Obliviousmind Posted June 9, 2004 Share Posted June 9, 2004 I've been dating this guy for almost 3 years and he's always told me that he doesnt talk to anyone at school i think it wus because I told him not to cuz i sound like some control freak. Well.. He told me he didnt. I came to his house after 6 months and he told me that he talks to ppl even girls. Now Im scared that maybe he wus cheating on me but he isnt or wutever. Because I know cuz he talks to me everyday on the phone. So i dont really know whats wrong with me, I guess im afraid that he might dump me. But all the same I talk to other people too, and I dont think that its wrong of me to do it because I know that I dont cheat or flirt with other people. Like in his school he knows everyone and his school is small so they know everyone even girls something that i cant stand a boyfriend to do. Maybe there is something wrong with me. Like I dont care if we watch a movie with all girls on it.. because I know he wont go up to the tv and kiss them.. or say I want them. Also what bothers me he says oh I dont like girls I dont look at them and then wen we go up to them or sumthing he stares at them wen i dont notice even tho i do notice, then it makes me feel bad like he likes them an not me. What is wrong with me, and how can i let this not bother me, well sure i know that some day u will need to talk to people cuz thats how life is, or am i just a really jealous person. Link to post Share on other sites
Debster Posted June 9, 2004 Share Posted June 9, 2004 Judging by your post, YES you are a really jealous person. I'm surprised your boyfriend has put up with it. You need to start working on your self esteem and realize that you do not have the right to ask your partner not to talk to people, even girls. Link to post Share on other sites
pretty_petal Posted June 12, 2004 Share Posted June 12, 2004 i agree with debster... i am a jealous person also... but you really to need to lighten up... if he didn't want to be with you you wouldn't have been together so long... he would have ended ages ago. he obviously cares for you. My boyfriend speaks to girls, has female friends, talks with ex's and female friends from a previous school. At first i was a bit alarmed but we talked about it and now i'm fine. Talk to him... it worked for me, but be prepared for him to show that he resents you for not allowing him to do his own thing. Link to post Share on other sites
mintjulep Posted August 1, 2004 Share Posted August 1, 2004 Jealousy like that usually occurs when you both are really young and you don't understand that schoolmates are just that - they're harmless, just like the girls in movies that you know he isn't going to kiss. You sound very young and somewhat immature. I'm really surprised that he hasn't broken up with you since you've displayed such horrible jealousy and control issues. I'm also a very jealous person, but I don't think that my boyfriend should stop associating with people, just because they're female. Try to curb the jealousy and keep it at a minimum...say, if you actually have evidence of something you should be jealous of - not just because you think he's talking to girls. Link to post Share on other sites
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