Lonely_lonely Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 Hiya ,First let me say that this is not the account owner,im just using hers because I dont feel like signing up and she let me use it I'm Jessie and here is my story I knew this man for quite a while now, he is charming, handsome, mature and he has everytime I want in the man of my dreams, me and him talked for about 2 years on and off, (because i wasnt intrested to get in a relationship at that time even though he is perfect) ,he always showed intrest in me and wanted to get to know me but I was hesitant about it since we live far away from each other and I'm not intrested in LDRs. Now we are back talking BUT -When we are texting his responses are very short! One word sometimes. -he takes hours to reply , sometimes he takes days! 4-5 at most . -his longest replies are when we talking about sex and fantasies -he always seems distant. I'm confused he seems not intrested but whenever we talk He complains why I don't talk to him much and why he has always to be the first one to hit me up! I don't hit him up because It's just a weird situation , it makes me uncomfortable, I still like him a lot though! , he tells me that he wants us to meet soon and he is planning for it and whenever we talk he talks about that upcoming trip. I always reply whenever he texts and I don't mention that it bothers me that he disappears , I act normal like I don't notice that he was gone . He hit me up just now after he disappeared for 5 days asking me if we are ever going to talk again?! What does he want ? He is not intrested ? What can I do to get closer to him and get him more responsive to me ! Is there any "dating techniques" I can pull on him to get him closer to me ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lonely_lonely Posted March 22, 2012 Author Share Posted March 22, 2012 Can someone please reply Link to post Share on other sites
LDR234 Posted March 23, 2012 Share Posted March 23, 2012 Hey Jessie, Sounds like a guy i know from OkC. He was going off to Hawaii (he is in the army) the next day, but I felt that we really hit it off. We went on one date, but I knew that he wasn't going to take me seriously in an LDR. He has been with so many women that he can't even give me a number! But he is like what you say here. He is responsive at intervals and I feel like I am always the one initiates. He is definitely more responsive when it is a convo with tons of flirting. I felt it was a bad idea to keep in contact with him. We were never going to go any where. I ended up meeting another guy on OkC (who also happens to be military--AF tho) and in a much healthier relationship with him. I ended up just blocking the army guy on my phone to mostly keep myself from communicating him. When is your guy coming to visit you? How serious is this? Maybe when you meet up with him you can voice how you feel face to face. Is he staying with you? If he is, things might go farther than you are ready for. Just giving you a heads up because you do have a deep feelings for him... Hope this helps... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lonely_lonely Posted March 23, 2012 Author Share Posted March 23, 2012 Thank you so much for your reply We are supposed to go on a vacation next month! I keep telling my self that things will change when we meet but I'm disappointed and discouraged a bit , I don't want our weekend getaway to turn to a 'sexual' hook up , I wouldn't Mind affection and flirting though . How I can address that to him ? We were texting earlier and it was going good till he disappeared in the middle of the conversation ! He is in the AF too , I understand he gets busy , but seriously it frustrate me a lot Link to post Share on other sites
LDR234 Posted April 2, 2012 Share Posted April 2, 2012 Hey Girl, It looks like you are very comfortable texting him. I would talk to him on the phone and let him know that it bothers you that he texts you and then runs off. When he comes, you should lay down the rules that this will not be a 'sexual' hook up. That you would like this to be a good experience to see if this is going to a relationship that you want to step into--especially a long distance one. Good luck! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LSgirl Posted April 2, 2012 Share Posted April 2, 2012 Is this guy an Aquarius? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lonely_lonely Posted April 3, 2012 Author Share Posted April 3, 2012 Is this guy an Aquarius? OMG he is! Was born in 25th Jan 1985 Link to post Share on other sites
