wibe Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 Do you have some nice resources of free e-books, please? I found just five free e-books on the topic "Get ex back" I would like to share all of them, many thanks. Cheers Wibe. Resources: how to make him want you back Link to post Share on other sites
WildHorses Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 Honestly, those books are a waste of money. Don't pay for a book on how to get an ex back. I have done that in my past...things you should know basically is to not do terrorist texting. Do not call them. If they want to talk to you, they will reach out. This is now time for you to do self-reflection. No contact is the best way to go. Not only will this maybe have them contact you, but you are also improving on yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
cincinnatikid Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 These books are a racket. Save your money. If you want to make an investment at all, work on yourself. Go to Amazon and buy a book called "Go Suck a Lemon," it provides plenty of work for yourself on how to improve your emotional intelligence. Outside of that..hit the gym, work on you, focus on you, set some goals for yourself, achieve those goals. DO NOT contact them (at least not for a verrrry long time) I say a minimum of at least one year, if at all. Link to post Share on other sites
marqueemoon4 Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 You'll get way better advice on here. Fo free. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
mike588 Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 I agree...their a waste of money. Do what I and others have done...Go strict No Contact...DO NOT contact your ex in any way for any reason. I went N.C. not to get her back but to heal and move on and it worked...she also contacted ME 6 months later. Link to post Share on other sites
Chs Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 I hate these books so much, nothing works and everyones situation is different yet they always have the same stupid advice that doesen't work and are only written to work for exes that already have thoughts of getting back themself. I feel it's taking advantage of heartbroken desperate people and i despise them for that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author wibe Posted March 23, 2012 Author Share Posted March 23, 2012 The books are for free too! Link to post Share on other sites
Author wibe Posted March 23, 2012 Author Share Posted March 23, 2012 I agree...their a waste of money. Do what I and others have done...Go strict No Contact...DO NOT contact your ex in any way for any reason. I went N.C. not to get her back but to heal and move on and it worked...she also contacted ME 6 months later. Can you post whole post about how you reach it? Many thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
Author wibe Posted March 23, 2012 Author Share Posted March 23, 2012 I hate these books so much, nothing works and everyones situation is different yet they always have the same stupid advice that doesen't work and are only written to work for exes that already have thoughts of getting back themself. I feel it's taking advantage of heartbroken desperate people and i despise them for that. Well, maybe you will like a some story telling, because I like it so much. No just tips, but real story from reality. Is that correct? Link to post Share on other sites
Author wibe Posted March 23, 2012 Author Share Posted March 23, 2012 You'll get way better advice on here. Fo free. Can you specify? Why? Because for me are usefull too. But thank you for your honest advice BTW. I appreciate it! Link to post Share on other sites
Author wibe Posted March 23, 2012 Author Share Posted March 23, 2012 These books are a racket. Save your money. If you want to make an investment at all, work on yourself. Go to Amazon and buy a book called "Go Suck a Lemon," it provides plenty of work for yourself on how to improve your emotional intelligence. Outside of that..hit the gym, work on you, focus on you, set some goals for yourself, achieve those goals. DO NOT contact them (at least not for a verrrry long time) I say a minimum of at least one year, if at all. Waaaw, it sounds good. I checked your book and it seems to have plenty of the good advises. Emotional intelligence is important in any part of the life. right?Many thanks. Cheers Wibe. Link to post Share on other sites
Author wibe Posted March 23, 2012 Author Share Posted March 23, 2012 Honestly, those books are a waste of money. Don't pay for a book on how to get an ex back. I have done that in my past...things you should know basically is to not do terrorist texting. Do not call them. If they want to talk to you, they will reach out. This is now time for you to do self-reflection. No contact is the best way to go. Not only will this maybe have them contact you, but you are also improving on yourself. Thank you, but some free tips are not bad at all by me it is free, you have not to pay for it! Link to post Share on other sites
