Author spookie Posted March 23, 2012 Author Share Posted March 23, 2012 spookie, WTF. You want a man to make 120k so he doesn't slow down your lifestyle or impede financially on it. But then you expect him, a single man making 120k, to support you and your hypothetical children until they go to school on his 120k. Sooo. You can impede on his cash flow, but he better damn not on yours? and like a month ago you were cool with running away to Cali to like live in a van with your ex. Okay girl. Theyre his hypothetical kids too. who said anything about a van? My ex is really smart, his earning potential is likely several times my requirement. Link to post Share on other sites
Sanman Posted March 23, 2012 Share Posted March 23, 2012 Wait, we know that star gazer makes her $120k. How much does spookie make? Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted March 23, 2012 Share Posted March 23, 2012 Spookie has a great body, so what difference does it make? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
zengirl Posted March 23, 2012 Share Posted March 23, 2012 Theyre his hypothetical kids too. who said anything about a van? My ex is really smart, his earning potential is likely several times my requirement. This comment is interesting, re: intelligence. Define earning potential. Does the man have to be making that or have made that? Does he have to want to make that? Many people have high earning potential who never make high earnings! I mean, my earning potential is DEFINITELY in the 6-figure range. I could easily do any number of things that pay extremely well. I'm never going to do most of them, because they would feel soul-sucking, and who knows if I'll get around to the others? (I could theoretically still write my way into millions, but probably won't.) 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author spookie Posted March 23, 2012 Author Share Posted March 23, 2012 This comment is interesting, re: intelligence. Define earning potential. Does the man have to be making that or have made that? Does he have to want to make that? Many people have high earning potential who never make high earnings! I mean, my earning potential is DEFINITELY in the 6-figure range. I could easily do any number of things that pay extremely well. I'm never going to do most of them, because they would feel soul-sucking, and who knows if I'll get around to the others? (I could theoretically still write my way into millions, but probably won't.) Will be making in the future if he tries. Acceptable reasons for not wanting to try include making a legitimate difference in the world or seriously pursuing passion for which he has talent. Link to post Share on other sites
zengirl Posted March 23, 2012 Share Posted March 23, 2012 Will be making in the future if he tries. Acceptable reasons for not wanting to try include making a legitimate difference in the world or seriously pursuing passion for which he has talent for. Interesting. Yes, making a difference in the world often hits income potential IME. As does following your passions. If those are "acceptable reasons" then what happens if you marry a man who tries, follows his passions, makes a difference, and falls way short of your income requirements? Income is either a status thing or a practical thing. This idea makes it sound like a status thing (a way to judge a man's talents and worth) but before you phrased it as a practical thing (good schools, etc). Two VERY different things, IMO. Link to post Share on other sites
Author spookie Posted March 23, 2012 Author Share Posted March 23, 2012 Interesting. Yes, making a difference in the world often hits income potential IME. As does following your passions. If those are "acceptable reasons" then what happens if you marry a man who tries, follows his passions, makes a difference, and falls way short of your income requirements? Income is either a status thing or a practical thing. This idea makes it sound like a status thing (a way to judge a man's talents and worth) but before you phrased it as a practical thing (good schools, etc). As I have stated several pages back, I would be fine with this scenario, if he was legitimately working hard and making a difference. Wih my earning potential we could make that work. For the majority that is halfheartedly sucking corporate dcik tho, I expect him to be a combo of smart and hardworking enough to bring home some whole foods quality bacon. Link to post Share on other sites
Author spookie Posted March 23, 2012 Author Share Posted March 23, 2012 Zg, I do t honk it's either or. There would be a benefit to being with the kind of guy who makes a difference and is passionate hardworking and intelligent that would compensate for the mediocre schools IMO. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted March 23, 2012 Share Posted March 23, 2012 And youre def the kind of chick Ill be on my knee presenting an awesome ring to one day. Panda IS awesome. Too bad you're closed minded against a minor skin virus. Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted March 23, 2012 Share Posted March 23, 2012 Zg, I do t honk it's either or. There would be a benefit to being with the kind of guy who makes a difference and is passionate hardworking and intelligent that would compensate for the mediocre schools IMO. Don't be too pessimistic about schools. Many middle-class neighborhoods have excellent schools. Many middle-class neighborhoods share schools with the upper-middle class neighborhoods (like my kids' schools ). Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted March 23, 2012 Share Posted March 23, 2012 Zg, I do t honk it's either or. I do t honk, too. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author spookie Posted March 23, 2012 Author Share Posted March 23, 2012 I do t honk, too. iPhone autocorrect fail Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted March 23, 2012 Share Posted March 23, 2012 Panda IS awesome. Too bad you're closed minded against a minor skin virus. Dont steer the convo in that direction. Its not close minded for someone to want to avoid a virus. End of discussion. Link to post Share on other sites
Jeremy87 Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 As I have stated several pages back, I would be fine with this scenario, if he was legitimately working hard and making a difference. Wih my earning potential we could make that work. For the majority that is halfheartedly sucking corporate dcik tho, I expect him to be a combo of smart and hardworking enough to bring home some whole foods quality bacon. i know someone who makes over 200k, ivy ecucated. just for you. actually never mind, he's not that fit. too bad for you. Link to post Share on other sites
zengirl Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 Zg, I do t honk it's either or. There would be a benefit to being with the kind of guy who makes a difference and is passionate hardworking and intelligent that would compensate for the mediocre schools IMO. Many of the best schools here are in middle-class neighborhoods. Income does matter in the school base, but after a certain point (middle class, really), it's as much about other factors. Link to post Share on other sites
RiverRunning Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 The average income for a family in my area is just over $20k a year...so the cost of living here is rather low. If I could find a man who makes $25k a year, I would be VERY happy. I don't need a high-falutin' money maker. Last boyfriend was making about $70k a year, and while it was cool to get to go out often because of that...honestly it wasn't a big deal. I plan to work during the course of any relationship/marriage too. But $25k is a minimum; I would still consider dating a guy who's unemployed as long as he's actively looking for work. Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 I still wanna know when you discuss salary with potentials, and after salary I assume would come debt to income ratio? Or wait. Much like "everyone I know makes minimum 100k", I assume "everyone I know has no debt other than a student loan they could pay off with one paycheck if they wanted" ? general question, of course. Link to post Share on other sites
sLiPpeTh Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 I'll keep my wallet all for myself thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
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