new-girl Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 I haven't ever been in the situation of leaving my toothbrush at a guys place. So I thought I may ask you guys, last night after work I went around to the place of the guy I am dating, before getting comfy for bed, he asked me if I wanted a toothbrush he had a spare one, I said no it is okay, only the night, he started looking for it and gave it to me, when I came back to his room after cleaning my teeth to ask where I should put it he said to just in the bathroom with his and his housemates. Now I have heard this can be a 'milestone' in a relationship....really though? I mean we haven't had the exclusive talk, but then again, I don't feel we need it, he may not either. Link to post Share on other sites
xpaperxcutx Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 It could be one of two things- if a guy has a spare toothbrush around, it could mean he has alot of guests over, or two, he just has a spare toothbrush and he's being considerate. I have dated alot of guys with spare toothbrushes and the ones who usually become my boyfriends are the ones who just tells me to use theirs. Gross I know, but in a way it is nice to know they're comfortable with me using their toothbrush. If there is exclusivity, I would start leaving my own self- bought (pink) toothbrush in their bathrooms and even sanitary napkins. OP, you're thinking way too much! Link to post Share on other sites
sweetsmmr91 Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 Haha, eh the only reason I think the "toothbrush ordeal" is a big deal is because of movies making it a big deal. I have a couple spare toothbrushes just because I'm obsessed with brushing my teeth and if something happened to mine (like my dog got ahold of it or something) at least I'd always have a spare. Plus they come in multi-packs. I'd offer it to a guy if he stayed the night.. just because. Although it is odd to have it on the counter with everyone elses who lives there.. but I guess he figures no one's going to use a tooth brush that isn't theirs and where else are you going to put it? No, I don't think it's any kind of milestone. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ja123 Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 It's very considerate that he offered you a toothbrush ... but, then, maybe he didn't want to smell your bad breath in the morning! It's not a bad sign that he offered, but it might not be enough to indicate that you're on solid ground relationship-wise, just yet. The idea of bringing your own toothbrush (or at this point some other personal item) to leave at his place, might be a good barometer ... apart from having the "exclusivity talk", that is. Sounds like things are going well, though! Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 Did you actually see it come out of a fresh box? Maybe he keeps a spare in the med cabinet and all the girls he has over use it No, no. That was thoughtful of him, but if you guys aren't exclusive I wouldn't read anything into it, just to be safe! It's not like toothbrushes are very expensive, etc, but it was nice of him. I wonder where it will be next time you go over. And I totally disagree with ja, DO NOT start leaving your personal stuff over there if you aren't even exclusive! OMG. that reeks of clingy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Jane2011 Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 The last guy I dated did the same thing as yours. He gave me a spare toothbrush and we kept it at his place for when I spent the night. He and I had the girlfriend/boyfriend talk and were set in being a couple, so it was offered for that reason. But I think it was also what someone above suggested; he probably wanted to make sure I had fresh teeth/breath to kiss him. I didn't mind that being part of his motive because I myself am fanatic about brushing my teeth and about men I date/kiss brushing theirs. And I do think it's kind of meaningful, even if you and the guy you're dating haven't had "the talk." It doesn't mean he wants to marry you, but I'd say it at least means he's satisfied and happy with your situation for the time being. Link to post Share on other sites
Jane2011 Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 Also, I agree it's more meaningful if you keep seeing it in the same place as if he's made you an unofficial roommate (the nights you spend the night, anyway). If he starts referring to "your toothbrush" in his bathroom, that might be more of an indicator. If each time you go over, it's like "want a spare toothbrush?" - less so. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
