How can you tell if he is really in love or playing a game?

[Rita]

How can you tell if a man is in love with you? I've been deceived many times because I believed what was being said. I am so tired. How do I know a man loves me and not using me for something as it happened before? Any questions to ask, signs or actions to look for? Thanks.

[dudesomewhere]

well, you provide nothing of your situation but only ask a question with a broad answer...

 

What is he using you for? If a man loves you, or if anybody loves you, they use you for nothing. If I loved someone the only thing I want from them is to spend time with them. There could be no sex involved so that would eliminate any chance of using in any way.

 

Let's say we knew each other. We go out, hang out, go to the movies, park, beach and just generally hang out and talk and all I do is enjoy listening to you...give you feedback, etc. I do these things without ever forcing you to do anything, no coercion, no guilt trips...no nothing but enjoying time with you. That's when someone loves you...I think.

[xOxAshleyAnnxOx]

Well..I will put it this way.. when me and my boyfriend started going out i thought that he was using me and that he just wanted a girl friend and he just wanted a sex partner but i was soo wrong.. Muh boyfriend has done alot of things to hurt me..When we 1st started going out lik a week before that app. muh friend and him had been "talking" and i thought that he might lik her but i wasnt for sure but he proved to me and soo many pple that he didnt..well a week later he breaks up with me for her.. and about 3 days later we talked on the internet and he relized he had made a HUGE mistake and after so long i belived him and i took him bk..well through out the next month i didnt have much trust in him and we was that great of a couple then he was at his friend house and they went to that girls house.. i was so mad he had proved so much to me and it was all a lie i broke up with him and didnt talk to him for a while and after all that i wanted to hate him but i just couldnt..well after that we started talking again.. he was a totally diffrent person and he relized he had hurt me he started to prove he loved me...and i through he whole time i thought he was a big man whore and just wanted a piece but he proved to me he loved me b/c he knew i didnt think he did.. ok this point of this story is let the guy prove to you he loves you or likes you... dont try to make him like you.. if he likes you/loves you you will kno and everything will work out..Dont rush it and always listen to what he has to say and his feelings.. You will just kno if its right.. do with you gut feeling..

[morrigan]

Does he expect sex early in the relationship, or pressure you to have sex when you aren't willing or ready to? Does he only hang out with you when none of his friends are available? Does he continually make excuses for not showing up or change or cancel plans with you? Does he say that he isn't ready to get serious with anyone, has no plans ever to marry? Does he regularly flirt with other women, even when you are around? Does he ever show he feels like is superior to you, or in any way belittles your intelligence or appearance? Has he ever verbally or physically abused you?If so, he's not worth the trouble.

 

Or does he want to spend most of his free time with you, does he introduce you to his friends/family, does he enjoy being alone with you doing simple things? Does he listen to your thoughts on things, even when he doesn't always agree? Does he keep up friendships with other people, and figures you do the same? Do you enjoy being together wth him, but it's fine to hang out with your friends by yourself at times? Does he try to meet your family and friends and get along with them? He may be a pretty decent guy.