Don't you hate when SHORT women require TALL men???

[sweetjasmine]

And if you don't have a porn addiction and a bad attitude? Oh right, I can build on my strengths and deal with it

 

Okay, so what's your alternative plan? Tell everybody in the country what they should do and hope that they all say, "Okay, guys, somedude says to do this, let's get moving."?

 

People like what they like. Avoid the ones who don't like what you like, and go after the ones who do. Problem solved.

 

So yes being tall is a great advantage to getting women, but no being short isn't some death sentance and you complaining about being short is more detrimental then anything a woman can do to you.

 

Yep, there's nothing attractive about a Napoleon complex. I'd rather date a regular, happy 5'2" man than an insecure, chip-on-his-shoulder 5'8" man.

[Jane2011]

I'd rather date a regular, happy 5'2" man than an insecure, chip-on-his-shoulder 5'8" man.

 

Totally. Same here. First and foremost, I need for a guy to be somewhat normal in personality.

[Bob_Funk]

That's interesting. Many guys here will claim that women are so stupid that just being talk will make a guy as appealing as crack to a junkie, even if he was stupid, skinny or ugly. Tall, they claim, is THE aphrodisiac for women. I remember though that you were only able to score with obese women. I wonder what your flaw is since you claimed you had been very fit. Now you're even tall.

 

Well, attraction based mostly on the face for women. And my face is only about a 5. You might think that doesn't sound too bad. Just date other 5's, right? Wrong! Women, due to their unrestricted hypergamous nature, will only date and sleep with guys who are better looking than them (for the most part).

 

I'm by no means an anomoly either. Back in college, most of the guys I hung around never got girls either. Many graduated as virgins.

[jobaba]

 

I'm by no means an anomoly either. Back in college, most of the guys I hung around never got girls either. Many graduated as virgins.

 

Damn. I don't know which college YOU went to. That was certainly not the case at my school.

 

Many had the V card coming in, yes. Coming out ... no!

[somedude81]

I really hate it when white people say things like that. Makes them look really, really dumb.

It may be a surprise to you. But I've been white my whole life.

 

I've also never had a GF, a FWB or any form of casual sex.

 

Now tell me how being white has given me an advantage.

Maybe he doesn't pity himself so much as you do?

Yes, because I was pitying myself since I was 13 years old. I was also angry and bitter at women back then too...

[Disenchantedly Yours]

Look, I would probably get much more attention if I did get a boob job. If I had a perfect little figure. But I do the best with what I got and I don't WANT to get a boob job if that means that's the way I get attention. I want a man to LOVE my body for the way I was made by God himself. It certainly narrows my pool of potential mates. I certainly get frustrated when I see men going for the beautiful but completely vapid shallow girl when I know that I have a great heart even if my figure isn't as perfect. But they pass me up regardless. I've been rejected by short, fat, tall, athletic guys. And I have rejected short, tall, athletic guys. All for differenet reasons. I have been attracted to short guys and tall guys a like. And I will be darned if someone tells me I can't be with a tall guy just because I am short. I usually get more tall guys that hit on me then short guys.

 

I also don't see anything wrong with having certain things you like about the other gender. I do think people screw themselves over when they make these "look" things *musts* or the most important things. Or when they define a person by only these terms. I never said "I must date a tall man". But I certainly have dated tall men. And I heard my fair share of comments about our differeing size. Like I didn't know we were different sizes!

 

I think people should date who they want. Regardless of looks. I don't think you have to be fit to date someone fit. I don't think you have to have a degree and only date others with degrees. It would be like saying only Jewish people should date Jews and blondes should only date blondes. Accepting people for all the different ways they come will open you up to new experiences.

[somedude81]

Actually, I kind of resent guys who seem interested in me because of my height. I'm really particular about feeling accepted for who I am, so feeling like I got picked because of my height would give me a reason to feel uncomfortable during a date.

 

When I had an active dating profile, I didn't include my height. I somehow believed that all the short guys would start approaching me just because I'm small. I never really thought too much about height, but maybe I've been reading too much on this forum. I don't want to be approached because of a certain feature.

Great, women actually resent guys for being short and wanting women who are their height or a little shorter.