OptimisticChiq Posted April 17, 2012 Share Posted April 17, 2012 (edited) Hi! I'm just new here. Anyhoo, after weeks and weeks AND weeks of looking at videos and e-book previews of ex-back books and relationship expert advice, I decided to just turn away from almost all of them. Okay some advice worked (like improving oneself) but not everything. While reverse psychology works on some people, I found out the hard way that it did not on the guy I was with (took that "agree with the breakup" advice that comes free in 2 sites, i drove ex far away). As an emotionally upfront guy, reasoning did kind of work on him, and "let's fix this" would have made things better. Yes, I regret how I handled the issue. I sincerely wanted to talk to him - he wanted to talk too, but he's shut me out now! Oh well! The only one that is different I think is Emma Audley's and Michael Fiore's. I didn't buy hers but she criticizes the letter (she says those kinds of second chance letters are selfish and for people with abandonment issues), or whatever but focused really on being loving, caring yet unattached to your ex via limited contact. Michael Fiore's text system works but he himself says it isn't 100% successful, so you know that it's dependent per case. I am focused now on finding ways to talk to my ex-guy and discuss things sincerely! Edited April 17, 2012 by OptimisticChiq Link to post Share on other sites
Reddice Posted April 17, 2012 Share Posted April 17, 2012 I downloaded some books too. Free of charge as well thanks to our friends from the piratebay (yes, it's legal where I live). I tried some things, but it's not really helpfull. Most books basically advise you to contact your ex after a month, but to "make sure you are really over him/her". I just don't see how anyone could be over their ex within a month though. Either way, I tried it, made an appointment with my ex, and.... she flaked. So there! Thanks for nothing. Next advice the books give (if it doesn't work out) is to continue working on yourself and contact him/her again after another month. Riiiiight... Not this guy! I will proceed with NC till the end of times. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
OptimisticChiq Posted April 17, 2012 Share Posted April 17, 2012 I downloaded some books too. Free of charge as well thanks to our friends from the piratebay (yes, it's legal where I live). I tried some things, but it's not really helpfull. Most books basically advise you to contact your ex after a month, but to "make sure you are really over him/her". I just don't see how anyone could be over their ex within a month though. Either way, I tried it, made an appointment with my ex, and.... she flaked. So there! Thanks for nothing. Next advice the books give (if it doesn't work out) is to continue working on yourself and contact him/her again after another month. Riiiiight... Not this guy! I will proceed with NC till the end of times. Okay so out of curiosity which books did you get to download? The lesson I learned from this was "to each his/her own".. and that you have to get over the breakup and concept of emotional attachment, not the person per se (because what's the point of trying to get back with someone you don't have ANY feelings for anymore) I still regret the day I typed "I agree with the breakup".. no psychological triggers work on my ex, just plain honesty! Link to post Share on other sites
Reddice Posted April 17, 2012 Share Posted April 17, 2012 I believe they were called something like: Second Chance Romance - How to Get Your Ex Back Now! Save Your Marriage/Get Your Ex Back Get your Ex Back I still regret the day I typed "I agree with the breakup".. no psychological triggers work on my ex, just plain honesty! I find the psychological triggers explained in the books not completely logical. Reason for this is that there is a certain emotional connection already in place with your ex. This means they have already formed an opinion on you and have already made a decision. The psychological triggers they are using, are better suited for the dating game. A bit of mystery and pulling back might help you win over somebody there, but that's also because they are curious to see what will happen next. Most of our exes KNOW what will happen next, because they have gotten to know us and learned read us incredibly well. They have been so close to us that they know every move, every thought. That is also the reason why many of us can be so easily manipulated by them. The only thing we can do is grow some balls (yes, the ladies as well) and find the courage to face life without them. Many times, ironically, once your life has settled down they come knocking. And even if they don't come, we have advanced enough to not care. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
zoomzoom Posted April 17, 2012 Share Posted April 17, 2012 These books are a racket. Save your money. If you want to make an investment at all, work on yourself. Go to Amazon and buy a book called "Go Suck a Lemon," it provides plenty of work for yourself on how to improve your emotional intelligence. Outside of that..hit the gym, work on you, focus on you, set some goals for yourself, achieve those goals. DO NOT contact them (at least not for a verrrry long time) I say a minimum of at least one year, if at all. I just ordered that book, Would you say it helped you out??? Link to post Share on other sites
Eddie Edirol Posted April 17, 2012 Share Posted April 17, 2012 I still regret the day I typed "I agree with the breakup".. no psychological triggers work on my ex, just plain honesty! The reason this doesnt work, is because saying this to a dumper takes the weight off their shoulders, which sends them guilt free into the next persons arms. They think you knew that the relationship didnt work like they knew. If someone was using the breakup as a tactic to make you work harder for them, then this might screw them up a lil bit. The books stink because they say to contact your ex after a month. It supposed to be much later, like a year. But the writers know people cant help themselves and need the soonest timetable to contact their ex to test the waters. So the book can never work. Whats really supposed to happen, and it usually does, is the dumpee gets rejected, and after a year or so, they improve themselves and realize that their dumper isnt good enough for them. Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts