Art_Critic Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 He was granted permanent alimony & I was court ordered to obtain a life insurance policy on myself naming him as beneficiary should I die before he does. The alimony only ends if he remarries. Then you have my permission to be bitter and angry.. not that you needed my permission for anything, it is just a phrase... I have always felt that permanent alimony is wrong unless there is a disability and or special needs.... and my divorce happened quite a while ago.. maybe 11 years or so.. today I'm happily married with a cute little 4 year old.. I normally try not to bring up my past marriage here as I post here with my wife in the room... So... All I can say is that I hope you find a way to get past it.. it will tear you down.... Link to post Share on other sites
maybealone Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 He was granted permanent alimony & I was court ordered to obtain a life insurance policy on myself naming him as beneficiary should I die before he does. The alimony only ends if he remarries. Well, if you ever decide to remarry, just make sure to reside in a state without such crazy allowances. Link to post Share on other sites
soserious1 Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 Then you have my permission to be bitter and angry.. not that you needed my permission for anything but it is just phrase... I have always felt that permanent alimony is wrong unless there is a disability and or special needs.... and my divorce happened quite a while ago.. maybe 11 years or so.. today I'm happily married with a cute little 4 year old.. I normally try not to bring up my past marriage here as I post here with my wife in the room... So... All I can say is that I hope you find a way to get past it.. it will tear you down.... LOL, Oh he's played the disability card quite nicely, a "bad back" that makes it impossible for him to do anything outside of making the rounds of every quack in the city to get opiate RX's, drink, prowl Craigs list for women & have his annoying attorney think up new ways to try to extract more money from me. I could live with just having to pay the alimony, if only the freaking bull dog of a lawyer would just disappear from the face of the earth. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 You have my permission, too. Up until now, you were technically in violation, but we can let that go for now. Link to post Share on other sites
Black Jack Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 Not all women! I think I already mentioned somewhere on this thread that it never even crossed my mind to ask my husband to be put on the deed of the apartment building he owned before we got married. He did make a will leaving it to me if anything had happened to him, but I never asked for anything. And he did put about 1/3 of the profits when he sold it into the down payment on the house we bought together, but I have no idea what he did with the other 2/3. And that whole "withholding sex" thing has always been a head-scratcher for me. That punishes me, why on earth would I do that?? You're right not all women, but most of them. Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 You're right not all women, but most of them. Would a guy who's never had a date know anything about women? Link to post Share on other sites
Black Jack Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 Would a guy who's never had a date know anything about women? And this is coming from a woman who deludes herself on a daily basis that she's getting married to her "boyfriend.":lmao: You gonna marry yourself?LOL Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 Brilliant. It's like when you have to teach a kid about how it's only funny the first time. Then again, what else can one expect from a simple mind? It's so amusing, though, watching an unarmed "man" in a verbal sparring match. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Black Jack Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 It's like when you have to teach a kid about how it's only funny the first time. Then again, what else can one expect from a simple mind? It's so amusing, though, watching an unarmed "man" in a verbal sparring match. Please this match was over before it even started. Stop your feminist screeching. It's interrupting my beauty sleep. Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 Please this match was over before it even started. Stop your feminist screeching. It's interrupting my beauty sleep. That better be one loooong ass nap. Link to post Share on other sites
Black Jack Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 That better be one loooong ass nap. Oh you bet it will be a long one, especially since I had a hard time putting my boy to sleep. Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 You're right not all women, but most of them. Here is the thing, you had a bad experience with a cheating skank that left you and took assets with her. You, like alot of other guys, will sit there and say you got "cleaned out". Sorry, unless you are just plain dumb, or had the worst attorney in the world, the laws are set so nobody can get "cleaned out". You are just being all dramatic in your fight to keep wives from getting half of marital assets (and do note I'm not talking about separate property) So which of the following is it? You were just plain dumb during the divorce? You had a lousy attorney? Or you are lying and being over dramatic? Take your pick, it has to be one of the above. Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 lying and being over dramatic ........................ Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 DM, I take it you vote for that one Link to post Share on other sites
