fucpcg Posted March 15, 2012 Share Posted March 15, 2012 She officially broke up with me by email 4 days before our anniversary, and was very nasty about it. I got a lot of stuff wrong when she broke up with me, and it still bothers me a lot. I had broken up with her once prior when she got lots of stuff wrong, but she apologized and I looked past the problems and we moved forward. I guess i was hoping for the same in return. After breaking up with me, I spent six weeks crafting an apology in response to her email, then mailed to her. Another four weeks later I tried another letter asking to talk. Two months later, a happy birthday text. At that point I just dropped it, not wanting to but not getting anywhere. I saw her out twice last December, 8 months post breakup and 4 months since my last contact, and she looked visibly rattled both times and left the club like immediately. Sent her homemade chocolate truffles for Xmas, sent her one more very well written, well thought out letter saying hey I am still moved by seeing you, it was nice seeing you, i miss you and the boys soo much (she had three young boys who i did a ton of things together with) can we just end the silence and at least get back to being friends? Finally a response! Text from my ex! "Stop contacing me. This is harassment. How me and the boys are doing is none of your business" Okay so I'm beginning to think the girl I fell in love with, and the girls she is, are two totally different people. She was the worst girlfriend I ever had till I broke up with her. She was the most amazing girlfriend I ever had after getting back together with her. Now she is the nastiest girl I've ever dated, I've never had an ex act to me the way she does. Anybody else ever date someone who was just two totally different people? I really can't make sense of how someone can flipflop like that. Link to post Share on other sites
marqueemoon4 Posted March 15, 2012 Share Posted March 15, 2012 Wow. I guess at this point you can ascertain that no matter what you do, she's going to be hostile with you? I guess you have to accept that.. how people (esp women) in my experience can go from being so loving and into you to hating you is pretty frightening. Especially if you have kids together. Link to post Share on other sites
Exit Posted March 15, 2012 Share Posted March 15, 2012 Heh, time to just let that one go. I've been in your shoes before. God forbid they could be mature and communicate a little earlier in the process to say "I'd prefer not to hear from you, let's go our separate ways please". Instead they just stay silent and let you wonder if anything you're doing is having an impact on their feelings or not, and then next thing you know words like harassment are being dropped. Link to post Share on other sites
EgoJoe Posted March 15, 2012 Share Posted March 15, 2012 The dickhead she was pursuing while you were being nice to her pissed her off so she lashed out at you. Hey, look on the bright side, she did you a favor of removing her used meat tunnel from your life. She has three kids, none of which are yours. Bullet = dodged. Don't raise another man's kids. Obviously she was left for a reason or maybe she left for the same reason she left you for. BBD. Link to post Share on other sites
Author fucpcg Posted March 16, 2012 Author Share Posted March 16, 2012 Marquee we had the fight, talked our way thru it, the next weekend she is sleeping on my chest, something I still miss every night. Within another month, I am the biggest ******* on the planet, and I don't deserve for her to ever talk to me again. This from a girl whom spoke of love, marriage, and having a baby together. Quite the swing. And Exit she was this nasty with me when we split, but I know breakups are tough, and that emotions run high, so I didn't take it to heart. Being a year later, I figured the hostility had to have come down and we could talk again. To see that hostility as equally strong a year later, that really shocked me. I mean sure I've got pissed at people in my life, but if it ever lasted more than 15 minutes, maybe it lasted a week on a worst case scenario. I just don't have room for hatred in my life. So to see this from her a year later, really makes me question who I was dating, and where did this girl go? Link to post Share on other sites
Jstub Posted March 16, 2012 Share Posted March 16, 2012 There is a thin line between love and hate. Remember this. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
wilsonx Posted March 16, 2012 Share Posted March 16, 2012 Fucpcg, I have something you might like. I will be glad to dontate my Captain Save a Hoe Suit to you. I no longer have use for it so its yours if you want it. Cool design, great colors and it breaths really well. The cape really sets it apart from the others, if you ask me. The suit even has "SUPERPOWERS"! ... It protects you from logic, reason, sanity, peace, wisdom, understanding, healing, and acceptance. However, I did find out that it doesn't protect you from YOURSELF, from being a fool, losing your dignity, destroying you self-esteem, crushing your self-worth, misery, sorrow, heartache, pain, torture and from self inflicted wounds. Worn it for the past couple of years, Its in excellent condition as are most super hero costumes If interested, I will have it dry cleaned and gladly ship it at no charge to you. The sooner I get rid of the damn thing, the better! 4 Link to post Share on other sites
