health Posted June 9, 2004 Share Posted June 9, 2004 How can I convice my girlfriend hat education is important? At least high school. She screwed up two years...mostly because of absenteeism...not attending etc. She is my perfect girl, except I want her to be educated! I can see little mistakes she does, and other people do just by not completing school. It rounds you well. In this time without high school you can't do much,Im telling her to picture herself working at her low paid job for life etc.....Completing high school says alot about discipline, commitment...how can I know she will be commited to me if she cant commit to anything else? Although I know she is crazy about me and loves me....could I let this slide? Like school isnt for everyone? I don't know. Link to post Share on other sites
Debster Posted June 9, 2004 Share Posted June 9, 2004 While you can encourage someone to take school more seriously, you can't convince someone that education is important and to become scholastic. Sounds like you need to either accept her as is, or decide that you've grown apart. Link to post Share on other sites
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Iamhappy Posted June 9, 2004 Share Posted June 9, 2004 Why all the doubts? You're worried about the friend who might move in on your gf; you're worried that maybe she wasn't a virgin; you're worried that she's not educated. Again, why all the doubts? Is there something else going on? Although I know she is crazy about me and loves me....could I let this slide? I have a problem w/ the phrase "Could I let this slide." Um, you're not her lord and master or her father for that matter. I'm assuming she's 18 or older. If so, that makes her an adult. She is entitled to autonomy over her own life. We can't convince people to change. That desire must come from w/in, not external influences. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyrannaste Posted June 9, 2004 Share Posted June 9, 2004 I agree with Debster. Moreover, Completing high school says alot about discipline, commitment...how can I know she will be commited to me if she cant commit to anything else? completing high school or not is not related to how people will behave in their relationships. Link to post Share on other sites
Author health Posted June 9, 2004 Author Share Posted June 9, 2004 You guys are right. What is with all my doubts? I do worry alot...I want to learn more on how I can stop this....is it a trust issue? I'll relax...sorry about that comment, your right, I don't have authority over anyone like that. Link to post Share on other sites
guest Posted June 9, 2004 Share Posted June 9, 2004 Do whatever you can to encourage her and get her in school. Why did she miss so much? That sepaks volumes about the type of person she is. Mentor her. Study with her. Encourage her. Tell her to do it for YOU if she won't do it for herself. Get family and church and friends involved to help her. I am not saying the people who do not graduate are in any way less intelligent or less-anything that graduates, but it is soooo important to get that piece of paper. Not only for financial gains in the future, but for self-esteem. As she gets older and finds herself working for people younger than her, and sees her friends and compadres making advances in their work and personal lives because more doors are open to them then to her, her self-esteem will probably suffer. Even if you break up someday, you will know that you helped someone with their life and their future. If you stay together you will have more respect for each other. Link to post Share on other sites
Author health Posted June 10, 2004 Author Share Posted June 10, 2004 Thank you so much for that quest! Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted June 10, 2004 Share Posted June 10, 2004 A lot of people who drop out of school do so because they have struggled with undiagnosed learning disorders. Has she ever been sent for any sort of assessment? It is hellaciously difficult to try to perform well in school with one of these disorders and no wonder people give up. If she has problems with reading, math, language, or attention, suggest to her she get tested before encouraging her to go to school. You'll be doing her a great favour. Link to post Share on other sites
Author health Posted June 10, 2004 Author Share Posted June 10, 2004 Your right! Alot of people give up on learning because they don't know how to learn! If they did, imagine the power! Your right! Link to post Share on other sites
shamen Posted June 10, 2004 Share Posted June 10, 2004 I agree with guest. A lot of good points are made in that post. It is statistically true that people who have more education make more money, generally speaking. I've got the numbers out in my car based on education level if you need them to encourage her to finish and get her GED... Let me know. Incidentally, your is a possessive adjective, as in your hat, and you're is the contraction for you are, which is what you were trying to say: you are right (you're right). Sorry about being the grammar pain in the butt, college completer. Link to post Share on other sites
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