phineas Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 How do you ladies know how much a guy makes? The only millionaire I knew personally wore jeans & a sweatshirt with holes in it almost every day. He bought some beach property somewhere back in the 30's started with a some shacks he rented out & eventually built a resort. He lived in canada renting cabins to fisherman running a small motorboat on the lake & fishing. Frugal didn't even begin to describe him. Most guys I know who have money are paycheck to paycheck. Unless they run their own business. But then their cheap also. LOL! Link to post Share on other sites
sweetsmmr91 Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 How do you ladies know how much a guy makes? The only millionaire I knew personally wore jeans & a sweatshirt with holes in it almost every day. He bought some beach property somewhere back in the 30's started with a some shacks he rented out & eventually built a resort. He lived in canada renting cabins to fisherman running a small motorboat on the lake & fishing. Frugal didn't even begin to describe him. Most guys I know who have money are paycheck to paycheck. Unless they run their own business. But then their cheap also. LOL! Haha good point! I'm from Omaha so I'm always amazed at how normal Warren Buffet is. I guess the way women know is by career. When a guy says "I'm a history teacher" the women who care about money steer clear. But if a guy says "I'm a lawyer" they see the financial aspects they desire. Although I think a history teacher would be far, far more attractive than a lawyer or most businessmen. Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 For the women who make enough to support a family (modestly), doesn't that give you more flexibility in choosing a mate? He can come to the table with other skills and strengths, and a smaller salary, because you've got the high salary part covered. If the magic number is 120k, for instance, why would you both need to make that amt? You could each make 60k, and still get by. This. A woman who needs to know exactly how much I make is a woman Id never date. I probably wouldnt let a girl I was dating know how much cash I made until a couple years into our relationship. Its none of her business really. All I think we need to know about each other is that we are both ambitious, self sufficient, and not struggling to get by. If we both have enough money to take care of ourselves and still have some spending cash for fun things to do...then all is good. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
tigressA Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 I make enough. I really like my job. I'm happy with my life. I certainly would have no problem dating someone in the same position. I don't ever ask a guy how much money he makes, though if he wants to volunteer that information, it's fine. I don't want children, and I don't desire marriage. I don't even think I will be with one person for more than five years. So I don't require or otherwise give a d*mn about the 'stability' that supposedly comes with higher earnings. Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 Oh, my BFF has a bachelors and works in a childrens hosp making $13/ hr. I'm honestly flabbergasted at the idea of requiring ONE PERSON to make 120k. Hilarious. This. Many families in the USA barely sniff 6 figures combined. A solo income of over 6 figures is upper class and super rare. Good luck OP. Thats less than 3% of the population. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
tigressA Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 This. Many families in the USA barely sniff 6 figures combined. A solo income of over 6 figures is upper class and super rare. Good luck OP. Thats less than 3% of the population. Not to mention that the guy will likely be working a lot of hours...if you want to marry a man primarily for his earning capability, you know what they say: you will earn every penny of it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 Haha good point! I'm from Omaha so I'm always amazed at how normal Warren Buffet is. I guess the way women know is by career. When a guy says "I'm a history teacher" the women who care about money steer clear. But if a guy says "I'm a lawyer" they see the financial aspects they desire. Although I think a history teacher would be far, far more attractive than a lawyer or most businessmen. I can tell you this...my dad is a defense attorney and he will tell you from years on the job that most lawyers are broke as all hell. Between student loans, rent, car payments, and whatever else...most lawyers make bunk. Theres so many lawyer out there and loads of competition. Never mind that fact that if your a private attorney and not with a firm, that its a lot tougher to get cases from the state. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Sanman Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 This. Many families in the USA barely sniff 6 figures combined. A solo income of over 6 figures is upper class and super rare. Good luck OP. Thats less than 3% of the population. Yes and no. I would say that 50% of my friends and family circle make six figures. Those who do generally travel in the same circles (well-educated people from top colleges). Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 This. Many families in the USA barely sniff 6 figures combined. A solo income of over 6 figures is upper class and super rare. Good luck OP. Thats less than 3% of the population. Excuse me. Let me amend my statement. After some sleuthing, solo incomes are actually around 4 to 6% of the population depending on statistical source. Thats still super rare, especially when you have to factor in everything else that would make a guy compatible with you OP. Not to mention that the guy will likely be working a lot of hours...if you want to marry a man primarily for his earning capability, you know what they say: you will earn every penny of it. Agree. Id expect an unhappy marriage if someone married mostly out of the need for money...and if someone is kool sharing a life with someone they settled for...then so be it. Thats a failed marriage waiting to happen. Link to post Share on other sites
Sanman Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 I can tell you this...my dad is a defense attorney and he will tell you from years on the job that most lawyers are broke as all hell. Between student loans, rent, car payments, and whatever else...most lawyers make bunk. Theres so many lawyer out there and loads of competition. Never mind that fact that if your a private attorney and not with a firm, that its a lot tougher to get cases from the state. Agreed. A lot people make the assumption that all professionals make a lot after they graduate. The truth is that between loans and trying to setup a life and play catch up, many of us are hardly rich. More than a few are just getting by. Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 (edited) Yes and no. I would say that 50% of my friends and family circle make six figures. Those who do generally travel in the same circles (well-educated people from top colleges). Reread my posts. I said many households dont sniff 6 figures. Look it up. Plenty are under 100k combined. Also, when only 5% of individuals make over six figures how is that not rare? So no, its not "yes and no". Its simply yes. "Of those individuals with income who were older than 25 years of age, over 42% had incomes below $25,000 while the top 10% had incomes exceeding $82,500 a year. The distribution of income among individuals differs substantially from household incomes as 42% of all households had two or more income earners. As a result 20.5% of households have six figure incomes, even though only 6.24% of Americans had incomes exceeding $100,000. The following chart shows the income distribution among all 211,492,000 individuals aged 15 or higher who received income in 2010 as recorded by the United States Census Bureau.[10]" http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Personal_income_in_the_United_States Edited March 22, 2012 by kaylan 1 Link to post Share on other sites
