I really like this girl and I need all the advice can get, espcially from the ladies.

[RayJ16]

Before I start, I would love to accept any advice from anyone but the ladies can really help me out on this one.

 

Well I knew this girl for about a year and half, I'm 18;she's 17. I really like ever since then. She is the most beautiful girl i've ever saw. We always talk together a whole lot and we see each other a lot throughout the summer and spring. I've already to her how I've feel about her, and she said I was real nice and sweat and funny. We cant go out recently because her and her family is always busy, but always talk to each other when we can.

 

After talking to her for a good while, Its not only that I like her, I'm falling in love with her. I constanly think about her day and night, she is somebody that I really want to be with.

 

Well, the problem is not talking to her or telling her how I've feel, the problem is I'm a little nervous or afraid to commit. I have a week and a half before I talk to her in a while, so I really need to do this as soon as possible. I've thought about giving her a kiss, at least on the cheek, the next time I see her. And I've also wrote her a note, not to ask her out or anything or not rhyming but just to say certain things that come from my heart. I thing I'm just a little afraid of rejection and other people are present that kind of makes me nervous too, even though I dont think she would reject me.

 

Well can anyone give me any advice or tips? Am I making the right move? Ladies, How would you feel if a guy who likes you gives you a kiss or a note? And anyone experience how to approach a girl and give her a kiss the right way?

 

Thanks

[easylover]

Originally posted by RayJ16

Before I start, I would love to accept any advice from anyone but the ladies can really help me out on this one.

 

Well I knew this girl for about a year and half, I'm 18;she's 17. I really like ever since then. She is the most beautiful girl i've ever saw. We always talk together a whole lot and we see each other a lot throughout the summer and spring. I've already to her how I've feel about her, and she said I was real nice and sweat and funny. We cant go out recently because her and her family is always busy, but always talk to each other when we can.

 

After talking to her for a good while, Its not only that I like her, I'm falling in love with her. I constanly think about her day and night, she is somebody that I really want to be with.

 

Well, the problem is not talking to her or telling her how I've feel, the problem is I'm a little nervous or afraid to commit. I have a week and a half before I talk to her in a while, so I really need to do this as soon as possible. I've thought about giving her a kiss, at least on the cheek, the next time I see her. And I've also wrote her a note, not to ask her out or anything or not rhyming but just to say certain things that come from my heart. I thing I'm just a little afraid of rejection and other people are present that kind of makes me nervous too, even though I dont think she would reject me.

 

Well can anyone give me any advice or tips? Am I making the right move? Ladies, How would you feel if a guy who likes you gives you a kiss or a note? And anyone experience how to approach a girl and give her a kiss the right way?

 

Thanks

 

Ray, you are just the sweetest thing I've ever read! You should definitely give her a kiss and a note. you are too sweet to be rejected. xoxo

[lexnmike4enomore]

FLIRT FLIRT FLIRT!!!!!! There is no better way to show that you like her without actually telling her. She'll get the hint and if she flirts back and then you know that shes interested in you too. Try to also go on a "date" no an actual official date but ask her to the movies. Pay for her and she'll also get to see what a gentleman you are also. I do think that you are approaching this the wrong way. If you don't do ANYTHING soon, she might find a guy that she can get into a relationship with and that will crush you. She wont think anything of it b/c she thinks that you guys are just friends. Now with the kissing part. Try to invite her over for a movie (try watching it in your room). During the movie lay down and get comfy, hopefully she will to. Then when the movies over roll over to talk to her . So now you guys are face to face...then just kind of lean in. If shes a bitch she will back up and yell, but of shes interested she wont back up and theres your chance. But you have to start hanging out more and more so that these times can happen. If you don't hang out that often than nothing is going to happen and she has a chance to meet another guy. So think about it and let me know what happens.

[RayJ16]

thanks for the compliment easylover, and thanks for the advice lexnmike4e. I'm thinking about just giving it a shot. In a week i'll come back and tell everyone what happened.

