Im trapped!!!!

[BerryBum]

Ok, long story cut short my boyfriend of 4 years dumped me on valentines day and I tried everything to change his mind. We live together so I had the painful task of seeing him every day. We went on a break for 3 weeks and eventually got back together....for a day. I've discovered he's kissed countless girls throughout our 4 years, slept with someone during the 3 week break and who knows what else he's done! I see him jump in girls cars to stay at theirs for the night to give me time on my own (as we have to live together still!) and it absolutely crushes me every time I see him walk away. If I could I would leave today BUT I have to give a months notice at work AND relocate 3 hours away as I was only staying here for him (I know no one here). I cry every night because I just can't cope with the stress anymore. I've got work being *****! I've no money as I had to fork out for my car, I've had to hand in my notice at work so in a month I have no job, no place to live, nothing. I've been ill for the past week, have lost weight and am generally feeling run down.

 

It just hurts so much to see him everyday, the person I loved most and have sacrificed so much for would hurt me so badly, and continue to do so without seeming to care!!!! I can't stand it anymore. Brief thoughts have crossed my mind of just giving up altogether, not because of him, but everything! I've tried to be strong, tried to keep it together but my strength is running out. And I still have 3 weeks to go before I can leave!!!!!!!

 

He keeps asking if I want him back, Keeps playing me mentally and I'm going insane! And its not like I can leave or escape!!! I don't want to give in to him, I'm no longer his doormat!!!!! But I can't keep going on like this. I feel like I'm going to end up in hospital because of my health or something.

 

I need help. I need advice.

 

Please I'm desperate.

[Philosoraptor]

This is just a terrible situation. Do you have friends or family anywhere that would be willing to take you in for awhile? It's not the ideal path, but you can relocate there while looking for a job. But for your own mental health you really need to get out of this situation asap.

[BerryBum]

There isn't anywhere I can go. My family lives 3 hours away and closest friend is over an hour away. I'm so alone!! I keep telling myself to stay strong, that this will be over but it gets harder day after day.

 

I can't take it anymore.

[TaraMaiden]

There isn't anywhere I can go. My family lives 3 hours away and closest friend is over an hour away. I'm so alone!! I keep telling myself to stay strong, that this will be over but it gets harder day after day.

 

I can't take it anymore.

call your friend, pack any small stuff you need and get them to come and get you.

you need help - and one hour's travel should be nothing to someone you can count on.

If I had a friend like you, and she needed help, i would travel day and night to get her out of the mess you're in....

[CopingGal]

Geez, that is disgusting. So sorry. What would happened if you just left and didn't give a month's notice? If they want to penalize you, I suggest you get a doctor's note and speak to someone there about the stress you are under. With a doctor's note, I would think you would be okay. But find out. You can even get something in writing from them if they agree to let you go so this doesn't come back to bite you if they change their minds down the road.

 

I encourage you to examine your relationship when you are better. There had to be lots of signs regarding what a selfish bastard this person is. You need to learn so you don't end up in the same situation again. That is something I had to do as well.

 

Good luck.