StunnaWitFlyIce Posted June 12, 2004 Share Posted June 12, 2004 for my entire 9th grade year i liked this one girl who i didnt talk to much. in april i gave her a poem to sorta break the ice that i liked her. and i was tp shy to talke to her utnil recently and that was to ask her out. She said no and now that i look back i made all the wrong moves to advance towards her. i asked her out just last monday tho. i didnt ask her if i can get to know her better but just if me and her could hook up. i messed up to many times, and she is the first and only girl i will ever like, soi really wanna hook up wit her. i wanna know if i still had a chance to turn things around even tho i asked her out to soon and said to her the wrong things leading her to turning me down wit a NO? Link to post Share on other sites
estakado Posted June 12, 2004 Share Posted June 12, 2004 Dont give up hope kid, you still have time...in fact plenty. Aww 9th grade. Heres how you get your girl and if not the main girl, you'll at least get the attention from other ones. Anyways what is most important is attitude, confidence, and good grooming. On you attitude, make sure that it is firm and positive at all time. No negativity at all...next is your Confidence, be confident in any choices that you make. If you make a decision then stick with it. Make a plan stick with it till the bitter end and have a good attitude about it so that even if you lose you will brush [pretend if you have too] it off and move on. Girls will pick up on that eventually and the dudes will admire the bravery. Finally, good grooming this is important because as you know chicks dig the outside looks first. If you havent already, start with a good haircut and make sure that you take the time in the morning to clean yourself up good. Also pick out some clothes that match at nite and make sure that you look presentable at all times. You never get a chance to make a first impression. As for you girl, your poem is already out there and you already asked her out. So what you need to do now is just have a positive confident attitude that you kinda dont care about what you did last week. Next, take the time to study your girl and find out what she likes, what music, where she likes to do on weekends...these questions will give you topics to talk about. Also what is not a bad idea is to make friends with her friends. Is there a friend of hers that is just not as pretty but good to talk too? Try and make friends with her and you'll get more info about your target girl, most likely if you work at this, your target girl will start to be curious about you and since you have info then you'll have alot to talk about. If this plan dont work out, then dont stress, keep at this basic plan, this is fool proof and eventually you'll get your girl...if not a girl. You also have a whole summer ahead of you so who knows. Keep posting dude and keep at it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author StunnaWitFlyIce Posted June 12, 2004 Author Share Posted June 12, 2004 She has a friend who i sorta just say a few words to and knows that i like the main gurl but her friend is very popular and looks better than the main gurl i told u about. and i mean i feel like when the main gurl said no that meant, thats it i dont wanna know you so i mean how do i approach after the fact i screwed up so much and she said no. Link to post Share on other sites
estakado Posted June 13, 2004 Share Posted June 13, 2004 Hmm...so the maint girl you like, she doesnt have any other friends besides the popular one? Also did you do the other steps that I posted before? Try and make your Monday memorable by walking past her in the hallway everyday and just say Hi with a smile....after you say hi, just keep walking. Make sure that you are groomed and looking pimp though. Next, try and get a moment to talk to the main girl and let her know that you may have come on to strong and that you would like to be friends....most likely she will be cool with that and then just commence to being her friend and get to know her and what she likes. As soon as you are confortable with each other as friends, she will most definitely in the future try and take it to the next level. Link to post Share on other sites
Author StunnaWitFlyIce Posted June 13, 2004 Author Share Posted June 13, 2004 So on monday i just follow what u said and i should start to get to know her as a friend instead of jumping for a hook up. Well the main gurl has ALOT of friends but i mean most boys just see her as a tomboy, but since i gave her the poem her friends have been tellin me to go talk wit her and i have been to shy, this is my last week of school, but still i would like to atleast have more contact with her, like u said, any advice on what to wear? Link to post Share on other sites
estakado Posted June 13, 2004 Share Posted June 13, 2004 Rock a fresh pair of cargo pants or your best jeans...make sure its crisp and then wear a matching shirt. What ever you sport just make sure that the colors work. Also check your attitude and come through your conversation with her as a friend. and invite her to do some things with you as friends, maybe like go out on a group thing like you and a bunch of people see a movie or do a basketball game at the park or whatnot. Be sure to try and get maybe 2-5 mins of just you and her talking about stuff she likes together. Play it off as a friend and eventually she'll come through....dont act all silly and sprung over her. Be confident..get at me on Monday. Link to post Share on other sites
Author StunnaWitFlyIce Posted June 14, 2004 Author Share Posted June 14, 2004 I will talk to her at lunch and just do wat i do then. and take your advice. Link to post Share on other sites
Author StunnaWitFlyIce Posted June 14, 2004 Author Share Posted June 14, 2004 today at lunch i was sitting down at another table waiting for her to come so i could sit near her, but her friend talked to me and told me to talk to her on the bus. i went to the back of the bus and sat in the seat across from her and told her that i made a mistake the first time and that i would like to get to know her. she said no, im straigh...it means no. so hey i guess thats the end of my love quest i will just need to accept i wasnt cut out for companionship. well thankz for the advice anyway. (she was the first gurl i have ever liked, the first gurl i ever told i liked, and the last gurl i shall like) Link to post Share on other sites
estakado Posted June 14, 2004 Share Posted June 14, 2004 Dude I am proud of you! Why? Because you stepped up to the girl of your dreams and was not afraid. That my friend puts you up top more than any other dudes out there. Keep it moving. So no biggie, she says no, you know what I've had alot of chicks in school say no to me back in the day and before I got with my ex, I've hooked up with a couple of them. She just dont know you or want to get to know you right now, so its her loss. Its her fault she doesnt want to get to know you. Any other girl that has some interest or would want to take a chance...those rules woulda worked on them. Keep a positive attitude and she'll be checking for you soon. Plus you have a whole summer ahead to try your new moves on other girls. Confidence is key. Link to post Share on other sites
Author StunnaWitFlyIce Posted June 15, 2004 Author Share Posted June 15, 2004 Forget finding someone, i just give up, for what its worth i have had a lot more lossess than gains, so i dont care about finding a female anymore cause i trully dont wanna go through anything like this anymore, not ever again. so now that i found out the main gurl doesnt even give a $$%# il just forget all this female dramma and move on to somethin else, (not turning gay), im just not going to get married, or date, and stuff. Link to post Share on other sites
princess rose Posted June 15, 2004 Share Posted June 15, 2004 Awww, Stunna, don't give up, man! Love, just like other aspects of life, is an adventure, and you learn something from each relationship. I'm curious, how old are you now? If you're still in high school, then you're too young to throw in the towel just yet. Link to post Share on other sites
StunnaWitFlyIcee Posted June 15, 2004 Share Posted June 15, 2004 Im very serious about the throwing in the towel on love thing. I dont have much emotion to give, i gave that and then some when asking the gurl i liked out. So far my lossess and tries arent adding up. I dont want to even remotely take a chance on something like this again, so its better for me to sever the thoughts of love, and all that other crap involved with it and just move on with whats left of my heart. Trully i dont have much of my heart to give, i dont have trust issues, my heart is better cold and that way it shall remain. Link to post Share on other sites
estakado Posted June 16, 2004 Share Posted June 16, 2004 I feel ya, work on yourself, do the things you enjoy and complete yourself. Your still hella young and if you stay positive, then someone positive will come in your life. One thing to know, People enjoy people that are in good moods....if you pull of a negative vibe, then people will prolly not enjoy to meet you as much. Link to post Share on other sites
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