gibson Posted March 16, 2012 Share Posted March 16, 2012 Fucpcg, I have something you might like. I will be glad to dontate my Captain Save a Hoe Suit to you. I no longer have use for it so its yours if you want it. Cool design, great colors and it breaths really well. The cape really sets it apart from the others, if you ask me. The suit even has "SUPERPOWERS"! ... It protects you from logic, reason, sanity, peace, wisdom, understanding, healing, and acceptance. However, I did find out that it doesn't protect you from YOURSELF, from being a fool, losing your dignity, destroying you self-esteem, crushing your self-worth, misery, sorrow, heartache, pain, torture and from self inflicted wounds. Worn it for the past couple of years, Its in excellent condition as are most super hero costumes If interested, I will have it dry cleaned and gladly ship it at no charge to you. The sooner I get rid of the damn thing, the better! LOL!!!!!! Best thing I ever did was get rid of my Captain Save a Ho Costume / suit. Like you, I found out it doesn't protect you from yourself. Not to mention, that once you "fix them" (which rarely happens) they leave you for someone else anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
Author fucpcg Posted March 16, 2012 Author Share Posted March 16, 2012 Wilson LOL!!! Being a 40 year old when we started dating, you'd think I was smart enough to not try to fix someone, cause early on we learn that this is a total myth to be a knight in shining armor that saves girl who made all wrong decisions before we came along. When I broke up with her after our first two months I had ZERO intention of ever taking this one back. In fact, she had worst girlfriend ever title hands down. I know that you can't save someone who isn't working to save themself... but my god she did the sales job! I need you, I love you, I'm soo sorry, work was stressing me out, I didn't know what I was doing, I need you, the kids need you (as she rolls to my house with all 3 boys in the caravan staring at me with sad faces as I had already taken them to do something every weekend my ex had them from previous husband), posting on facebook I really love that man, I need him back.... On, and on, and on. And after getting back together, honestly she was a totally different, totally amazing girl, a girl that absolutely stole my heart. However since her dumping me a year later, after being attached to her and her kids, she has gone right back to the life she had before me, with gusto it appears, and I am left with a shattered heart, and desperately seeking the (imaginary I guess) girl I fell in love with. There was a voice in the back of my head saying "this is going to come back to haunt you" when I chose to get back together with her after I dumped her, boy I should have listened to that voice. Goes to show, in all age groups we still go thru learning lessons in life, and sometimes that lesson is a rerun. Link to post Share on other sites
Author fucpcg Posted March 16, 2012 Author Share Posted March 16, 2012 There is a thin line between love and hate. Remember this. I don't feel that way. I've never hated anybody I once loved. In fact I still have fondness for every single love I have ever had. Link to post Share on other sites
offcloudnine Posted March 17, 2012 Share Posted March 17, 2012 (edited) Wow that sounds terrible I have similar feelings towards my ex of almost 3 weeks. It feels like the person that I loved and loved me and the her right now are two different people. And in a way it's understandable, but the part that doesn't seem to much make sense is how love so strong has disappeared without a trace. Edited March 17, 2012 by offcloudnine Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted March 17, 2012 Share Posted March 17, 2012 I've been in with a jekkyl and Hyde one aswell, it's really odd. I guess it's their coping/ defense mechanism or something. Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted March 17, 2012 Share Posted March 17, 2012 It doesnt make much sense when they weren't the one that got screwed over. Link to post Share on other sites