 

Can somebody shoot me please?

[Jane2011]

I usually get more tall guys that hit on me then short guys.

 

Same here. They're not all super tall, but I feel like the guys who give me looks or try to talk to me are 5'8" or above, not so much the ones who are 5'5" or 5'6".

 

And you would think the ones who are 5'6" would be swarming me because I should be their target market somehow, but it's not the case.

[Disenchantedly Yours]

Jane my theory is that they think about "babies" on a subaware level and because I am short, and they are short, don't want short babies. Where tall guys have plenty of height and just like my cute little feminine features and they have enough heigh themselves not to worry about my height. That's my theory at least!

[Jeremy87]

I'm barely 5' and my SO is a shy over 6'4". Yes, we look Ridiculous together. Yep, it's awkward with us trying to even dance together. Did we choose each other because of our height? Heck no.

It. Just. Happened.

 

Actually, I kind of resent guys who seem interested in me because of my height. I'm really particular about feeling accepted for who I am, so feeling like I got picked because of my height would give me a reason to feel uncomfortable during a date.

 

A TROLL post

[Disenchantedly Yours]

Actually Jeremy, my experience has been simliar to hers at times.

 

And I also don't want to be picked just for my height. Like some kind of "fetish". Just as I am sure most asian girls don't want to be picked just because they are asian. And most women with big breasts don't want to be picked just because they have big breasts.

[Jeremy87]

Actually Jeremy, my experience has been simliar to hers at times.

 

And I also don't want to be picked just for my height. Like some kind of "fetish". Just as I am sure most asian girls don't want to be picked just because they are asian. And most women with big breasts don't want to be picked just because they have big breasts.

 

YOUR a TROLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL

[verhrzn]

Well, attraction based mostly on the face for women. And my face is only about a 5. You might think that doesn't sound too bad. Just date other 5's, right? Wrong! Women, due to their unrestricted hypergamous nature, will only date and sleep with guys who are better looking than them (for the most part).

 

So date 4's. Or, better yet, develop charisma and masculine confidence and charm a 7 off her feet. I mean, heck, Louis CK has a huge female following... if I met a guy like him in real life, I'd be totally smitten, and he is in no way a Greek God in face or body.

 

Here's a small secret: if you seek out only shallow women (as in, judge a woman entirely by her outer appearance) you'll be judged equally in turn. shallow begets shallow. But, if you look deeper, you'll find lots of beautiful women who are more than willing to take a "5 in the face" with a great sense of humor and/or caring personality.

[jobaba]

Great, women actually resent guys for being short and wanting women who are their height or a little shorter.

 

Can somebody shoot me please?

 

You can shoot yourself if you want.

 

But I wouldn't.

 

Life's unfair. Gotta deal with it.

 

Is it fair that my sister is 5'0" and every BF of hers that I've met is over 6'2" and non-Asian? No. She's essentially killing dating life for her brother.

 

Short women like tall guys. They have hangups about their own height and a lot of times don't want to date short dudes.

 

I would suggest hitting on average height women. My last three GFs have been 5'3", 5'5" and 5'5".

 

Don't look for those who are physically out of the box. Look for those who 'think' outside the box.

Edited March 24, 2012 by jobaba

[somedude81]

You can shoot yourself if you want.

Trust me, I've thought about it.

But I wouldn't.

 

Life's unfair. Gotta deal with it.

 

Is it fair that my sister is 5'0" and every BF of hers that I've met is over 6'2" and non-Asian? No. She's essentially killing dating life for her brother.

 

Short women like tall guys. They have hangups about their own height and a lot of times don't want to date short dudes.

The dating game is so much in favor of women it's absolutely ridiculous.

 

And I hate how every "advantage" I supposedly have, is canceled out by something I have no control over.

 

I would suggest hitting on average height women. My last three GFs have been 5'3", 5'5" and 5'5".

What do you think I've been doing?

 

I've hit on girls from 5' to 5'8.

 

My last three GF's have been n/a, n/a, and n/a.

