TheVSilent Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 My story is old, like May of 2011 old. Check my previous old threads to read the story of how things went down. Now last night, she texted me, something I thought would NEVER happen ever again, and after last night I know it will never ever happen again. I don't know if some people are holding out hope, or what, but after 10 months, all the hope you have just turns into bad memories and you try to just move on. I moved to Austin TX from North Carolina thinking this would change everything, so far it has been a very slow change but I can see the light. Onto the conversation.....so basically when I moved, which has only been about a month, I decided to call her phone, It had been since the break up that I really tried to contact her, and of course she didn't answer. The wounds were reopend when I tried that, and I started to think about her a lot, just wondering how she was doing. Well last night she text me saying she didn't have much to say, and if I wanted to talk this was it, say what I needed to say. I just asked her about her life, she asked me about mine, she said I don't ever want you to treat someone you care about like you did me again, then she said "You will get there eventually, somehow I made it, I'm pretty sure you will too". Then I told her it has been rough, and all that sob stuff, and then she said I don't ever want to talk again after this, I just want to move forward, I told her I understood, and that I hope life takes her where she wants to be. That was it. 10 months, I got some sort of "closure". It isn't the best feeling in the world, but it helps some, just knowing that she took the time to finally conversate with me like a human being again. I will no longer try and contact her, I know where our hearts lay, and mine is still broken and hers is healed up, it is just going to take me a lot longer to adjust compared to her. I don't care what anybody says, not even her, 5 years with someone, 10 months is just not enough time for me to just forget. It was a joy to know she was ok, and the fact she said I don't hate you, I just don't like you anymore, it cuts like a knife but then again at least she doesn't wish death upon me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author TheVSilent Posted March 13, 2012 Author Share Posted March 13, 2012 After letting this sit a couple of days, why did she even contact me? Like what was the point if she was like ok well I still never want to talk to you? I think it would have been better for her to just keep the damn wall up, instead she chose to tease me after almost a year, then even tell me she doesn't care about me anymore. DUH! You've been gone for 10 months! I'm just confused. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mollyanna Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 I was confused by that as well. Was she just bored or lonely at the moment and started thinking of you? maybe she was feeling a bit of guilt for how she treated you? Maybe she is going through something similar now and it made her realize she owed you something? Link to post Share on other sites
Author TheVSilent Posted March 13, 2012 Author Share Posted March 13, 2012 I was confused by that as well. Was she just bored or lonely at the moment and started thinking of you? maybe she was feeling a bit of guilt for how she treated you? Maybe she is going through something similar now and it made her realize she owed you something? The reason why the relationship ended was my fault. When it did end I was in shock. I tried contacting her like crazy. Took a break, worked on me and my problems, before I moved to ATX I called her, but she never answered. Maybe she just wanted to respond for some reason? It was a completely normal nice conversation, up until the last sentance where it was like this isn't a regular thing, we can't talk anymore after this. That is what has me confused, it is like why even contact me, act interested in things then just pull away once again. I'm not asking her to take me back, obviously we live far away from each other now, but at least end on speaking terms, none of this well guess what, we aren't ever talking again. Link to post Share on other sites
radiodarcy Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 After letting this sit a couple of days, why did she even contact me? Like what was the point if she was like ok well I still never want to talk to you? I think it would have been better for her to just keep the damn wall up, instead she chose to tease me after almost a year, then even tell me she doesn't care about me anymore. DUH! You've been gone for 10 months! I'm just confused. ugh! hate it when dumpers do that! my ex contacted me after close to 8 months of NC to tell me his new gf is pregnant with his kid. talk about a wtf moment! luckily i had healed enough where it didn't throw me for too big of a loop. but still - - it messed with my mind for more than a few days. i really do think it's a morbid sense of curiosity for many of them that compels them to reach out. i've dated guys whom i have no interest in reconciling with whatsoever but i do think about them from time to time and wonder how they're doing. that being said - - i would never do so directly. having been on the other side i know how it feels. so the most i might try to do is sneak a peek at their facebook but that's about it.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author TheVSilent Posted March 13, 2012 Author Share Posted March 13, 2012 I don't know if she just did it to end on a better note since it didn't end good or if she just felt sorry for me because I was reaching out to her or what. But my thing is, if you're gonna contact somebody, and mind you it was at like 2am, and make a mends, then why throw the whole "But this can never happen again" in there? I would have much rathered her contiune having that wall up than tease me for a hour and joke with me then swooooooosh away again. Link to post Share on other sites
Mollyanna Posted March 14, 2012 Share Posted March 14, 2012 maybe she was on a self esteem low and was trying to get you to boost it a little and beg for her back?? Link to post Share on other sites
Limbo21 Posted March 15, 2012 Share Posted March 15, 2012 maybe she was on a self esteem low and was trying to get you to boost it a little and beg for her back?? ^ this Plus ten Link to post Share on other sites
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