[RayJ16]

thank up for the replies anyelse can help, I need all the advice I can get

[GARETHGATESFAN]

Originally posted by RayJ16

thank up for the replies anyelse can help, I need all the advice I can get

Hiya you should deffo go for it! just give her a note or tell her how u feel

go 4 a drink not 2 many tho then tell her maybe have a rose tucked sumwhere 4 her if all goes well

gud luck

[KK'sLove]

When a girl likes a guy, she will find ways to touch him, does her hand brush yours, she touches your arm and so on. Does she do this? I'm a 28 yr old gal and I love it if a man does the same, it shows me that he is interested in me. It also sends that "excited/nervous" feeling through me. You need to break the so called "friendship boundary line". Meaning, that physical space that is between you two, come in closer and stand or sit closer to her. See what her response is...does she move away or does she stay (if yes, she's waiting to see what you are going to do next), if she moves closer to you (she is definately interested and trying to tell you this).

 

A good way to start it is...first call her and ask her to hang out, come over, whatever, then grab something, maybe a book and sit close to her (touching your leg to hers) and show her what's in it. Your flirting with her but not over doing it. Now put the book down and see if she moves over, if she stays, again she's interested. Then turn on the tv and sit there, when you feel ready say "Hey, let's lay down and watch this". Lay on your side and put your arm out welcoming her to lay next to you. Then when she does, put your arm around her and hold her. Girls love this. Eventually, you can now, rub her back or strike up a conversation where she has to turn to look at you and then softly but passionately kiss her.

 

There are many ways to do this, but you need to let her know that you are interested in more than friendship and by being physically close she will get this. You are doing it in a charming way and you are taking the uncomfortableness that happens in a new relationship out before the relationship even starts. Girls love affection and when you show them that they are special enough to get yours, it can lead anywhere...you just need to have the courage to start.

 

I like the note idea...it's very sweet, but she might still think of you as a friend since that is all she physically and emotionally knows you as. It's when you break the "physical space" is when she will think of you as more.

 

I hope this all makes sense. I personally love it when a man (I like) takes charge and just grabs me and kisses me passionately but some girls might be offended. So I'm trying to give you ideas that aren't over-powering but yet it's still the same effect.

 

I'm curious to know what happens...make sure you tell us!

[RayJ16]

Well, because a change of events, I'll wont be able to see as often as I did. But, I did get her number, and I'm going call and try to ask her out to see spiderman 2(cause I know she would like to see this movie). I'm going to try to call tonight, but I'm a little nervous. Can ya help me? any tips about calling a girl on the phone, how often should I call?how do you feel when a guy calls, and if he calls more than once?

 

Thanks

[faux]

Originally posted by RayJ16

Before I start, I would love to accept any advice from anyone but the ladies can really help me out on this one.

 

Well I knew this girl for about a year and half, I'm 18;she's 17.

 

Wait until she is 18 to have a relationship with her, unless you want to commit a felony crime. As a person who is 18, you are not legally able to have a relationship with anyone else younger than the age of 18.

 

I really like ever since then. She is the most beautiful girl i've ever saw. We always talk together a whole lot and we see each other a lot throughout the summer and spring. I've already to her how I've feel about her, and she said I was real nice and sweat and funny. We cant go out recently because her and her family is always busy, but always talk to each other when we can.

 

After talking to her for a good while, Its not only that I like her, I'm falling in love with her. I constanly think about her day and night, she is somebody that I really want to be with.

 

Again, it just is not right to be with her until she turns 18.

 

Well, the problem is not talking to her or telling her how I've feel, the problem is I'm a little nervous or afraid to commit. I have a week and a half before I talk to her in a while, so I really need to do this as soon as possible. I've thought about giving her a kiss, at least on the cheek, the next time I see her.

 

Again, I know I sound really horrible, but at least in my state, if you are 18 and you kiss a 17 year old (open mouth kiss) that is a felony charge right there.

 

And I've also wrote her a note, not to ask her out or anything or not rhyming but just to say certain things that come from my heart. I thing I'm just a little afraid of rejection and other people are present that kind of makes me nervous too, even though I dont think she would reject me.

 

Well can anyone give me any advice or tips? Am I making the right move? Ladies, How would you feel if a guy who likes you gives you a kiss or a note? And anyone experience how to approach a girl and give her a kiss the right way?