Edited March 24, 2012 by somedude81

[Hetzer]

It's funny when Asian or short girls who refuse to date Asian or short guys say "I hope they're not picking me for a fetish". But it's perfectly ok for them to have a fetish, oops I mean "preference" for a white guy or a tall guy. You see if you just change the word around, it's totttally different.

 

Women who are objectified for their height or race , deserve whatever they get, since they do it themselves. Just the concept of a woman who won't date a man of her own race or general height is something so illogical and self-hating that only a woman can get away with it, and only in feminist sht holes like the USA, Canada and England.

[PhillyDude]

Wait, she thought you were too tall for her, but you never told her you were 6'5"? So...how did she think you were too tall for her?

 

 

We never got on the discussion of height and at the last minute when I told her to look for a 6'5 guy in the train station she felt I was too tall and said her type is 5'11 and shorter

[Ursa]

Hmm. I'm a six foot tall woman. This thread is full of shorter men who are angry at women for stating they have a height preference that the shorter men don't match--yet every single one of these men has stated outright that he would not date a woman of my height. What's most interesting to me, is that each of these men protests vehemently that there isn't any hypocrisy there, when to me (and several other posters, apparently) it's so clear it's practically shining. Should I be outraged that men who hate women who don't date men their height, won't date women my height? Should I hate those men? No, I'm just kind of wearily amused--I mean, I have seen this thread a dozen times before.

 

For whatever it's worth, I can understand the sensitivity displayed around the world "spoiled" earlier--although I do think that the unfortunate word choice blinded many posters to that female poster's ultimate message, which was actually pretty benevolent. I would suggest that the posters who took umbrage at the use of the world spoiled keep this episode in mind the next time they suggest that women can "upgrade" themselves by getting surgery on their breasts. Few women will happily embrace the idea that men consider their natural human selves upgradable with exchangeable parts, like a gaming console. Just a tip.

[blueskyday]

I'm very petite, and I date guys all over the board. Tall, average, shorter. It doesn't matter.

 

That said, I probably wouldn't prefer to date a guy my height or only two inches taller, because I am so small myself. Most every guy is bigger than I am anyway! I still want to be a bit smaller than a guy. Build makes a difference, too. I prefer a guy who is more of a medium build than a skinny/slight one.

 

But that's just me. I would never rule a guy out on height, or build. My preferences could change based on how compelling a guy is. Attraction is made up of so many things, like intelligence, humor, chemistry...

 

Funny thing is, I once dated a guy who was 6'3". He said he ONLY dated petite women, and never over 5'2" tall. I'm sure when people saw us together, we looked like a circus act.

 

It was a bit freaky that all of his exes were small like me. It's like he was collecting us....

Edited March 24, 2012 by blueskyday

[Hetzer]

Hmm. I'm a six foot tall woman. This thread is full of shorter men who are angry at women for stating they have a height preference that the shorter men don't match--yet every single one of these men has stated outright that he would not date a woman of my height. What's most interesting to me, is that each of these men protests vehemently that there isn't any hypocrisy there, when to me (and several other posters, apparently) it's so clear it's practically shining. Should I be outraged that men who hate women who don't date men their height, won't date women my height? Should I hate those men? No, I'm just kind of wearily amused--I mean, I have seen this thread a dozen times before.

 

For whatever it's worth, I can understand the sensitivity displayed around the world "spoiled" earlier--although I do think that the unfortunate word choice blinded many posters to that female poster's ultimate message, which was actually pretty benevolent. I would suggest that the posters who took umbrage at the use of the world spoiled keep this episode in mind the next time they suggest that women can "upgrade" themselves by getting surgery on their breasts. Few women will happily embrace the idea that men consider their natural human selves upgradable with exchangeable parts, like a gaming console. Just a tip.

 

 

I would date a 6 feet tall woman and not have any issue with it.

 

The only thing that makes men insecure about a tall woman isn't her height, it's women's universal tall guy fetish. Most guys teach themselves to stop thinking of tall women as romantic potentials, since most women would find the choice between a child molesting cannibal that wets the bed or a guy 2 inches shorter than them to be a really difficult decision to make.

 

If you like a guy whose shorter than you, you're usually going to have to make the first move. Not because you're unattractive but because most men assume you don't want them. Not saying you would date a guy shorter than you, your post sounds rather like typical female projection where you try to validate your own shallowness by pretending men do the same thing as often as women (they don't).

