sid3 Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 Is that just a myth created by men as an excuse not to approach women. I know people will say extremely attractive women will get hit on non stop, yet there has been much written on their often being alone because people are intimidated by their looks. Without trying to generalize too much, I'm wondering about the average/attractive types.
starla33 Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 yes most of us do, but that doesn't mean it's by guys we want to be hit on...and especially online dating.
ditzchic Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 Objectively, I would say I'm the upper side of average but average nonetheless looking and no, I don't get "hit on" all the time. I get approached a lot when out in bars or social situations but not blatantly and obviously hit on. I would say someone trying to "pick me up" happens maybe 1/3rd of the time. And when I really without a doubt get hit on it's usually by someone I 'm not interested in. Go ahead and say hi to her. You have nothing to lose.
eleanorhurting Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 yes. I think I am probably on the upper side of average too and I get hit on all the time. By people who systemically hit on women who are pretty,friendly and approachable who will take you as well as everyone else they are hitting on on a date and will filter you out by the 2nd or 3rd date if you show clear signs of not putting out or something I guess they do not like or consider a deal breaker. Its a little tiring but at least I have gotten lots of free dinners Getting hit on is overrated. Anyone can do it. Show me someone who is actually interested in getting to know me despite the fact that I am not perfect and will respect me and then I will be amused.
DonBeso12 Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 As a guy with a lot of girl friends its easy to see heads turn as one of them passes by a group of guys. (the girls that i am friends with are easily within the 7-10 range ) IN order to answer this question, identify "hit on" if being hit on means being approached in a bar, or walking around town then yes these girls i am friends with are hit on almost daily. Consider also the area they live in, we all live in NYC where there are a lot of confident and strong willed people strutting around the streets. A girl on the average side may be hit on every now and again by a guy who they feel is at their level of approachability. With that said: Never hesitate to go and talk to a girl who catches your eye, even if you aren't the best looking guy around. Girls love confidence, gusto, and someone they feel has the potential to sweep them away with more than just visual appearances. Keep in mind that confidence does not mean arrogance. find that balance, and use it to your advantage. Don't be intimidated, and find a level of satisfaction when they agree to see you again, she's probably turned some other guy away minutes ago.
jobaba Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 Is that just a myth created by men as an excuse not to approach women. I know people will say extremely attractive women will get hit on non stop, yet there has been much written on their often being alone because people are intimidated by their looks. Without trying to generalize too much, I'm wondering about the average/attractive types. My advice to you as a fellow dude... Thinking about these kinds of things and equity and 'fair shake' in the dating game is going to make you bitter and miserable. So don't...
daphne Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 I tend to get hit on a lot. It's one of the few guiltless pleasures of being single. I will say that it's rare that a guy I'm interested in will hit on me, however. Therein lies the rub. :/ 3
spiderowl Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 I'm not extremely attractive and would consider myself average, but when I was in my teens and twenties I did get hit on a lot. I got quite paranoid about it, in fact, avoiding catching any guy's eye while out in public. It didn't work, strangers still approached. I don't know what other womens' experience was but I did find friends of mind didn't get the same treatment though some did. One girl was stunningly beautiful and she got hit on all the time. These are the scenarios that happened to me on quite a regular basis: - in the street, guys would whistle, call, sometimes from cars, or approach and try to chat - on trains, a guy would appear and sit next to me and then start chatting, or sit opposite me, or follow me to the buffet car and start chatting. A soldier sat next to me and started chatting and then leaned over and put his arm round me and kissed me! -on buses, guys chatting again, and at bus stops -in shops, guys appeared from nowhere and followed me. In case you think this was just paranoia and not real, they approached me in the shops and sometimes outside. One guy spoke to me in a shop, then I 'bumped into him' on the local market. Later, he followed me home and stopped me in an isolated place to talk about his attraction. It was damned scary! - swimming pool - guys would leer and comment - cafes - guys would come and sit at the same table and then try to strike up a conversation. I'd be reading and ignoring them but still. - at dances, they'd appear out of nowhere wanting to dance - in bars, etc. Frankly, I found it scary, but looking back, these guys were trying to make contact and some were very pleasant and decent about it, but they scared me because it was out of the blue.
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 I am average to slightly above and I get chatted up frequently by guys. I am not sure if that's the same as hit on. Some guys seem after just a friendly chat. It's usually by guys that I don't find attractive at all or sleazy ones that hit on everyone that moves. 1
reptilelover88 Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 I do wonder if there is a cultural thing going on here. I presume most of the women who have replied so far are in the States. Here in the UK it seems much less common to be hit on by strangers (apart from builders and guys in white vans, of course...). I would say I'm above average/quite attractive - probably 6 or 7 out of 10 - yet it is extremely rare for me to be hit on by random guys. It's slightly more common in bars and nightclubs, but even there it is rare for me to be hit on. Most of my friends here find the same thing so I don't think it's just me! When I go to places like central America and north Africa I get hit on non-stop. I find it extremely frustrating and really quite depressing at times. I wish men would approach me more often.