dasein Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 Can't stop the funny thought of his possible replies to "where should I put it when I'm done?" : "Just throw it away when you are done." "Put it back under the kitchen sink with the scrub pads." "Put it in the pantry on top of the box of dog biscuits." "Put it back in the cup in my roommate's bathroom, not the drinking cup, the one with the dentures." "Come in here and put it up my ass." "Come in here and put it up your ass." 2 Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 It could be one of two things- if a guy has a spare toothbrush around, it could mean he has alot of guests over, or two, he just has a spare toothbrush and he's being considerate. I have dated alot of guys with spare toothbrushes and the ones who usually become my boyfriends are the ones who just tells me to use theirs. Gross I know, but in a way it is nice to know they're comfortable with me using their toothbrush. If there is exclusivity, I would start leaving my own self- bought (pink) toothbrush in their bathrooms and even sanitary napkins. OP, you're thinking way too much! I would never share my toothbrush with someone unless I absolutely had no way of brushing. In which case Id use a good bit of Listerine afterwards and then buy us both new toothbrushes when I could. Lol its weird tho...because we all put our mouths all over our mates, but the toothbrush thing just irks me haha. Anyways, OP I agree you are over thinking. Theres really no way to know what he feels about your relationship from this simple gesture. If I was thinking about exclusivity with a girl Id be a tad more upfront and say "so maybe you should have a toothbrush here for when you visit.." And then give her an obvious smile. Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 Can't stop the funny thought of his possible replies to "where should I put it when I'm done?" : "Just throw it away when you are done." "Put it back under the kitchen sink with the scrub pads." "Put it in the pantry on top of the box of dog biscuits." "Put it back in the cup in my roommate's bathroom, not the drinking cup, the one with the dentures." "Come in here and put it up my ass." "Come in here and put it up your ass." :lmao::lmao: :lmao::lmao: Seriously, I am going to have a spare toothbrush when my BF next sleeps over (he usually uses mine) and use one of these. I don't have a toothbrush holder and put mine in my med cabinet, but he doesn't know that cause he just hands mine back to me and leaves the bathroom, then I use it. So tomorrow, we will brush our teeth with our separate toothbrushes (his brand new) and I will stand there, toothbrush in hand, silent, until he asks where to put his. I will answer appropriately (not sure which of your ideas I'll steal--maybe think of my own?) and then calmly put mine back in the med cabinet. Thanks dasein, I'm excited now 2 Link to post Share on other sites
dasein Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 Please let us know his reaction. If you choose one of the last two, tell him he owes me one. If one of the others, it was all your idea. Here's one more, "put it in that drawer... no, not that one, that's Jim's drawer." 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author new-girl Posted March 21, 2012 Author Share Posted March 21, 2012 Cheers guys, I had a good laugh at some of the replies, thanks to dasein, realise i may need to watch what I say next time lol. Yeah I actually pulled it out of the packet. To Jane2011, we had sex before we settled down into bed so don't think it was the fresh breath, and not in any way shape and form looking for a husband out of him...though thank you at the same time, input helped Link to post Share on other sites
oaks Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 "Come in here and put it up my ass." "Come in here and put it up your ass." These lines work best when it's one of those vibrating toothbrushes. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ninjainpajamas Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 Even though it was a nice gesture, I wouldn't necessarily go over-board in this assessment. However, about the "talk" which is the real determining factor...do you have any idea what he's looking for? has he made any remarks or hinted towards being in a relationship? It's funny how women try to be the man whisperer and figure out what this or that means, but you have to understand that men do A LOT of things without thinking it through or even realizing what they're doing which leaves a lot of these subtle "queues" to women contradicting and confusing. It could have popped in his mind for many different reasons, maybe he's obsessed with a clean mouth, maybe he's repulsed by a dirty one, maybe the last girl had kickin breathe and wanted to prevent a future case..the fact of the matter is with men It's usually the stupider reason than the "awww so sweet" reason, I can't tell you how many guys get credit for things they did on accident and they just go with it or never know. You need not try to read into things so much, you need to either bring it up or ask, or come up with a sneaky way to get the truth out without man detecting the "serious conversation". As clever and cunning as women can be, I'll never understand how they do not use that to divulge the truth/intentions from men....they only use it when being sneaky Alright, alright I know why...It's because you're afraid to hear the truth. Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 ....but you have to understand that men do A LOT of things without thinking it through or even realizing what they're doing which leaves a lot of these subtle "queues" to women contradicting and confusing. Yeah, this is what I always assume then I get caught out when something seemingly small and insignificant actually DOES mean something. You have to use common sense and hope it works 90% of the time. Link to post Share on other sites
