Ex and me in communication

[Follower]

So its been 3 months and 6 days since i last spoke to my ex. I got an email last night from her, Just "hi". So i left it.

 

Shes just BCing me. i know it im actualy ok with it.

 

For the first time in months, no emotional turmoil.

 

I have a new life plan and its all in action. which is making me feel great.

 

I sent back an email saying "hi" in return today and i got the following in reply.

 

"i didnt expect you to contact me at all, figured you'd want to forget it all"

 

I really want to start up some form of dialog but i almost dont see the point. I really want to be part of her life but im not so sure where she is at what she wants or if this is just that Honeymoon of the breakup finaly sinking in for her.

 

Im worried that if i continue the dialog i'll at some point head right back down that first day road. But i would be ok with some form of friendship and if that were to devolp into something more over time then great if not i think id be ok with that.

 

Im just worried that she is contacting me for the wrong reasons and i really dont want to be back to that crazy hurting again, im sure i wont but it does worry me.

 

Any suggestions of insights would be apprechiated.

[NoneoftheAbove]

Shes dragging you in. It seems like she has emotional issues. Go with your plan and don't contact this person.

[Frank13]

So its been 3 months and 6 days since i last spoke to my ex. I got an email last night from her, Just "hi". So i left it.

 

Shes just BCing me. i know it im actualy ok with it.

 

I sent back an email saying "hi" in return today and i got the following in reply.

 

 

First you say you left the email, then you say you replied. Also, I don't know what "BCing" means other than "book croosing" or "be seeing you", neither of which makes sense in you context.

 

 

"i didnt expect you to contact me at all, figured you'd want to forget it all"

 

I really want to start up some form of dialog but i almost dont see the point. I really want to be part of her life but im not so sure where she is at what she wants or if this is just that Honeymoon of the breakup finaly sinking in for her.

 

Im worried that if i continue the dialog i'll at some point head right back down that first day road. But i would be ok with some form of friendship and if that were to devolp into something more over time then great if not i think id be ok with that.

 

Big mistake. Those who still have feelings think they want a friendship because they can't stand the thought of losing the other person forever or they hope it turns into more. You will just end up hurting more.

 

There are two issues here. 1. You don't see the point of starting up a dialog and 2. You are worried about going back to day one.

 

There is no reason to start a dialog. She threw you one of the smallest breadcrumbs possible. She wanted to see if she could still pull your strings. She got what she wanted so you may never hear from her again.

 

Im just worried that she is contacting me for the wrong reasons and i really dont want to be back to that crazy hurting again, im sure i wont but it does worry me.

 

Any suggestions of insights would be apprechiated.

 

From what you wrote, there isn't a single reason to let this person back in your life.