Onemore Posted March 14, 2012 Share Posted March 14, 2012 (edited) I don't known what to make of this but hopefully someone can shed some light on this. I was doing no contact with my ex who broke up with me because she lost feelings. We share the same mutual friends so we've seen each other a couple times during the NC period but have either kept distance or I've made it a point to not say anything at all. Fast forward to this past Sunday (day 41 of NC), me, her and a few friends are out cycling and we stop for lunch. At lunch she became visibly upset all of a sudden and went off to talk with one of our friends. I wasn't sure why at first but then found out after the ride that she became upset because we haven't been talking and seeing me there was getting to her. I don't know what to make of this. She was the dumper and is having this reaction to me being around since we haven't talked. I don't know if maybe she really still has feelings or not...or....? Any ideas on this is appreciated. I ended up texting her that evening. I started with a lighthearted joke then told her I was going out walking and she could join me if she wanted to. She showed up. We had a great time. No talk about the past. No talk of getting back together or being friends. Just lighthearted conversation. Edited March 14, 2012 by Onemore Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted March 14, 2012 Share Posted March 14, 2012 Possibly upset out of guilt of ending the relationship and losing you all together. Now she has had her guilt relieved and you may be in the friendzone. Hopefully you're fully over things or else continued contact will only lead to further pain. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted March 14, 2012 Share Posted March 14, 2012 I don't get why you are seeing her at all... when i saw your thread title, i thought you had successfully established - and maintained - No contact - 100%. Instead, it's nothing of the kind. she wants all of the attention, but none of the relationship... really, if she's your ex- - then i really don't see why you're poking the embers.... do you want to go out with her again? How do you feel about her? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted March 14, 2012 Share Posted March 14, 2012 Agreed. What exactly do you want? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 14, 2012 Share Posted March 14, 2012 Why are you even getting together at all? sounds like you are dating again/cycling and going for a walk. Makes no sense what exactly you want. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
cookiecrumbles Posted March 15, 2012 Share Posted March 15, 2012 Yeah I dont understand either...NC is NO CONTACT! This seeing her because you have mutual friends kind of sounds like an excuse to see her. I say this because my ex broke up with me and we have mutual friends but when I hang out with my friends my ex doesnt come because she knows I dont want her to because I need my space. I agree with another person who said she wants your attention, and of course once she broke down infront of you, what did you do, you texted her and arranged a meet up. She got what she wanted, she wants her cake and to eat it to, unfortunately you dont get a piece. You will end up like they said in the friend zone. So how you go about this whole mutual friend thing depends on how you feel, if you still have feelings I wouldnt recommend it. Pain will follow. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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