How to find a companion when...................

[tegteg]

I dont go out to bars/clubs. I dont really go out anywere to much. I am not a shy person, i just am the one that sits back and watchs everyone else (usually)... Well you get the point, i just dont have the chance to meet many women... (well that i like or are sigle) Casue i am i picky 4 one and 2 i am not usually around were women are.....

 

But anyone with ideas or suggestions on meeting new ppl in diff. ways that i dont know???

 

BTW i dont have a prob walking up to someone and start talkin to them... Just never really had a chance with women yet....

 

*hits self in head*

 

TIA

DG

[tiki]

I'd recommend church and groups at church. I'd also recommend taking up community classes like art classes or something. Join a gym, lots of people meet that way.

[tiger_nip]

you can always endlessly search online personals.

 

take up a hobby like playing music in a band or djing, somthing that you'll eventually have to showcase.

 

get a dog and wait for hotties to come over and pet it.

 

otherwise, pick yourself up and go somewhere.

[tegteg]

tikibrandy: Im acually on my way out to church right now... But uhhh there isnt any women my age there and the accociated churchs women are not my type or all rdy takin.. hahaha..... But thats very good tho TY... the gym is way to spendy, as is the class's for art and what not, there isnt much of that round here...

 

tiger_nip: i am startin to play the guitar but not in any type of band... just for fun..... I do have a dog and take her down to the park and to the lake all the time... But as to no avail with the women... TY tho And the gettin up off my butt, well im always doin somthing, it just happpens to not have women around.... Im manly round cars all day and then racing when poss... Or helping out my friends on there cars or what ever is needed...

 

Guess im just borin eh?

 

Thanks again.....

 

DG

[tiger_nip]

You can always ask your boys if they know any girls.

 

When it comes to doing your own stuff, just do it with passion. Girls always like a guy who is passionate about the things they do.

[tegteg]

Yeah i do but uhhh there "girls" are just flat out sluts.... haha owell..... I do do it with passion and i do have the motive to do things i just cant ever get around to do them... Work and raciing keeps me busy... Soo sigh owell....

 

Thanks for the advise...

 

DG

[neversweet]

Don't feel so bad...there are others in the same boat, more than you might realize.

 

Me? My seat on that particular boat is in Coach! LOL

 

Seriously, though...I'm finding out it's something you can't force to happen, and--pardon me--that sucks.

 

It would be nice just to have someone to hang out with and see where it leads, wouldn't it?

 

Just wanted to let you know you're not alone. *shrugs*

 

Take care.

[tegteg]

Yeah i know... THX for you remider.... It just seems as tho when something good starts, it ends.... haha owell... thats life i guess....

 

DG

[thecake]

…just coming out of the grieving over my break up a few months ago. I’m trying to figure out where I’ll meet my type of guy because if he likes doing what I do he's sitting at home reading a good book. Ha. Like you, I'm not shy I'm just a home body at heart. However, now that I realize my ex wasn't the man for me and I’m almost over the grieving process for that relationship, I've tweaked the criteria a bit on my list of what I want in the man who will be my guy…I’m almost ready to meet him. I can envision him...I'll know him when I see him but I know I've got to put myself out there so I can meet him. I’m being slightly facetious now because I’m really not desperate so to speak…and I read a great book that gave me these ideas and maybe they’ll help you as well.

 

I feel like I get most of my social time at work...some of my co-workers are my good friends...we'll go for drinks/sushi/crab claws occasionally right after work...go to lunch, etc....but I don't go to clubs/bars either. I went to church for a while after my break up but I personally wasn't going to find someone to date but I was asked out by pretty much every single man there....it was like a meat market!

 

I'd like to think that I'll just meet someone out of the blue....if it’s meant to happen it will…and, I've never actively had to look for someone to date because for the longest time I didn't want anything serious, but I'm in my early thirties now and am ready for companionship as well...found out I loved so many things about my last relationship even though it didn’t work out, but I am really, REALLY picky about the people I let into my life. I try to keep my standards high.

 

As far as where to go to meet people...one of my friends met her husband at Home Depot....on a Saturday morning....she swears that's the place to go because it's filled with men who obviously own their own homes and like to work on them....and she said I should go hang out there and act like I'm "looking" for something but really just scope out the place for men....cute idea.

 

Also, bookstores...I love to read....and the guy for me will love to read too....I love to cook...so gourmet food shops would attract my type of guy too because he will also love to cook…and he’ll love a good glass of wine so I’m planning on going to a few wine tastings over the next few months. I love music and so will my guy. I enjoy working out but I don’t go to gyms...I have a home gym and my guy won’t like gyms either.

 

I’ll never be one to do the online dating thing because it’s not my style so it’s not my guy’s style either.

 

Ha. It’s fun for me to envision the man who may or may not be in my life. The thing is to be happy with yourself first and enjoy your life already before being ready to share it with someone else. It’s not about looking for someone to make YOU happy…it’s about hopefully meeting another happy person and being happy together.

 

Good luck.