flitzanu Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 it makes perfect sense, though everyone tries to assign logical reaction instead of emotional reaction. logically "they didn't get screwed over, why are they mean?" emotionally "i don't want this person in my life, so what's the best way to act...oh yeah, i'll act like a cunt and he'll leave me alone" simple. girls don't want to deal with you, and being nice doesn't work, so they resort to making you feel insignificant. and guys do it too when a girl won't leave us alone after a breakup. it's not rocket science, and it's not the first time it's happened. just go read the forums! they're still the same person, except now that same person doesn't really care about you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author fucpcg Posted March 19, 2012 Author Share Posted March 19, 2012 it makes perfect sense, though everyone tries to assign logical reaction instead of emotional reaction. logically "they didn't get screwed over, why are they mean?" emotionally "i don't want this person in my life, so what's the best way to act...oh yeah, i'll act like a cunt and he'll leave me alone" simple. girls don't want to deal with you, and being nice doesn't work, so they resort to making you feel insignificant. and guys do it too when a girl won't leave us alone after a breakup. it's not rocket science, and it's not the first time it's happened. just go read the forums! they're still the same person, except now that same person doesn't really care about you. You have a view of people and relationships that expects zero respect and dignity toward each other as human beings, and as once lovers, and I have never acted in a way similar to any expressed opinion I've read in any of your posts, nor will I ever, nor will I ever respect any person who conducts themselves with your attitude and approach. If you want to believe it is silly to expect people to act like adults, to act appropriately to a person they once claimed to love (the highest word for admiration on the planet), then once its over yea screw him - her nothing means anything be nasty that's just what people do, then good luck in life as you reap what you sew. Don't expect much from your relationships in life, as you certainly aren't capable of giving much. Link to post Share on other sites
flitzanu Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 You have a view of people and relationships that expects zero respect and dignity toward each other as human beings, and as once lovers, and I have never acted in a way similar to any expressed opinion I've read in any of your posts, nor will I ever, nor will I ever respect any person who conducts themselves with your attitude and approach. If you want to believe it is silly to expect people to act like adults, to act appropriately to a person they once claimed to love (the highest word for admiration on the planet), then once its over yea screw him - her nothing means anything be nasty that's just what people do, then good luck in life as you reap what you sew. Don't expect much from your relationships in life, as you certainly aren't capable of giving much. lol. you totally figured me out!! sorry your world sucks right now dude. hope you heal soon. Link to post Share on other sites
marqueemoon4 Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 You have a view of people and relationships that expects zero respect and dignity toward each other as human beings, and as once lovers, and I have never acted in a way similar to any expressed opinion I've read in any of your posts, nor will I ever, nor will I ever respect any person who conducts themselves with your attitude and approach. If you want to believe it is silly to expect people to act like adults, to act appropriately to a person they once claimed to love (the highest word for admiration on the planet), then once its over yea screw him - her nothing means anything be nasty that's just what people do, then good luck in life as you reap what you sew. Don't expect much from your relationships in life, as you certainly aren't capable of giving much. man- I don't think he's condoning this behavior.. simply stating that its a reality that alot of people DO act this way. I personally agree with you.. a person you claimed to love and spent x amount of years with should be treated with a certain amount of respect. Link to post Share on other sites
flitzanu Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 man- I don't think he's condoning this behavior.. simply stating that its a reality that alot of people DO act this way. I personally agree with you.. a person you claimed to love and spent x amount of years with should be treated with a certain amount of respect. thank you for actually understanding, marquee Link to post Share on other sites
marqueemoon4 Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 thank you for actually understanding, marquee no prob.. haha. i gotta ask.. is that you in your avatar? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
flitzanu Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 no prob.. haha. i gotta ask.. is that you in your avatar? heh, yes it is. and no, it's not "carved" in my chest, it's actually just a tattoo. Link to post Share on other sites
robertmathis1026 Posted March 23, 2012 Share Posted March 23, 2012 She might has feel with you. From what I see here is that you are needy and you are luck enough that your ex was replying to you. Stop being needy, back to your life if you want to contact your, just contact her ( don't expect too much!) Are you SUFFERING THE PAIN, because your ex DUMP you? Can You imagine, if you can make your ex BEGGING TO BACK WITH YOU? click here to make it HAPPEN!! Link to post Share on other sites
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