NoneoftheAbove Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 Just i thought i can trust her...I was at her house, something inside me told me to check her phone. And i see these nasty text msges from this one guy on her phone. She was upstairs getting me a water..As soon as she came down i said "Nice text msges" got up and left. She was sending him naked pictures of her..She tells me she called him and told him to stop. My reply to her was "You played me good" got in my car and didnt even look back. My heart is broken right now..I wish i didn;t have to witness this. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author NoneoftheAbove Posted March 19, 2012 Author Share Posted March 19, 2012 Cant find honest people anymore. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Moonless sky Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 Cant find honest people anymore. There are honest people just very hard to find. I can understand how you're feeling. I've been through the whole look at their phone and see something that breaks you. Keep your head up, this stuff is never easy but atleast you know the truth now. Link to post Share on other sites
LSgirl Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 wow, thats really disgusting of her. I would have done the same thing you did and just left. I wouldn't have even wanted an explanation, that alone would have sent me off in a heartbeat. As much as I don't believe in prying into people's personal things, I do think after finding this out that you are better off without her. I'm sure you know this since you walked out on her, no more spending another minute on this girl. I know what you mean by no more honest people, it's really hard to find some honest/loyal people out there. Link to post Share on other sites
smudge21 Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 Consider this as a huge wake up call and don't look back. Many of us linger on with a broken relationship as we don't have direct evidence that you've just found. We live in hope, even though everything tells us not to. It often takes something like what you found to really kick is into gear so we move on. Don't contact her or reply to her, just stay no contact and work on yourself. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author NoneoftheAbove Posted March 19, 2012 Author Share Posted March 19, 2012 Yeah...im just heart broken because i let my guards down and thought i can trust this person....she thinks its funny because he has a gf? lol im not mad at her..im mad at myself because i let this happen. Link to post Share on other sites
smudge21 Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 So the power is with you to move on from it. You simply trusted someone, end of. If trusting another human being was a crime, we'd all be in jail. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
69ways Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 Listen, you found out she is not worth it. Yes you feel betrayed but look at it on the bright side. You might have ended marrying this piece of s.... and have children and then find out..... Not even worth the time to think about it m8, just forget about it...... Link to post Share on other sites
Author NoneoftheAbove Posted March 19, 2012 Author Share Posted March 19, 2012 Listen, you found out she is not worth it. Yes you feel betrayed but look at it on the bright side. You might have ended marrying this piece of s.... and have children and then find out..... Not even worth the time to think about it m8, just forget about it...... Exactly buddy, im glad it happened and i found it sooner. Link to post Share on other sites
Author NoneoftheAbove Posted March 19, 2012 Author Share Posted March 19, 2012 I have her stuff over at my house. Im gonna retun them tonight.It sucks but i have to get myself together. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliBabe Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 You were strong enough to do the right thing by leaving. You are worth more than that. She obviously doesn't respect you if she is doing this behind your back, and you deserve respect. Everyone does. Keep NC and let her lie in her bed. She did this. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author NoneoftheAbove Posted March 19, 2012 Author Share Posted March 19, 2012 You were strong enough to do the right thing by leaving. You are worth more than that. She obviously doesn't respect you if she is doing this behind your back, and you deserve respect. Everyone does. Keep NC and let her lie in her bed. She did this. Thank you Cali, I returned her stuff today. She gave me cards on my birthday ripped it and put em in the bag with the scarf she made me..She says ex is an ex im like if thats the case why are you still talking with him? she wants me to believe her and trust her. She says she called him and told him to f off. lol i find it funny because, out of blue you decided to tell him off? She also says "its funny because he has a gf" Im just broken, but soon i will be fine. Link to post Share on other sites
Author NoneoftheAbove Posted March 19, 2012 Author Share Posted March 19, 2012 I just need someone to talk to right now Link to post Share on other sites
RobotNano Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 Yeah, we live in cities now. Relationships are more complicated today, more than 40 years ago. Link to post Share on other sites
mymission Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 40 years ago most people married their first partner at the age of 20 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Moonless sky Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 I'm here if you need to talk even though as a stranger, I can relate. Many people on this forum are here for support. Link to post Share on other sites
