hwytech Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 In February of last year my wife left cause I put a stop to her 15 year old daughters 19 year old bf stay at our house plus my wife just got off probation and started smoking dope and I wouldn't allow that cause we raised our kids to SAY NO TO DRUGS and she's doing it so she left moved in with my ex wife who is into drugs heavy she was there for 3 months met a Guy at a bar her and the ex was at took him to the exs house and done coke and dope and slept with him that was a Friday come that Monday she was living she now collects cans for cigarettes and he supports her habit she's bipolar but he wont let her have her meds he wants her to self medicate herself with dope I just don't understand I gave her the world and this is how she wants to live HELP ME UNDERSTAND PLEASE Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 In February of last year my wife left cause I put a stop to her 15 year old daughters 19 year old bf stay at our house plus my wife just got off probation and started smoking dope and I wouldn't allow that cause we raised our kids to SAY NO TO DRUGS and she's doing it so she left moved in with my ex wife who is into drugs heavy she was there for 3 months met a Guy at a bar her and the ex was at took him to the exs house and done coke and dope and slept with him that was a Friday come that Monday she was living she now collects cans for cigarettes and he supports her habit she's bipolar but he wont let her have her meds he wants her to self medicate herself with dope I just don't understand I gave her the world and this is how she wants to live HELP ME UNDERSTAND PLEASE Help ME understand! She does drugs, is bipolar, was okay with a 19y/o MAN staying with your 15 y/o little girl, snorts coke, smokes pot, moved in with your ex-wife who does the same thing? Now, she's shacking up with the guy she's sleeping with and is barely making it and is one step away to being in a shelter? Here's what you need to understand. You see a lawyer. You file for full custody of those kids and protect them from her destructive behavior. Those kids are your number one priority now. Protect those kids! There's nothing you can do for your WW. She made a choice. She took this path, you didn't. She made her bed, now she has to lay in it. and do not let her bring you and those kids down to her level. She isn't the woman that you married. That woman is gone. So, now you got to do what you got to do to protect the kids. Link to post Share on other sites
Black Jack Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 In February of last year my wife left cause I put a stop to her 15 year old daughters 19 year old bf stay at our house plus my wife just got off probation and started smoking dope and I wouldn't allow that cause we raised our kids to SAY NO TO DRUGS and she's doing it so she left moved in with my ex wife who is into drugs heavy she was there for 3 months met a Guy at a bar her and the ex was at took him to the exs house and done coke and dope and slept with him that was a Friday come that Monday she was living she now collects cans for cigarettes and he supports her habit she's bipolar but he wont let her have her meds he wants her to self medicate herself with dope I just don't understand I gave her the world and this is how she wants to live HELP ME UNDERSTAND PLEASE Wow quite a marriage there. She's a bipolar cheating druggie and your daughter moved in with those unhealthy people? Have you filed for divorce yet? If not then you need to right away. Get your daughter out of there and into rehab before she ends up on the streets and something terrible happens to her. There's no telling to what else is going on in that dope house. File for sole custody man. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hwytech Posted March 21, 2012 Author Share Posted March 21, 2012 But the girls r my step children Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 Talk to a lawyer. See what you can do. If you love those kids and want to provide them a better life and a safer environment then you need to try. Doesn't hurt to talk to a lawyer and see what your options are. Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 Child services is where this needs to be addressed. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 Child services is where this needs to be addressed. I agree with this also. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 Your wife feels low because of her actions and would rather be around losers because she feels like a loser right now. Being around you or similar minded people make her feel like the loser she is right now. I hope you can get over her because she has a long road back from recovery. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hwytech Posted March 22, 2012 Author Share Posted March 22, 2012 Children services were called and they investigated it and I was being an upset person cause she left the girls r mad now and wont come around cause she lets them do whatever they want Link to post Share on other sites
marqueemoon4 Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 f*ck her. period. Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 Right...did you tell/show child services her paraphenalia? Did you explain to child services that your wife was allowing (against your wishes) a 19 year old to "sleep with" your 15 year old daughter? I'm going to note that I'm giving the benefit of the doubt to this story right now...there's a lot here that's not adding up. Either we're not hearing the whole story, or... Link to post Share on other sites
standtall Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 Call child services and get rid of her. Case closed..you've done all you can. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hwytech Posted March 22, 2012 Author Share Posted March 22, 2012 I have told children services and showed them it all I have all that has happened and not hiding nothing cause I'm hurting so bad I'm just needing good advice we were together for 14 years her was 7 and now 22 so there's no more to tell Link to post Share on other sites
Black Jack Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 I have told children services and showed them it all I have all that has happened and not hiding nothing cause I'm hurting so bad I'm just needing good advice we were together for 14 years her was 7 and now 22 so there's no more to tell Nothing at this point I can do to advise you. I just hope that your situation will be better soon. God Bless. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 Did you have a question? Either way - my suggestion to all the info you posted was RUN!!! Stay as far away as possible from her and THAT world she lives in! Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 I have told children services and showed them it all I have all that has happened and not hiding nothing cause I'm hurting so bad I'm just needing good advice we were together for 14 years her was 7 and now 22 so there's no more to tell You may want to try writing COMPLETE sentences that convey a CLEAR message - THEN ASKING your question. Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted March 23, 2012 Share Posted March 23, 2012 because she feels like a loser right now. That's because she is a loser. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hwytech Posted March 27, 2012 Author Share Posted March 27, 2012 Well her Grandma who pretty much raised her died this weekend and her and I got along great don't know if I should go to the funeral Link to post Share on other sites
oldguy Posted March 27, 2012 Share Posted March 27, 2012 Where do you find these women? Wherever it is I would start hanging out somewhere else. Seriously, I would be more concerned about the kids, they learn what they see, not what their told & I'd be scared to death of what they've learned so far. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hwytech Posted April 8, 2012 Author Share Posted April 8, 2012 im a really bad off shape drunk needing help folks i can seem to get over her my wife im jelous cause shes with someone and all i do is stay drunk to forget for awhile please help me Link to post Share on other sites
jaymz Posted April 8, 2012 Share Posted April 8, 2012 You cant do anything when drunk. You have been given great advice on here already. Man up and start doing. Start today. Link to post Share on other sites
ThatDudeXO Posted April 8, 2012 Share Posted April 8, 2012 That isn't the actions of a wife. Those are the actions of a crazed, low life drug addict. When she recovers (which will take a while) she will probably beg for you back but I advise you to get rid of her asap, no matter how long you were together, she needs to be out of your life asap. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hwytech Posted May 11, 2012 Author Share Posted May 11, 2012 Well my daughter called me yesterday and told me that the my wife lives with gave her herpes Link to post Share on other sites
irin Posted May 11, 2012 Share Posted May 11, 2012 arrange rehab for her against her will, there they will also make sure she has her bipolar taken care off, she needs professional help. you have the opportunity to save her from her self. also after shes okay and had he treatment then try to sort out you marriage, and go from there whether its divorce or counselling. but right now she needs immediate help, and also please stop drinking. hope your situation gets better:( Link to post Share on other sites
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