minee Posted March 16, 2012 Share Posted March 16, 2012 I am on this site right now because if i'm not i think i'll go crazy and contact my ex. so I have a question.. my ex is a very prideful person.. and there have been times he didn't call because he was too prideful.. but no matter how prideful if he's about to lose his relationship, AND he valued it.. he would've called right? i'm just trying to convince myself that this guy is a loser but my mind seems to want to play tricks on me. No matter how prideful, he would call if he really loved his girl right?? How long would one's pride prevent oneself from calling? when would the pride break down??! OMG i think im going crazy... MUST MAINTAIN NC.. MUST MAINTAIN NC! Link to post Share on other sites
Exit Posted March 16, 2012 Share Posted March 16, 2012 Yes if someone really wanted you, pride nor nothing else would stop them. Even if he does have feelings for you but his pride is stopping him, would you want to be with someone who chooses their pride over a life with you? I understand what you are trying to hint at here, you wonder if you made contact, would he be glad to hear from you, and reveal that he had been thinking about you but couldn't get himself to pick up the phone. Even if that unlikely scenario came true, still, how would it feel knowing you had to be the one to show enough interest in being together to reach out, rather than him? If you ever hear from him again, wouldn't it feel 10 times better knowing that he's the one who initiated it? Don't let your mind trick you. This is a very common thing for dumpees to think about, "is my ex not calling because of pride". It doesn't matter, it's best to be cautious and just assume the person is over you. Don't break NC. Heal your heart and then find someone who won't let pride or anything else keep them from you. Asking questions about if or when his pride will break down is a waste of your energy. You don't even know if that's what's stopping him in the first place. And even if it is, I'm sure some people are capable of maintaining their pride until the day they die. So don't hold your breath. Link to post Share on other sites
rootless Posted March 16, 2012 Share Posted March 16, 2012 (edited) Yup. For most, love+pain = pride goes bye-bye. Love brings humility, at it's best, and worst. When love's present, that means grattitude. When love's present, and unrequited, it means humbling yourself to ask for it in return. If he's hurting, and he wants you back and is crazy about you, pride will eventually dissolve. But if he's made up his mind about leaving, and is sure of it, pride will only reinforce that decision. Edited March 16, 2012 by rootless 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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