TheSingleGuy Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 If a girl leaves a toothbrush at my house it gets thrown in the trash as soon as I notice it. Never had one ask about it either. Link to post Share on other sites
Plump Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 if a person has a spare brush, it means he or she has sex partners over and they have a spare one for the morning after sex. Usually players or whores or sluts....i met a few...one morning after sex with a woman from a bar..she offered a spare brush....I was like...WHORE!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
dasein Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 if a person has a spare brush, it means he or she has sex partners over and they have a spare one for the morning after sex. Usually players or whores or sluts....i met a few...one morning after sex with a woman from a bar..she offered a spare brush....I was like...WHORE!!!! LOL, it seems you are joking, but I never thought about it this way. I have 20 or so unopened toothbrushes because my mother has given them to me for years and I use a specific brand and type. Maybe I should put all but one in a different place. Link to post Share on other sites
thatone Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 Can't stop the funny thought of his possible replies to "where should I put it when I'm done?" : "Just throw it away when you are done." "Put it back under the kitchen sink with the scrub pads." "Put it in the pantry on top of the box of dog biscuits." "Put it back in the cup in my roommate's bathroom, not the drinking cup, the one with the dentures." "Come in here and put it up my ass." "Come in here and put it up your ass." haha the toothbrush is often enough used as a hint, in seriousness. girl who has been to my house or i have been to hers, shows up with a toothbrush, that's as obvious as it gets, short of saying "rip my panties off right now". although i have never had any sort of conversation about where to put it after the fact, admittedly. honestly i wouldn't be against sharing them after the fact. i mean, if my penis has been in her mouth and her clit has been in mine there's not a whole lot of reason why we can't use the same toothbrush at that point. but then again that has never happened either... i guess people are more apprehensive at upsetting someone else's toothbrush code than sticking their mouth around that person's genitals. whatever. Link to post Share on other sites
WoMann Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 if a person has a spare brush, it means he or she has sex partners over and they have a spare one for the morning after sex. Usually players or whores or sluts....i met a few...one morning after sex with a woman from a bar..she offered a spare brush....I was like...WHORE!!!! I agree with this. If he has a spare and you not a couple, it means he has girls over for all night orgy anal sex, with no condoms. Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 I would start leaving my own self- bought (pink) toothbrush in their bathrooms and even sanitary napkins. Who wears sanitary napkins these days? Tampons were invented decades ago. I always carry a toothbrush in my handbag so this has never been a problem for me. Link to post Share on other sites
dasein Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 I always carry a toothbrush in my handbag so this has never been a problem for me. shack pack Link to post Share on other sites
oaks Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 Tampons were invented decades centuries ago. I fixed that for you. Link to post Share on other sites
LBW Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 (edited) I keep spare toothbrushes around in case I need to change mine. I don't have random sex partners. (I'm female though, but I would assume the same applies to males.) When I've spent the night at my boyfriend's, I've used his toothbrush. When he spends nights at my place, he uses one of my spare brushes, which basically becomes "his brush" as it's brand new when he first uses it. I think you're over-analyzing the situation. Using each other's toothbrush/keeping one around doesn't really mean anything one way or the other, although it may be a step towards having a more serious relationship. Edited March 21, 2012 by LBW Link to post Share on other sites
LBW Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 LOL, it seems you are joking, but I never thought about it this way. I have 20 or so unopened toothbrushes because my mother has given them to me for years and I use a specific brand and type. This is how I get my spare brushes, too. My mom still mails them to me and I haven't lived at home for almost 10 years. Link to post Share on other sites
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