. A joke I made with some friends, with my situation, is that my prince charming is lost on the highway and desperately need to buy a GPS to come and find me already. So, this guy may not be the right one for you and you should try mending your heart and waiting for your prince charming to find you. Hopefully he doesn't need a GPS like my prince charming seems to be desperately needing... Link to post Share on other sites
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