warrenorabbits Posted March 12, 2012 Share Posted March 12, 2012 (edited) There's a girl that I added on Facebook two years ago. When I first met her she was taken, and then over time I lost interest in her from not seeing her. However, my interest has now been ... rekindled. She's extremely cute and has a sense of humour that I like. Is it fine to ask someone on a date on Facebook? I have no classes with her and no other natural way of initiating a conversation. Edited March 12, 2012 by warrenorabbits add detail Link to post Share on other sites
theories_galore Posted March 12, 2012 Share Posted March 12, 2012 I wouldn't flat out ask her right away. Get in touch with her about something else first. Find a common interest and msg her saying "I saw this the other day..." or something to that effect. If she replies and is receptive, then after a couple of msgs back and forth, ask her to do something that she's interested in Link to post Share on other sites
insertnamehere Posted March 12, 2012 Share Posted March 12, 2012 I'd go with a straight approach. "I thought you were cute and now that you're available I want to take you out sometime." If you feel the relationship requires some hedging, I'd lean toward offering a lunch date, since lunch comes with fewer implications. You don't know her. And one of the best functions of a date is getting to know someone. Link to post Share on other sites
FrustratedStandards Posted March 12, 2012 Share Posted March 12, 2012 I find that really weird. I have been asked out on facebook by random guys, and I immediately put them in the "loser" category. First of all, I've never even met the guy so what the hell is he doing asking out strangers? And second, the fact that he even resorts to asking out through facebook means he's a desperate loser who has no chance in real life (and 100% of the time they are really unnattractive). If you have met her, then that's a different story. You can drop a line saying "It was nice seeing you that time, we should catch up again over coffee!" If you haven't, then I would suggest against it. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted March 12, 2012 Share Posted March 12, 2012 This is exactly how I re-met the woman I'm currently dating. We met on a cruise over two years ago. She was in a relationship at the time, so neither of us thought anything of it. We became friends on FB...didn't communicate for two years...then when I moved across the country, I sent her a quick FB message saying I was going through her city and asked if she wanted to meet up...of course I was secretly hoping that I could crash on her couch and not have to pay for a hotel room... Well, I ended up paying for a hotel room for the both of us... When you first met her, how well did you get to know her? If it was just some girl you met once at a party and never saw again, then I wouldn't bother trying to ask her out over FB...there isn't enough rapport there...but if you were actually friends with her back then, it wouldn't be so awkward... But two years is a very long time...what rekindled your interest, anyway...? Link to post Share on other sites
UBFeelinMe Posted March 12, 2012 Share Posted March 12, 2012 I find that really weird. I have been asked out on facebook by random guys, and I immediately put them in the "loser" category. First of all, I've never even met the guy so what the hell is he doing asking out strangers? And second, the fact that he even resorts to asking out through facebook means he's a desperate loser who has no chance in real life (and 100% of the time they are really unnattractive). If you have met her, then that's a different story. You can drop a line saying "It was nice seeing you that time, we should catch up again over coffee!" If you haven't, then I would suggest against it. Who are you to judge or call anyone a loser? Have a bit of humility and feel flattered that someone found you attractive enough to ask you out online. I can understand if they are being threatening or can't take a hint, but otherwise what the hell they did they ever to do you to be labeled a "loser"? Link to post Share on other sites
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