Shirazrose Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 I've been dating my boyfriend for about four years now and my gay sister has been in a relationship for about the same time. A couple of weeks ago her partner sent my boyfriend a drunk text saying she was attracted to him. She's not said anything since and he's ignored it. I'm not sure how to feel about it. We don't get to see my sister and her partner much but when we do, my boyfriend and her often go off on their own and spend most of the night talking. He even gets pretty touchy with her which sometimes makes me feel uncomfortable. I don't want to get too stressed out about this, but it strikes me as pretty disrespectful to me and my family that an openly gay partner of my sister is drunkenly hitting on my boyfriend. Should I approach her? Link to post Share on other sites
CC12 Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 Should I approach her? No. Approach your boyfriend about gallivanting around with her and being touchy and how it makes you uncomfortable. Your primary problem should be his future actions, not hers. She crossed a line and now it's up to your boyfriend to put an end to those shenanigans. I'd say he's done fine so far by ignoring her text, but next time you see them, he should not spend most of the night talking to her and getting touchy. I don't know if their relationship was necessarily inappropriate before, but it's definitely inappropriate now. And you also might want to give your sister a heads up that her girlfriend is hitting on other people. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shirazrose Posted March 19, 2012 Author Share Posted March 19, 2012 No. Approach your boyfriend about gallivanting around with her and being touchy and how it makes you uncomfortable. Your primary problem should be his future actions, not hers. That's true. We've not really spoken about it because I feel pretty silly approaching him with my concerns as we see them maybe three or four times a year. As far as the touching is concerned, it's all pretty harmless. He'll try to pick her up, or during conversations she'll touch his knee or shoulder. And you also might want to give your sister a heads up that her girlfriend is hitting on other people. She already knows - apparently her girlfriend has already told my sister about the text. Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 She already knows - apparently her girlfriend has already told my sister about the text. What is she doing about it? I think you and your sister are the ones who need to talk about this since it is both of your SO's. It's her job to confront her girlfriend about the innapropriateness not your's. Tell your sister she is going to have to step up to the plate here. Link to post Share on other sites
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