LSgirl Posted April 4, 2012 Share Posted April 4, 2012 I know 2 Aquarius guys that were like this. If you ever google dating Aquarius men you will find that many MANY girls complain how hard it is to date them. They're in their own little world and people complain of their frustration with them and give up. Apparently they're the the most emotionally detached/aloof/distant (love to text/e-mail sexual things) and difficult to get close to in the zodiac, argh...terrible bc I like another one now haha 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TMichaels Posted April 5, 2012 Share Posted April 5, 2012 Okay, so he's 27. How old are you? Best, TMichaels Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lonely_lonely Posted April 5, 2012 Author Share Posted April 5, 2012 I'm 21 I googled aquarius men ! Wow sounds just like him Very interesting Link to post Share on other sites
cha_ki Posted April 9, 2012 Share Posted April 9, 2012 OMG i'm having the exact situation as yours but just the guy is actually my current boyfriend already, but still, he treats me like this! I understand that he sometimes is really busy as he just got his promotion from his job and wouldn't have as much time as before for me, plus, we are in 2 hours differences long distance relationship, PLUS, he works in a bar, so every time when he finishes off from his work, it's my bed time as i'm still a student and i have school starts from 9:00am in the next morning which makes us literally having less and less communication. I totally understand how you feel. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
creighton0123 Posted April 11, 2012 Share Posted April 11, 2012 Heh. Don't tell us these things. Tell him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lonely_lonely Posted April 15, 2012 Author Share Posted April 15, 2012 Heh. Don't tell us these things. Tell him. Tell him what? He would think I'm desperate for his attention Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 Tell him what? He would think I'm desperate for his attention But you are or you wouldn't be posting here. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lonely_lonely Posted April 17, 2012 Author Share Posted April 17, 2012 But you are or you wouldn't be posting here. Yeah so? I'm posting here to improve mt self and get advise ... Even if I was desperate , at least I have the dignity to not chase him around , means I'm not desperate much Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted April 17, 2012 Share Posted April 17, 2012 If you're not interested in LDR's, why do you want to pursue this? To him it might seem like you're not interested as you don't initiate talking with him. He's probably wondering what you want as well as you hide that you're interested. My partner is quite emotionally closed but he makes the effort to talk to me. Being emotionally closed doesn't necessarily mean they don't care. Why not meet up and see how it goes? Hiya ,First let me say that this is not the account owner,im just using hers because I dont feel like signing up and she let me use it I'm Jessie and here is my story I knew this man for quite a while now, he is charming, handsome, mature and he has everytime I want in the man of my dreams, me and him talked for about 2 years on and off, (because i wasnt intrested to get in a relationship at that time even though he is perfect) ,he always showed intrest in me and wanted to get to know me but I was hesitant about it since we live far away from each other and I'm not intrested in LDRs. Now we are back talking BUT -When we are texting his responses are very short! One word sometimes. -he takes hours to reply , sometimes he takes days! 4-5 at most . -his longest replies are when we talking about sex and fantasies -he always seems distant. I'm confused he seems not intrested but whenever we talk He complains why I don't talk to him much and why he has always to be the first one to hit me up! I don't hit him up because It's just a weird situation , it makes me uncomfortable, I still like him a lot though! , he tells me that he wants us to meet soon and he is planning for it and whenever we talk he talks about that upcoming trip. I always reply whenever he texts and I don't mention that it bothers me that he disappears , I act normal like I don't notice that he was gone . He hit me up just now after he disappeared for 5 days asking me if we are ever going to talk again?! What does he want ? He is not intrested ? What can I do to get closer to him and get him more responsive to me ! Is there any "dating techniques" I can pull on him to get him closer to me ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lonely_lonely Posted April 17, 2012 Author Share Posted April 17, 2012 If you're not interested in LDR's, why do you want to pursue this? To him it might seem like you're not interested as you don't initiate talking with him. He's probably wondering what you want as well as you hide that you're interested. My partner is quite emotionally closed but he makes the effort to talk to me. Being emotionally closed doesn't necessarily mean they don't care. Why not meet up and see how it goes? You are right but he blows hot and cold I wasn't intrested in LDRs but now I'm welling to compromise a bit because he is a great man We are meeting next