tipsyleprachauns Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 It's weird. It's been 37 days no contact. She's a stranger to me, I don't know her. Yet... I still think about her 95% of my day. Still crazy about her. Still want her back. Still wonder if she will ever contact me again months and months down the line. I just want this to end. No contact has been surprisingly easy. I've had no urges to. But I want to stop these ups and downs. It genuinely does not feel like indifference and not being crazy about this girl will EVER come. Link to post Share on other sites
mike588 Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 It's weird. It's been 37 days no contact. She's a stranger to me, I don't know her. Yet... I still think about her 95% of my day. Still crazy about her. Still want her back. Still wonder if she will ever contact me again months and months down the line. I just want this to end. No contact has been surprisingly easy. I've had no urges to. But I want to stop these ups and downs. It genuinely does not feel like indifference and not being crazy about this girl will EVER come. My ex. dumped me 7 months ago and I felt the same way....still wanted her back...still loved her and sooo wanted her to contact me. The crazy ups and downs are normal and will stop in time....best thing to do is stay in No Contact....it's the best thing for you and in doing that she may contact you down the road....Mine did. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tipsyleprachauns Posted March 20, 2012 Author Share Posted March 20, 2012 I doubt she'll ever contact me. The last she said was she considers me a bit stalkerish, is stubborn as hell, and is dating someone else alright. I'm just fed up. I'm emotionally drained. My life is technically great and I'm doing everything for me but I want this woman out of my mind so I can feel happy again. 3 and a bit months since break up, 1 and a bit no contact. Still, no one seems a patch on her. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliBabe Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 Tipsy, I am 9 months out of my breakup and STILL love him and think about him everyday. Although it has gotten less and less each day. I also use to think about him 95% of my day and that has changed quite significantly. Things will get better with more time. Link to post Share on other sites
budley12 Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 It's weird. It's been 37 days no contact. She's a stranger to me, I don't know her. Yet... I still think about her 95% of my day. Still crazy about her. Still want her back. Still wonder if she will ever contact me again months and months down the line. I just want this to end. No contact has been surprisingly easy. I've had no urges to. But I want to stop these ups and downs. It genuinely does not feel like indifference and not being crazy about this girl will EVER come. I feel you. I was dumped 4 months ago. We were going to get back together 3 months ago but then i was "dumped again". I went along with the whole "friends" thing and gave him space to see if he would miss me. I find out he's pursuing another relationship. I am at 1 month of NC. Last night I find out he's dating that person. All I think about is him and his family... I hope that finding out he's in a relationship I can truly do me now. No matter how much it hurts there is nothing I can do. The only thing I could try and do is be friends but all that would cause is more hurt I believe at this point. Goodluck Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 Funny thing is, they usually contact you when you least expect it and it will take you by surprise. But, hopefully, you've recovered enough just to ignore it. People usually post here when it happens. Their threads usually start out like, You're not gonna believe this but the crazy chick (or the douche rocket Ex BF) tried calling me! Can you believe it! Link to post Share on other sites
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 Year and a half for me, but I didn't want to rekindle--I think of him every day, but there is no love there; anger and pity is there and holding a grudge for all he did to me. He was so awful to me. He contacted me in August, twice via text. I did not respond because I knew there was an ulterior motive; that he wasn't just being nice. He did the calling most of the time, so it wasn't hard to not respond. There are days, though, that I wish he would call and be sincere and kind...that was never him, though. His sweetness and charm in the beginning was all an act to lure me in and he got me good. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tipsyleprachauns Posted March 20, 2012 Author Share Posted March 20, 2012 I guess I'd just hoped after 37 days I'd feel a bit better. Made some progress. I mean, the feeling of sadness is rarely the same, it's no longer gut wrenching. My friends say I seem happier, but deep down I know that's a front. And keeping that front up and staying constantly busy is taking up so much energy, I'm both emotionally and physically drained by this whole situation. I'd hope after 37 days and how she treated me the first 2 months of the break up, I would care less by now. Link to post Share on other sites
Thatguyintx Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 I guess I'd just hoped after 37 days I'd feel a bit better. Made some progress. I mean, the feeling of sadness is rarely the same, it's no longer gut wrenching. My friends say I seem happier, but deep down I know that's a front. And keeping that front up and staying constantly busy is taking up so much energy, I'm both emotionally and physically drained by this whole situation. I'd hope after 37 days and how she treated me the first 2 months of the break up, I would care less by now. Are you sure there is no progress? I find I have made some progress, but not as much as I wish. But there still is progress there. I don't pine the same way I did at week 1, I don't feel the same desire to share my life as I did at week 1, but yes, I still think of her everyday. I have made progress, but there is more road to walk... Link to post Share on other sites
flyguy23 Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 I guess I'd just hoped after 37 days I'd feel a bit better. Made some progress. I mean, the feeling of sadness is rarely the same, it's no longer gut wrenching. My friends say I seem happier, but deep down I know that's a front. And keeping that front up and staying constantly busy is taking up so much energy, I'm both emotionally and physically drained by this whole situation. I'd hope after 37 days and how she treated me the first 2 months of the break up, I would care less by now. Man that sounds like my situation, I am at about 35 days NC and I had hoped I would be better by now. It hurts more for me knowing that she has no desire to ever talk to me again after dating for 5 years. It really sucks Link to post Share on other sites
Author tipsyleprachauns Posted March 20, 2012 Author Share Posted March 20, 2012 Are you sure there is no progress? I find I have made some progress, but not as much as I wish. But there still is progress there. I don't pine the same way I did at week 1, I don't feel the same desire to share my life as I did at week 1, but yes, I still think of her everyday. I have made progress, but there is more road to walk... I guess I have made progress. I don't pine the same way, but I do still pine. I don't talk about her nearly as much. Often I'll go full days not mentioning my situation to anyone even when asked, even in the smallest way. But I still want her as badly as I ever did. That's the bit I was hoping would start to change. Link to post Share on other sites
Thatguyintx Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 I guess I have made progress. I don't pine the same way, but I do still pine. I don't talk about her nearly as much. Often I'll go full days not mentioning my situation to anyone even when asked, even in the smallest way. But I still want her as badly as I ever did. That's the bit I was hoping would start to change. Embrace the progress you have made! A bit further, you will look back feeling like you have not made progress and realize you have made a TON of progress. It's just how it works. After the demise of the relationship that brought me to LS, I woke up one day a few months after the relationship ended and realized I hadn't thought about her for a couple of weeks. It really caught me off guard! Keep walking. We're right here with you doing the same. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 37 days is better than day 1:) You have come very far and can do this:) 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author tipsyleprachauns Posted March 21, 2012 Author Share Posted March 21, 2012 Thanks for all the words of encouragement guys. I guess I have made some progress... I'm just not at the point of being able to see the light at the end of the tunnel yet. Achieving indifference. At the moment, I just want her back. I am surprised I have found no contact so easy though. Reading all the stories here that doesn't make much sense to me. Link to post Share on other sites
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