Tatatha Posted March 14, 2012 Share Posted March 14, 2012 What to do about the triggers? I am working on acknowledging them and recognizing that some are good memories and I own them as well. Hell, I can't erase 20 years of my life. But the waves of pain from triggers which debilitate me are overwhelming. I run my own business. I can't function like this. When it feels like that piano landed on your chest, what can I do? I know there is no magic pill. I've tried remembering the not so good moments when he was a real ass and I loathed him at that moment. But in visualizing him my heart folds. Link to post Share on other sites
JesseJames Posted March 14, 2012 Share Posted March 14, 2012 When you're in doubt what to do, schmear those points. In other words, try not to be so natural and indicative of the self right now. Find a catalyst like skydiving or rock climbing or a new hobby. Or, join a Sheepshead group. You'll be yelled at so much you'll forget the last Thirty years. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tatatha Posted March 14, 2012 Author Share Posted March 14, 2012 Well I needed to google sheepshead group. Apparently my options are gaming, cards or actual sheepshead vet care. You are recommending a rigorous activity? Well I feel like I could run the beach tossing boulders along the way, so you my have a point. Thank you. ETA: natural and self indicative...you are telling me to not try to be in control of my emotions? Link to post Share on other sites
JesseJames Posted March 14, 2012 Share Posted March 14, 2012 Well I just went to Sheepshead.org and downloaded THE game. Then I downloaded runasdate to circumvent a trial period. I play blitz the red queens, jack of diamonds is partner, no leaster. There's yahoo but they are real pricks. I hang around the baby boomers' Sheepshead group which are long-time friends, and we get together every month and serve our special snacks. We lost a member to cancer just recently, and we just plod on. We even talk about politics and current events a little bit. It's a great set-up since it's what so many do in my area. The tables become alive and we all let loose. A cousin of mine, before he went to Afghan. at 19 a couple years ago, made his choice to try skydiving before he made his leap into the unknown of recon in a giant catbox. He was wise, because all that went in our relation are a little less worried about him now and I'm sure our support helped as well. Support groups of these types are great. Link to post Share on other sites
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