week , I'm all nervous Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted April 17, 2012 Share Posted April 17, 2012 It's good you're meeting up, you can see how things are then Hope it goes well, at least you'll know one way or another then. You are right but he blows hot and cold I wasn't intrested in LDRs but now I'm welling to compromise a bit because he is a great man We are meeting next week , I'm all nervous 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Avis Posted April 18, 2012 Share Posted April 18, 2012 (edited) Emotionally closed Aquarius? That's one of the most contradictory statement I've ever heard! Aquarius is one of the most open signs, we are wearing our heart on our sleeves! Being myself one I can assure you, the easiest way is being straight and forward with us. We don't like games, mind games, we like when all is clear :-) Just talk to him, ask him a direct question and you will get a direst answer (applies to all people though). Even if it's bad news it's still better than wasting your time on someone who's probably just not interested in having any sort of romantic relationship with you. PS In LDR, the conversation should not be taken as a real time one, as it is not technically a conversation, it is messaging and we all have lives. He might just get distracted by work, people, driving a car and so on. It is not necessarily ignoring you. Don't get so offended by him not replying ASAP, take it easy Coming from someone who was in LDR for 2.5 years and now lives with LDR partner Edited April 18, 2012 by Avis 1 Link to post Share on other sites
KylesFloating Posted April 24, 2012 Share Posted April 24, 2012 Hey Jessie, so I don't want to confuse the issue here but I must say that I just found out very recently that my girl felt I was being quite unresponsive. She's Colombian, and tends to like alottt of affection but she honestly was right. I had been getting so bogged down with work and in a rut with having to fight with my boss, make some big deadlines, pay some unexpected bills, taxes, blah blah...anyways I wasn't being as affectionate as I should have. I would think about her constantly though! As guys, sometimes we may honestly just not realize you feel that way. This will sound so stupid, but being a dude...I think in some weird stupid way I subconsciously think: "I'm thinking about her all the time. I tell all my friends about her, and what we will do when she visits, and when I'm lonely I always am thinking of her...my phone background is a picture of her so I see her many times every day and always think of her. SO, of course she'd know how much I like her and care." That probably sounds stupid, but as a guy it's just like...well how would she not know I care so much? But that's stupid because much of those things I may experience and feel, but she doesn't because she's not here. She doesn't hear all the times I talk of her, or when girls try to talk to me out and I smile and say sorry but I really like this girl... So, there could be an element of your guy being real busy and just not realizing he's being distant. We're dudes and I'm pretty emotionally connected but even I miss it totally sometimes. Some of my friends are the best guys, but they just don't even realize they might make a girl feel a certain way by small actions, etc. IF he only wants to talk sexually, don't tolerate that. It's disrespectful and if he's not interested in you as a person (meaning he can make time) then you can do better. Sometimes he may just be straight up busy or distracted with stress, but that shouldn't be always. K 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ellamay Posted April 24, 2012 Share Posted April 24, 2012 He doesnt text you for days on end which means youre not a high priority to him. He is mostly interested in talking about sex and he hasnt even met you. Nothing is going to make him want a relationship with you. He already wants sex, and that seems to be the most he will ever want. Whos to say he wasnt just looking for sex in the first place? Link to post Share on other sites
ZacThomas Posted April 24, 2012 Share Posted April 24, 2012 The conclusion drawn by you is somehow true. May be he is not interested in you that is why he disappeared for days without any information. You must talk to him what he wants from you in proper manner rather than thinking of your own. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted April 24, 2012 Share Posted April 24, 2012 You get the majority of response from him when you talk about sex and fantasies. You are going on a vacation with him, and you don't want to have sex on it. For some reason, I am getting the vibe that he is looking at this vacation as a sexual hook-up. Why are you 1) talking about sex with him and 2) going on a vacation with someone that you are not in an actual relationship with? Link to post Share on other sites
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