 

Thanks

 

Assuming she was of legal age, I would recommend that you go up to her and talk to her. Writing a small note is also fine. It sounds as though you are just afraid of confronting her about how you truly feel. The sooner you tell her the better off you will feel, whether or nt she is interested. Again, I would not recommend pursuing this any further until she turns 18.

 

I know that a lot of people have a very common misconception about the law, which relates to "age of consent". In the United States of America, if you are age 18 or older, it is not legal to have a relationship with anyone under the age of 18. Yes: There are odd exceptions, but these are based NOT by state alone, but by county/municipality. It is best not to chance anything, and if you must know about laws in your area consult a licensed attorney or write to your Attorney General.

 

Until this girl is 18 here is my advice: Stay away from her.

[RayJ16]

in my state the legal age is 16

[RayJ16]

well I think it is, but i'll look into that

[RayJ16]

Well, I'll tell ya what happened. For a week I've been calling her to ask her, but it was always a reason why she could not talk or I couldn't get in touch with her. The thing is she never returned any of my calls, to me it seems like she does'nt care. I'm really kinda sad right now. But it took me this long to realize that she's probaly not interested.

 

Plus faux may be right anyway

[Shasta]

Hmm, I'm really not sure what kind of action you should take now. I had a guy interested in me for about two weeks, and then he wouldn't return my phone calls. It was rather heart-breaking, but I got over it and moved on. There are other "fish" in the sea! Open your eyes to the beauty of others around you, and not just this one chic.

[RayJ16]

Well, we've finally talked on the phone for a good while she seemed pretty excited when I called, and we had great conversations. , this is a pretty good sign.

[ard]

You have told the girl your feelings and so the hardest part of the job is done. Clearly she was not opposed to the idea of you two hooking up or she would have stopped being so congenial to you. Probably not unlike most girls (myself included), she is really waiting for you to make the first move. Its almost certain you will get a date out of her at the very least, she will not reject you at this point-- if she was unattracted to you she would have already made it known. Just go for it!

[Anshul]

Well I hope somebody can help with this problem of mine. I went in depression 3 years ago and came out 1 year ago from it . In depression I think I was a bad person basically after all the girls. Now that I am out of it and have a positive attitude to life, I feel highly scared to go beyond asking her name. When she tells me her name, I just feel satisfied that probably this is what is written in my life and i cannot go beyond, maybe she wouldnt like me cuz i m fat 158 kgs with thin arms and legs but a big belly.

 

I have bought cars and even a 90000NZ$ business in new zealand just to get a girl but to no avail so I have in effect given up hope. For me it doesnt matter. maybe they r not meant for me. I have not had a girlfriend in 8 years and now I am 26. Can anybody suggest any fine tips.

[Anshul]

I am of Indian origin but have never lived in India, and have travelled widely and studied in some of the best schools in the world. But in my beginning years in New Zealand I developed chronic depression and practically went to the negative end of lifes spectrum, by the time herbal medicine doctors revived me I was already 26 years of age possibly a bit too old for girls. My current weight is 158 kgs, I am fat but I do not have an inferiority complex because of that. I really like this girl in my doctors clinic. She is very cute. Every time I go she smiles and we have always had a decent conversation. I have always given her more than respect in body language. For example I always look in her eyes when I talk etc but the way she smiles, I think she knows i have some ideas on her in a nice way looming in my head lol. I have never ever thought of sleeping with her or any other demeaning thoughts. I just regard her as a good person but I like her. the trouble is the doctor is a good friend of my mother. Though I am 90% out of depression and still recovering, I have a fear if I walk upto her which is no problem at all and tell her what I feel, she might reject me cuz i had depression and was treated at her clinic. So I just go on some pretext once in 2 months see her, talk and feel satisfied and come back, think about her for few days and forget. I have been rejected by many girls for over 8 years, thus the fear of NO just exists above all the self confidence and energy I have gained in the last 8 months which are better than even some of the working individuals i know of.

 

If anybody can help me on how to approach her, I can think of what to do. I work at a cyber cafe and have high respect for her even though she is a born and bred New Zealander so plz no vulgar comments on this msg.

 

Cheers

[jared]

im only 13 and theres no age here to kiss anybody. at least i dont think so cause most people in my grade, including me, have french kissed a girl. i think u just have to be 18 to get married unless u have permission from ur parent or gardian b4 then