Black Jack Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 Here is the thing, you had a bad experience with a cheating skank that left you and took assets with her. You, like alot of other guys, will sit there and say you got "cleaned out". Sorry, unless you are just plain dumb, or had the worst attorney in the world, the laws are set so nobody can get "cleaned out". You are just being all dramatic in your fight to keep wives from getting half of marital assets (and do note I'm not talking about separate property) So which of the following is it? You were just plain dumb during the divorce? You had a lousy attorney? Or you are lying and being over dramatic? Take your pick, it has to be one of the above. What an idiot. I never said I, MYSELF got cleaned out. I said she tried to, and failed. Next time read before spouting off at the mouth, old man. And for the record the laws ARE set against men. You yourself don't even get to see your kids that much. Every other weekend dad, right? So enough with putting women on such a high pedestal, when you know damn well they won't even return the favor. Ugh. Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 DM, I take it you vote for that one Well, just going by the levels of veracity and intelligence displayed in posting history.... Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 Really BJ.. you don't need to be calling another poster who you are in a discussion with an "idiot".. that was uncalled for and makes all of your posts be taken with the same grain of salt that an insult like that is taken. Link to post Share on other sites
frozensprouts Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 I was dling our tax returns today ( fun, fun ,FUN!...actually, I enjoy doing them- don't ask me why...I guess I enjoy seeing if I can balance them out and be accurate- yes, I'm such a nerd:laugh: ) but there has been a lot of talk on here about alimony/spousal support payments... I have a question... here, it seems it is possible for the spouse paying spousal support and child support to claim them as line item deductions ( non refundable tax credits)on their tax forms, which mean they would, in essence, get at least some of the funds back ( the same is true for medical expenses not covered by the provincial health plan for your child)... is this the same in the US as it is here? Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 What an idiot. I never said I, MYSELF got cleaned out. Ugh. No kidding. I bet you've had very few dealings with real, live women in your life. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 What an idiot. I never said I, MYSELF got cleaned out. I said she tried to, and failed. You are correct, you did say she failed, but she can't clean you out. So of course she is going to fail. So yes, that is what you said. I can admit when I read wrong, you won't do the same so spare us the "next time read" thing if you aren't going to take your own advice. And I can let it go, but do be careful of your name calling, or you won't be here long. And for the record the laws ARE set against men. You yourself don't even get to see your kids that much. Every other weekend dad, right? Yup, and it is what it is. But we aren't talking about custody here. We are talking about marital assets. The law is 50/50 unless there was some other agreement(prenup) drawn up. So she could have attempted to "clean you out", but again, of course it failed. So enough with putting women on such a high pedestal, when you know damn well they won't even return the favor. No pedestal at all. But I'm no misogynist as you are coming of as. I'm highly pissed about how men will be forced to be the every other weekend dads, and have to let the unscrupulous mothers have custody if they so want it. But nothing I can do about it, and it is what it is. All I can do is be the best father I can be, and when they turn 18, her gravy train is over. Again, however, this isn't about custody, its about marital assets, and the law does protect men AND women alike so that one spouse cannot get more than half the marital assets. Only way they can get more than half is if one spouse allows it. Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 Really BJ.. you don't need to be calling another poster who you are in a discussion with an "idiot".. that was uncalled for and makes all of your posts be taken with the same grain of salt that an insult like that is taken. Art … honestly, don't you think all the posts were taken with a huge overdose of salt even before the "idiot" comment? Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 is this the same in the US as it is here? Yes.. as far as I know it..and as long as the alimony isn't a lump sum alimony payment. Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 No kidding. I bet you've had very few dealings with real, live women in your life. Or he has dealt with one big time tramp, and now all of a sudden the rest of you are sh*t to him 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Black Jack Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 Really BJ.. you don't need to be calling another poster who you are in a discussion with an "idiot".. that was uncalled for and makes all of your posts be taken with the same grain of salt that an insult like that is taken. Right even though half the people on this thread have been trading insults with each other. Link to post Share on other sites
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