Pippabest Posted March 12, 2012 Share Posted March 12, 2012 Hi, this is the irst thread I have ever done, and I hate to put this kind of thing over the Internet but I really do need help. Me and my boyfriend have been together for three years, I am still quite young and he is my only sexual partner. I had an abortion about a year ago but that made no difference to my sex life even though I didn't nesecarily want to o through with it, as I believe abortion is murder and I wanted to put the baby up for adoption! Anyway.. About five months ago, a switch just went off in my head, I just was no longer sexually attracted to my boyfriend?! Now my man, first love, his gorgeous, smart funny and just perfect. I can't even kiss him without feeling disgusting! This s pulling apart our relationship. Yes, I love him more than anything, but it feels like I'm a filthy whore!? I need help!( Link to post Share on other sites
Untouchable_Fire Posted March 12, 2012 Share Posted March 12, 2012 Hi, this is the irst thread I have ever done, and I hate to put this kind of thing over the Internet but I really do need help. Me and my boyfriend have been together for three years, I am still quite young and he is my only sexual partner. I had an abortion about a year ago but that made no difference to my sex life even though I didn't nesecarily want to o through with it, as I believe abortion is murder and I wanted to put the baby up for adoption! Anyway.. Why did you do it? About five months ago, a switch just went off in my head, I just was no longer sexually attracted to my boyfriend?! Now my man, first love, his gorgeous, smart funny and just perfect. I can't even kiss him without feeling disgusting! This s pulling apart our relationship. Yes, I love him more than anything, but it feels like I'm a filthy whore!? I need help!( Anything you can think of that may have caused this change? Link to post Share on other sites
RonChalant Posted March 12, 2012 Share Posted March 12, 2012 Its a phase...especially seeing as he's the only person you've been with. You have 2 choices: A. break up with him due to GIGS, which you will later regret because most other guys are just going to want to have sex with you and want nothing more; you'll run back, he may not take you back. B. you can fight through it...your most likely just bored. go get a vibrator and have him buzz the crap out of your clit...buy some outfits...have sex in the dressing room as macys. give him some road head...watch a porno and act it out. fight through it because in every rela...you'll reach a point where you dont want to have sex with the other person and vice versa...what are you going to leave everytime that happens. how old are you... Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted March 12, 2012 Share Posted March 12, 2012 Hi, this is the irst thread I have ever done, and I hate to put this kind of thing over the Internet but I really do need help. Me and my boyfriend have been together for three years, I am still quite young and he is my only sexual partner. I had an abortion about a year ago but that made no difference to my sex life even though I didn't nesecarily want to o through with it, as I believe abortion is murder and I wanted to put the baby up for adoption! Anyway.. About five months ago, a switch just went off in my head, I just was no longer sexually attracted to my boyfriend?! Now my man, first love, his gorgeous, smart funny and just perfect. I can't even kiss him without feeling disgusting! This s pulling apart our relationship. Yes, I love him more than anything, but it feels like I'm a filthy whore!? I need help!( Are you losing all interest in sex, or just in sex with HIM? Losing attraction is one thing - can happen due to boredom, letting things get a little stale in the relationship, or resentments building about other issues in the relationship, certain selfish behaviors (on bf's part) in bed that are turning you off, lack of hygiene...a lot of reasons why you could be losing attraction to him. However, that last part where you say that you love him but feel like a filthy whore? That is confusing to me. Why would you feel like a whore? Did you cheat on him? Is he asking you to do things sexually that make you feel degraded? What happened 5 months ago? What changed in your life? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Pippabest Posted March 13, 2012 Author Share Posted March 13, 2012 Losing attraction with just him really. I may be bored.. His racsist, i hate racism, he loves attention from most girls, but his not cheated either. No I've never cheated. I had the abortion because I was too young, too poor to have a baby. There is nothing I can think of, at all.. I just feel dirty when he touches me. I just need to be told what to do now, its been running through my mind 24/7. Link to post Share on other sites
ComMan Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 If he is racist, than he is not perfect....also...you knew that before you almost had a baby with him...so whatever....maybe you are a dirty whore....or been one in past life, so you got punished with this ******* of a boyfriend...now you committed murder....i bet you will be reborn as a female dog next time... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Pippabest Posted March 13, 2012 Author Share Posted March 13, 2012 Actually my big headed friend, we wore protection, **** happened, as you can tell I didn't want the abortion!. Obviously I regret it, after it happened I went on the pill and took every caution possible . I've had sex with one person. Link to post Share on other sites
joystickd Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 just end it with him. its better for both of you that way Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 Racism aint attractive. Id dump a girl in a flat second in she made a bigoted comment about ANY group of people. Im down for equality for all peoples and want a girl who feels the same way. No hate, no matter what you skin color, ethnicity, nationality, religion, sex, or sexual orientation is. Link to post Share on other sites
nick d Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 I'll be honest with you... I understand you love this guy and he is your first true love. But if you don't leave him now, you will just leave him later.. You really NEED to experience other guys/sexual partners before you can settle down with one.. Or else you are ALWAYS going to wonder about other guys. Please trust me on this, end it now (it's only fair to him too!) He will be heart broken and so will you. But this is something you need to do! I'm sorry :/ Link to post Share on other sites
Eddie Edirol Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 Actually my big headed friend, we wore protection, **** happened, as you can tell I didn't want the abortion!. Obviously I regret it, after it happened I went on the pill and took every caution possible . I've had sex with one person. Dont pay attention to the abortion stuff, its irrelevant to this problem of yours. You did the right thing then, youre not going to pay for it. Something he did turned you off, or maybe you just outgrew him. It happens. Maybe you matured more than he did. It might be the same feeling that people get when they wake up one day and discover that they have to get out of their parents house. What you could do is just pull back some, and see if if you can wait it out to see if anything will make you like him again. If not, you might have to move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Pippabest Posted March 13, 2012 Author Share Posted March 13, 2012 No I agree, everyone deserves to have the same amount of respect. Thank you so much, I do think I know what I'm going to do :/ it's going to be hard but I can hold us both back like this.. thank you x Link to post Share on other sites
DontWorryBHappy Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 Damn, the racism thing would be a deal breaker for me. But other than that, I'm not sure why you're suddenly disgusted by your boyfriend (if you already knew his flaws previously yet were previously attracted). Maybe the ship has sailed and you're feeling the effects. In any case, you can't go on being disgusted by your boyfriend - so if you're feeling totally done with him then end it. On the other hand, you could always try counseling if you feel so inclined. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Pippabest Posted March 25, 2012 Author Share Posted March 25, 2012 Me and him have ended on good terms, thank you Link to post Share on other sites
Ross MwcFan Posted March 25, 2012 Share Posted March 25, 2012 (edited) Sound like you might be suffering from the Madonna/Whore complex (that's not ment as an insult towards you). Edited March 25, 2012 by Ross MwcFan Link to post Share on other sites
Disenchantedly Yours Posted March 25, 2012 Share Posted March 25, 2012 I think this is a psycological issue and is because of the abortion. I never had one myself but I don't think people realize just how emotionally draining abortions are. I think you should go talk to someone about what is going on. If you love your boyfriend, then you want to stay with him. But since you can't stand him touching you, you need to really talk to a professional about this. This is really the only thing that is going to help you. Link to post Share on other sites
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