ljc8267 Posted June 9, 2004 Share Posted June 9, 2004 I need advice. I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year now and we have been living together for about half of that time. I love him very much and have told him so. He has not told me and has stated that he will not tell me to make me "comfortable". I take this statement to mean that he does not return the same feelings. Am I wrong in my thinking? I am considering ending this relationship and would appreciate any thoughts. Link to post Share on other sites
faux Posted June 9, 2004 Share Posted June 9, 2004 Ask him exactly why he will not say those words, and ask him exactly what he means by what he said to you. The only way you can find out is by directly asking him. Relationships are supposed to be based on honesty and openness, so you should have no trouble talking to him about this. Once you get your answer, do what you feel is best. The only person who can provide you with the information you need to make a decision is this man. Link to post Share on other sites
sushigirl Posted June 9, 2004 Share Posted June 9, 2004 I don't think you should jump to any conclusions until you ask him. Maybe you shouldn't ask him right off whether he loves you or not, but try asking him what his definition of love is. Some people have very different perspectives on that word. I know that my bf thinks that it is a very strong word. One that he would only use if he thought we were ready for marriage. You may have very strong feelings for him right now, and you think that it is love, but according to him, that may not be it. Differing in the definition of the word doesn't mean that he doesn't return the same strong feelings for you. Link to post Share on other sites
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