jondav Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 HI, A little over a week ago I went to a music festival and had a pretty good time. On the first night I met this girl next to the sound stage and we got chatting. this is unusual for me as I don't make many attempts to talk to strangers at gigs. For some reason we talked. We talked a lot. In just over one hour (the length of one band's set) we for some reason, talked to each other about everything from past relationships, to what we want to do with our lives, to stuff about my parenst passing away. Some big stuff for a first meeting. We shared her beer, I made a clumsy reference to her being cute. etc etc After about an hour she had to get up to go and take her friend back to her tent (her friend had drunk too much), but just as she went I said "where will you be tomorrow?" She said "around here" (meaning near the sound stage) I stood up. My friends instantly started hassling me saying did you get her number etc??? I hadn't but I said I had arranged to catch up. Unfortunately then then amount I had been drinking caught up with me and I felt pretty crap so I went for a walk. When I cam back to the sound stage, there she was, she had come back. But I was too ill to do anything and had to be taken back to my tent. The next day I took a while to rise and get moving and by the time I remembered where we were to meet up I couldn't find her. I saw here briefly through the crowd, and tried to get to her but I couldn't get close.The following day as I was leaving the festival I saw her walking away from the gate, but we were in a cue getting breathalyzed before the drive back to Melbourne. I have been in many relationships, and have many brief hook ups. Some thing feels different with this girl. There appears to be a real connection there. She asked of me "I want to hear all about your life" and I want to know more about her. My friends insist she was 'in' to me. and that I have stuffed it up. Cause it was our first meeting I didnt get her last name, but I know her age, the street she lives near, what she is planning on doing for a career. As well as a lot of other stuff about her. I know she is single, that was made clear early on. I don't believe in fate, but I do believe that you do meet people you connect with, and that can be rare. It has been a week and I cant find this girl, despite all the online searching I have done (even to the point of posting on an online music forum, to which I got nothing but mocking replies). I am not sixteen, I am an adult with an adult life an problems, but for some reason I really want to find this girl, sorry, woman. I guess you could say I am smitten. Its been a week, as i said and I am hoping that maybe you guys could help me answer some questions. 1. She lives in a street only about 15 mins drive away from here, but it is in Melbourne soit is a big street. Should I stop searching for her? 2. Is it pathetic to worry about this after only an hours meeting? 3. She hasn't tried to track me down as far as I can tel, so has she probably forgotten me? If so I feel an idiot, perhaps female forum members could help me here. 4. Basically do In give up after a week of fruitless searching? I don't want to become obsessed, but there is something about this person. As I said we did connect. Thanks for reading, I appreciate you listening to my infatuated ramblings Link to post Share on other sites
Author jondav Posted March 21, 2012 Author Share Posted March 21, 2012 Sorry for the typos! I should have proofread it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jondav Posted March 21, 2012 Author Share Posted March 21, 2012 anyone? any advice would be helpful, any at all Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 You could try an advert in the Personals section of her local newspaper - something like 'Would the pretty lady with long dark hair, jeans, blah, who I met at the sound stage at X festival on [date], please get in touch with me. We had a great conversation and I'd like the chance to talk again." Do you know her first name? If so, include that. Worth a try? Could also try putting her details on her local Gumtree internet site (if they have one there). Someone might recognise the description and know she went and might point out the ad to her. Another thing could be fan clubs for the bands you were watching? Did she mention a favourite band, gigs she'd been to? Sometimes these bands have forums on their sites and you could see if anyone recognises your description. Obviously you can't be too stalkery but I think there's no harm in asking her to contact you through various media and seeing what happens. Her friends might spot your ad and let her know. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
sid3 Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 I wouldn't say its pathetic, provided you don't get obsessed over it. Smitten is one of the greatest feelings IMO. Only you know what kind of connection there was, I just wonder if you misjudged it due to the drinking involved. Regardless, your best bet would likely be looking into some of the smaller local gigs featuring similar music. Like finding a needle in a hay stack, but it happens. Link to post Share on other sites
jk35058 Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 Stuff like this is just filled with regret.. I know you 2 had a connection but you should have gotten her number. You may not find her again sorry to say. Theres always next time and with that said you should always ask for basic info: name, Email/Facebook and number. If you connect like that. You can't let something slip away like that you know? Link to post Share on other sites
Author jondav Posted March 22, 2012 Author Share Posted March 22, 2012 You are right, I have her first name but I think I should let it go and next time not be such an idiot Link to post Share on other sites
Chs Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 Let me guess, it wasn't during the daytime you met her, probably around evening or later right? You talked and everything felt great about her, and it sure could be. However im pretty damn sure the whole festival thing and mood of the whole situation played a big role in the magic too, i have actually tried the same which is why im concluding this. Maybe if you actually found her and met her at a date on some café to just talk again it would be dull and nothing like the first time, you got a sweet memory from it so why not leave it at that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jondav Posted March 23, 2012 Author Share Posted March 23, 2012 Yes, I have decided to do exactly that, let it go and grow up. Cheers for listening to me guys Link to post Share on other sites
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