fortyninethousand322 Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 My parents barely crack 40k a year (for a family of five). Interestingly enough though, I live in the richest county in the US. Go figure. You really can live on very little in this country. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TheBigQuestion Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 I can tell you this...my dad is a defense attorney and he will tell you from years on the job that most lawyers are broke as all hell. Between student loans, rent, car payments, and whatever else...most lawyers make bunk. Theres so many lawyer out there and loads of competition. Never mind that fact that if your a private attorney and not with a firm, that its a lot tougher to get cases from the state. When I was still single, telling girls that I was going to law school frequently made their eyes light up. I was well-informed enough to know the reasons they had for their heightened interests were gross exaggerations, but I was savvy enough to not try and correct em, if ya catch my drift. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Avarage Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 Man some of you guys are high earner's. I only make around 30k a year (could make more if I was an overtime glutton), and you's are talking about triple digits. Oh well different strokes for different people I guess. I'd rather have the job that I love rather than a high income. Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 Yes, I'm curious those of you like Spookie and Star, you'd turn down say a teacher based on his income? And how do you know someone making 120k isn't up to his eyeballs in debt? You could know he's a Dr so obv making $$ but are you concerned about what he actually takes home....I'd assume so. Do you ask? Link to post Share on other sites
sweetsmmr91 Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 Man some of you guys are high earner's. I only make around 30k a year (could make more if I was an overtime glutton), and you's are talking about triple digits. Oh well different strokes for different people I guess. I'd rather have the job that I love rather than a high income. Good I think that's the most attractive quality in a person, he/she doesn't settle for doing things she/he doesn't love or get fulfillment from. Link to post Share on other sites
Untouchable_Fire Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 Man some of you guys are high earner's. I only make around 30k a year (could make more if I was an overtime glutton), and you's are talking about triple digits. Oh well different strokes for different people I guess. I'd rather have the job that I love rather than a high income. The more you make the more they take. 30k is kind of a sweet spot for disposable income provided you don't live in some place like San Fransisco. Technically if you are working the system you can have more disposable income than someone making 60k a year. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kiss_andmakeup Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 My last boyfriend made $35. Loved 'im to pieces. My current boyfriend makes over $200k. Love 'im to pieces. Be able to support yourself and love what you do. Those are my requirements. Link to post Share on other sites
Imajerk17 Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 What about not only how much he makes, but whether he SAVES any money? I would say that someone making $50k who is able to put away $5k a year (easy to do if he lives like he's making $40k) is financially better off than someone making $100k whose lifestyle won't let him save. Those of you requiring 6 figures can scale the numbers in my example up appropriately. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 (edited) Hilarious? It's around what most professionals my age in my area earn. Really? Do you know any teachers or accountants or cops or social workers, or is the $$ what makes someone a professional? Or do those professions earn someone 120k.at 33? Edited March 22, 2012 by veggirl 3 Link to post Share on other sites
verhrzn Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 When I was still single, telling girls that I was going to law school frequently made their eyes light up. I was well-informed enough to know the reasons they had for their heightened interests were gross exaggerations, but I was savvy enough to not try and correct em, if ya catch my drift. My eyes would light up because I would assume you're academically minded and value debate and logic. Now, if you had said you were going for CORPORATE law, I'd be a little bit more skeptical. I have no idea where some people get the idea that all lawyers make a lot of money. But at any rate, some of those girls might actually have been into you for reasons other than your "potential income." Just... keep it in mind. Link to post Share on other sites
Dust Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 Yes, I'm curious those of you like Spookie and Star, you'd turn down say a teacher based on his income? And how do you know someone making 120k isn't up to his eyeballs in debt? You could know he's a Dr so obv making $$ but are you concerned about what he actually takes home....I'd assume so. Do you ask? Yes and those two seem to do horrible with men. Both have at times come on here putting down what they do for a living... a pattern? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Sanman Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 (edited) Really? Do you know any teachers or accountants or cops or social workers, or is the $$ what makes someone a professional? Or do those professions earn someone 120k.at 33? There are accountants that make that much. I also know teachers at private schools making $90k. Thus is NYC Edited March 22, 2012 by Sanman Link to post Share on other sites
Dust Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 There are accountants that make that much. I also know teachers at private schools making $90k. Thus is NYC teachers on Long Island make over 100k and get pensions. Bottom line money a special person a does not make. I also know how to live well on practicly nothing. The art of living well is one many people never grasp. Link to post Share on other sites
Sanman Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 Kaylan, My reply to you disappeared, so a quick run down. My point was that those with high incomes often travel in the same the social circles as each other. Thus, a nurse of physician that may know other physicians, nurses, etc is more likely to find a higher earning spouse than, say, a waiter or waitress that does not travel in those circles. Link to post Share on other sites
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