dudesomewhere Posted June 10, 2004 Share Posted June 10, 2004 um, no not an offer to you, but a question involving the idea. Say you don't really like someone but you pretend you do because you don't want to hurt them. The person on the other end senses something and says "I'll give you $20 to tell me the truth." Would you take the money or still feel to guilty or still pretend to like. If you said no...but you HATED the person would you take the money? You guys think the answer would be different for men/women? That would be cool, I'd give someoen $20 to tell me the truth hehe Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted June 10, 2004 Share Posted June 10, 2004 Well, if its someone I really don't like, I wouldn't care if I hurt them or not. I don't control their hurt--they do. I don't need to be paid for being honest, and they don't need to hang around with someone who doesn't like them. I've honestly answered the question "You don't like me do you?" with, "No, I don't." It was someone I had to work with. We were able to work together okay because that is all we focused on, and it was only a short period of time. If I'd been forced to work with someone long-term that I didn't like, I would try to find a way around the situation, or I would have an open and frank discussion with that person and set definite boundaries. OTOH; I've lied to my husband on occasion. I said I liked something that I didn't because I knew telling him would hurt his feelings. I've eaten a few horrible meals that he prepared, and I have a couple pieces of absolutely hideous jewelry (and I use the term loosely) hidden in my dresser drawer. He thought they were marvelous and since they were not too expensive and he put such effort into choosing them, I said I liked them and I wore them at some parties at our house. Then one mysteriously broke and could not be worn anymore I couldn't take money for something like that. Then I wouldn't feel honest, even if I were being honest. Link to post Share on other sites
Maria46 Posted June 12, 2004 Share Posted June 12, 2004 I'd let them keep their money, but I would be honest about how I feel about them. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyrannaste Posted June 12, 2004 Share Posted June 12, 2004 I'd take the money and tell him/her "I don't like you, people who throw away money this way suck". Actually, I'd never tell anyone I don't like him/her unless he/she asks me. That's why I find questions like "do you like me?" very embarassing. While I think someone who bluntly says "You don't like me do you?" must not be that bad . Link to post Share on other sites
Author dudesomewhere Posted June 13, 2004 Author Share Posted June 13, 2004 bah, you guys torture me... "While I think someone who bluntly says "You don't like me do you?" must not be that bad." so sure you don't think they must be THAT bad...but the point is, do you like or not like? Come on! hehe Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted June 14, 2004 Share Posted June 14, 2004 After they gave me the money, I'd like them. Link to post Share on other sites
Kat Posted June 14, 2004 Share Posted June 14, 2004 I will tell you the truth for free Link to post Share on other sites
magda Posted June 14, 2004 Share Posted June 14, 2004 Well, for you I'll do it for $50.... Link to post Share on other sites
magda Posted June 14, 2004 Share Posted June 14, 2004 I think that it would depend on the reasons for pretending to be your friend. Say it's your boss asking for the truth for $20.. if you tell the guy the truth that you hate him then you're losing a lot more than $20 can fix. If a person is pretending to like you for some reason they must be doing it because they get something out of it. What is that something? Is it something that $20 can make all better? Probably not, unless you just met the person (if the truth is that they hate you, right). They'd analyze the costs v benefits and I bet you'd find that not many people would tell you their secret feelings towards you for $20 if they're going to have to see you again 'cause you're in the same circle. Unless they've been wanting a reason to tell you what they think.. The reason they pretend to like you is to make things tolerable when they have to be around you. So, whatever. Link to post Share on other sites
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