Teal Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 (edited) At least mostly myth. I'm average and generally just get friendly approaches. Even if I go into gaming communities where girls are supposedly placed on pedestals and drooled over (truth is, only attention whores or those who act coy are) I can't say that happens any more than occasionally. Highly attractive women and those who aim to get noticed, possibly. Edited March 11, 2012 by Teal 1
eleanorhurting Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 I am average to slightly above and I get chatted up frequently by guys. I am not sure if that's the same as hit on. Some guys seem after just a friendly chat. It's usually by guys that I don't find attractive at all or sleazy ones that hit on everyone that moves. you are so pretty!
JesseJames Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 ...yet there has been much written about hot women being alone because they aren't often approached?!? Who is writing this crap? Isn't that their problem? There are a million ways to get a guy--it's the easiest thing on the planet to do. Just waiting around for one to come along is about the same technique of how a hobo gets change in her cup. Seriously, if she's still in high school mode, planted in her booster chair, waiting for some pimpled alcoholic to come ask her to the dance and impress mommy, then to Mexico with her. But to stay on topic.... of course they draw a ton of attention. It's like night and day between princess and Pekingese these days. You know how fast they age, you know their lifestyles... looks have never been more important YA MUCK-LUCK.
Author sid3 Posted March 11, 2012 Author Posted March 11, 2012 Go ahead and say hi to her. You have nothing to lose. That's adorable
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 FYI I live in Australia. When I was in the States, men were more forward. When I was in Italy, it was OMFG. Total sleaze-fest. When I was in the UK, I was chatted up a lot less. I kind of like more reserved nature of the British
Imajerk17 Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 I'm Italian-American. I hit on women all the time. Guess you can take the boy out of Italy but you can't take Italy out of the boy. 1
tigressA Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 I get hit on at least once every time I go outside if I'm alone or with a female friend. I'm considered 'pretty' so apparently it's to be expected. I almost always have to approach guys I find attractive, however.
reallyhotguy Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 Definitely. These days it seems like I can't go for a quick stop at the corner store without getting hit on at least once.
kaylan Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 I think Im going to go against the man grain here. Im glad that Im a male and that women rarely overtly hit on us. Whenever they have, even if the girl has been attractive, I kinda felt uncomfortable. I like things on my terms, so I like flirting, but I dont like being hit on. When I think of someone being hit on I think of a situation where someone is being kind of too obvious in trying to get your interest in them. Kinda like one person is a lion and the other is a gazelle. I like regular ole playful flirting banter. Did I make sense with all this? 2
Author sid3 Posted March 11, 2012 Author Posted March 11, 2012 I think Im going to go against the man grain here. Im glad that Im a male and that women rarely overtly hit on us. Whenever they have, even if the girl has been attractive, I kinda felt uncomfortable. I like things on my terms, so I like flirting, but I dont like being hit on. When I think of someone being hit on I think of a situation where someone is being kind of too obvious in trying to get your interest in them. Kinda like one person is a lion and the other is a gazelle. I like regular ole playful flirting banter. Did I make sense with all this? Exactly. Made perfect sense.
Anela Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 It's just a myth, but then I'm not a perfect ten, so I can't speak for anyone in that category.
sweetjasmine Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 I'm average to a little above average and I don't get hit very often out in public, mostly because I come off as unapproachable (on purpose) since I hate being approached by strangers aside from "how do I get to X?"/"do you know where Y is?"/"[standard inane small chat comment not meant to spark an extended conversation]". Men do look (and sometimes stare) at me, but they don't approach. I used to get hit on fairly often in social situations (around acquaintances, friends of friends I didn't really know, etc.), but these days, I have a ring on my left hand, so it's just friendly conversation. 1
PlumPrincess Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 My theories: Most women don't get hit on that much unless they have given some positive signals before, like eye contact. Guys approaching you out of nowhere is kind of rare (unless you broaden the definition of "hit on" and include things like guys initiating a conversation with you at a party or whatever). The younger women get hit on more, because the younger guys are also more daring and it's still some kind of game (whistling for example, that's something that younger people do, not the older guys). I don't know how it is for the superattractive women, because they might get hit on a lot. My other guess is, those women who get hit on a lot without giving out any positive signals, have some very prominent body features that attract the guys. Either very big breasts or a significantly interesting butt.
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