RobotNano Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 It is best you found out now, than later. It would have ended up in a love triangle. And those can be dangerous. Amazing how some can set those off. Link to post Share on other sites
Author NoneoftheAbove Posted March 20, 2012 Author Share Posted March 20, 2012 Thank you sky. Link to post Share on other sites
Author NoneoftheAbove Posted March 20, 2012 Author Share Posted March 20, 2012 She keeps texting me..saying how much she loves me and the thought of me finding someone new is driving her crazy. She says she cares about me.. this one kinda got to me because i feel bad.. "how you made me feel like the luckiest girl. Ive never been so attracted to somebody in so many ways. I admire you" Good luck sleeping at night now. Link to post Share on other sites
sweetheart5381 Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 I'm so sorry for your pain... so aweful... I can imagine, sadly... I am so angry with your ex, so much so that I dont even want to know the whole story of your b/u. I just know where you are coming from.. been there, hurt like hell. To love another and be betrayed in such a way is so aweful... I can't imagine ever being so selfish to do that to another. FFS they should end the relationship before they do that stuff. That is the ultimate disrespect to one that loves you. Sometimes we find out the hard way about people. We end up trusting those that don't deserve it... good people are still out there though. Take care and kick that bitch to the curb. Link to post Share on other sites
Moonless sky Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 Noneoftheabove, You have to hold your head high even though you feel weak right now, don't let her see that. She seems to be turning this around on you, she wants you to feel bad for walking out. Do you know why she did it? She disrespected you and can't act like this if she wants you. I've caught an ex years ago messing around with his ex on his phone. It broke all trust I had for him, and I can't lie it never stopped with them. She may be different, but she can't play the guilt game very long and needs to show you in actions that she's sorry. But do you really want to forgive her? Can you trust her? Will she now hide her messages from you? It's a game they play and it never ends unless they sincerely love us. I hope I'm wrong but you have to be strong for your own heart and soul. She needs to understand you're not guilty of anything and she is. Link to post Share on other sites
Author NoneoftheAbove Posted March 20, 2012 Author Share Posted March 20, 2012 I'm so sorry for your pain... so aweful... I can imagine, sadly... I am so angry with your ex, so much so that I dont even want to know the whole story of your b/u. I just know where you are coming from.. been there, hurt like hell. To love another and be betrayed in such a way is so aweful... I can't imagine ever being so selfish to do that to another. FFS they should end the relationship before they do that stuff. That is the ultimate disrespect to one that loves you. Sometimes we find out the hard way about people. We end up trusting those that don't deserve it... good people are still out there though. Take care and kick that bitch to the curb. Ive treated her like no other guy. Even she knows, and i know she aint gonna find nobody better than me. Earth is a living hell for her right now. I havent done anything wrong to this chick. She goes out and throws my heart like its piece of garbage. Link to post Share on other sites
Moonless sky Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 To be honest again, naked pictures while you're in love or relationship is 100% disrespectful to you and makes her look bad. That's a game you don't play around with. I'm sorry but I think she enjoys attention. I feel your pain I really do, my ex left me three days ago never said why and disappeared, I thought I or "we" were worth more than this. I'm broken too. Link to post Share on other sites
Author NoneoftheAbove Posted March 20, 2012 Author Share Posted March 20, 2012 Noneoftheabove, You have to hold your head high even though you feel weak right now, don't let her see that. She seems to be turning this around on you, she wants you to feel bad for walking out. Do you know why she did it? She disrespected you and can't act like this if she wants you. I've caught an ex years ago messing around with his ex on his phone. It broke all trust I had for him, and I can't lie it never stopped with them. She may be different, but she can't play the guilt game very long and needs to show you in actions that she's sorry. But do you really want to forgive her? Can you trust her? Will she now hide her messages from you? It's a game they play and it never ends unless they sincerely love us. I hope I'm wrong but you have to be strong for your own heart and soul. She needs to understand you're not guilty of anything and she is. Exactly sky, shes trying to turn this on me like i was the one flirting with another person. She says hes an ex and ex is an ex. So why do you reply to his dirty texts? You couldve said i have a boyfriend leave me alone. But it didnt happen she kept engaging him. I saw the text msges..when she came down im like nice text msges got up and left. She ran after me holding on to my car wait wait dont go its not what you think...im like save all that bull sh to your next bf ive heard enough. Link to post Share on other sites
Author NoneoftheAbove Posted March 20, 2012 Author Share Posted March 20, 2012 I dont think i can ever trust this chick again. Its done. She said shes coming...but theres no one out on the street. i didnt reply or answer her texts. Im a fool for letting this happen to me. Link to post Share on other sites
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