[blueskyday]

yes, Ursa, what you said!

[somedude81]

Hmm. I'm a six foot tall woman. This thread is full of shorter men who are angry at women for stating they have a height preference that the shorter men don't match--yet every single one of these men has stated outright that he would not date a woman of my height.

First of all, would you even date a man who was six inches shorter than you? Didn't think so.

 

Also, I already said that I think it's ridiculous when the man is much taller than the woman. That goes the other way as well.

 

Being with a woman much taller than myself. would make me feel like a child. It would also stir up all kinds of feelings of insecurity.

 

Not to mention that just about everything would be really awkward do to the height difference.

 

Ideally I want to date a woman +/- three inches of my own height, does anything seem unreasonable about that?

 

While women, seem to only want men 5 or more inches taller than her, for reasons I have no idea why.

 

 

I do think that the unfortunate word choice blinded many posters to that female poster's ultimate message, which was actually pretty benevolent.

Benevolent?!

 

She's a woman who is only five feet tall who prefers to date men who are almost a foot taller than her. She is the worst kind of woman and exemplifies what is so wrong about dating as a short man.

 

Short men really can't get a break. Very few women want a guy shorter then them. So tall women are automatically ruled out. Most women want a guy several inches taller then them, while she's in heels , so women around our height are ruled out, then we have short women which seem they would be ideal but nope, they are even more picky about height than the medium height women.

 

Give me a f-ing break.

[PhillyDude]

First of all, would you even date a man who was six inches shorter than you? Didn't think so.

 

Also, I already said that I think it's ridiculous when the man is much taller than the woman. That goes the other way as well.

 

Being with a woman much taller than myself. would make me feel like a child. It would also stir up all kinds of feelings of insecurity.

 

Not to mention that just about everything would be really awkward do to the height difference.

 

Ideally I want to date a woman +/- three inches of my own height, does anything seem unreasonable about that?

 

While women, seem to only want men 5 or more inches taller than her, for reasons I have no idea why.

 

 

Benevolent?!

 

She's a woman who is only five feet tall who prefers to date men who are almost a foot taller than her. She is the worst kind of woman and exemplifies what is so wrong about dating as a short man.

 

Short men really can't get a break. Very few women want a guy shorter then them. So tall women are automatically ruled out. Most women want a guy several inches taller then them, while she's in heels , so women around our height are ruled out, then we have short women which seem they would be ideal but nope, they are even more picky about height than the medium height women.

 

Give me a f-ing break.

 

 

And I already said last night I saw plenty of short guys with short HOT girls and that I was rejected by a girl 5'2 because at 6'5 I was considered too tall.

 

 

So now that I said that, do you feel better?

[blueskyday]

I'm very attracted to short guys! Lots of us petite girls are! Not all want super tall guys, but a lot of us won't discriminate in that direction either!

 

My last two boyfriends were short. We matched up well in bed, too!

[Ursa]

I would date a 6 feet tall woman and not have any issue with it.

 

The only thing that makes men insecure about a tall woman isn't her height, it's women's universal tall guy fetish. Most guys teach themselves to stop thinking of tall women as romantic potentials, since most women would find the choice between a child molesting cannibal that wets the bed or a guy 2 inches shorter than them to be a really difficult decision to make.

 

If you like a guy whose shorter than you, you're usually going to have to make the first move. Not because you're unattractive but because most men assume you don't want them. Not saying you would date a guy shorter than you, your post sounds rather like typical female projection where you try to validate your own shallowness by pretending men do the same thing as often as women (they don't).

 

Oh, MY post sounds like projection, hm?

 

Funny, I was about to say the same thing to you.

 

For the record, I have dated several men who were shorter than me. It's not something I care enough about to make an issue of. But then, I've never been presented the opportunity to choose between a child molesting, bedwetting cannibal and a man whose eyes were slightly below the level of my own. Obviously, that is the exact kind of decision women realistically struggle with every day, when they can take the time off from popping their gum and twirling their hair around their fingers, and your perspective is completely logical and unbiased.