Dust Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 Completely ridiculous. I prefer women who are 5'7 or taller... but I'd surely date a sexy short girl and not for a second think... gee I wish she was taller. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PhillyDude Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 Completely ridiculous. I don't like tall women, i like shorter women. Really 5'4 to 5'9 is what I'm content with. Link to post Share on other sites
PhillyDude Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 I prefer women who are 5'7 or taller... but I'd surely date a sexy short girl and not for a second think... gee I wish she was taller. Well me being 6'5, walking with a woman who is 4'11 or 5'0 will look like my daughter-lol Link to post Share on other sites
Jane2011 Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 This is from way earlier, but I never got a chance to respond, didn't see it... While I definitely prefer lager boobs, I would never think that a girl with them would spoil me since they don't actually do anything for me. Getting spoiled would be having a GF that starts the day with a BJ. A woman having larger boobs does do something for you. It provides with something pleasing to look at. Same thing with a tall guy. Something pleasing for me to look at. If you're saying that being "spoiled" means the characteristic has to "do something" for a person (like a BJ or a big dick that you mentioned earlier), that's what big boobs does for you and a tall(ish) guy does for me. Gives each of us something pleasant to look at that we like. So then you'd say that you like the shorter guys equal or greater than to the taller guys? I'm saying I would choose a guy who was 5'6" over a guy who's 5'10" if I like the guy who is 5'6" more. Liking/loving someone entails so many things and so much in general -- some of it completely intangible -- and not all of it easy to categorize (like # of languages spoken, income, education level, amount of hair on head, food preference, # of times one exercises per week, and a lot of other easy to determine categories). I could like a guy who is 5'6" more than a guy who is 5'10" even if he is "less" than the 5'10" guy in a lot of ways (like education level, # of languages spoken, level of athleticism, whatever), as long as I like the guy's general essence more. I can't describe how that would happen, but it can and does. Attraction is intangible things, too. Maybe the 5'6" just has a more attractive demeanor and I find him sexier, even though he makes less money than the taller guy, even though he's got less friends, even though he's read fewer books. You seem to think the ONLY way a guy who's 5'6" could ever win out over a taller guy is if he is equal to or exceeds him in every possible category. You like to think that way so that you can think of life, dating, relationships, and women as utterly impossible. But it's absolutely not the case that you have to exceed a taller guy in every possible way in order for a woman to love you over him. If you really think that, you don't understand attraction or having feelings for a person. And how do you feel that you've been slighted? Don't feel like going into it. Doesn't matter. I'm fine with things. As I've already mentioned, men of all heights are attracted to me. I am lucky. But one of the reasons why I'm lucky is that I do what someone else mentioned in this thread. I forget about my weakness and work on my strengths. I do every single possible thing I can do to make myself attractive to men. I know being a short woman is not as hard as being a short man. But believe me, it's still not great. Like I said, though, I maximize my overall self. I like my face already, already, so I don't have to worry about that. But I make sure to keep my body slim. If I were short and fat, I'd have a harder time. But I'll never let that happen. I also try to have a congenial personality. I do everything I can to give myself every possible advantage. You need to as well. In actuality, you probably do have a lot of strengths already that you don't need to actively "work on" so much. More than anything, I just think you have to stop being so upset/angry about things. Stop the insanity. Link to post Share on other sites
setsenia Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 (edited) Can you explain why you feel that way? I don't know, I'm just more attracted to guys who are taller than me, but he doesn't need to be ridiculously tall. 5'8" is good. 5'6" and under is a bit short for me, although I was really attracted to this guy I worked with who was only a few inches taller than me, so I guess there are always exceptions. Edited March 24, 2012 by setsenia Link to post Share on other sites
PhillyDude Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 I don't know, I'm just more attracted to guys who are taller than me, but he doesn't need to be ridiculously tall. 5'8" is good. 5'6" and under is a bit short for me, although I was really attracted to this guy I worked with who was only a few inches taller than me, so I guess there are always exceptions. Girl decided not to meet me because I never told her I was 6'5 and she felt that since she was only 5'3 I was too tall for her. Damm she was dumb Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 just something that has begun to anger me. i'm 5'8, so not terribly short, but short(er). most of my girlfriends have usually been between 5'2 and 5'5, no taller than that. maybe it's an insecurity thing, most likely in fact, but i don't like girls that are close to my height (heels would put them taller). so basically i'm already picking from say half of the girls (5'5 and under). then i see so many of these shorter girls, on dating sites, say they need a tall man. like who the hell are you? lol that's my initial reaction, most likely irrational (i guess we can all demand certain qualities and shouldn't be judged for them). but i just find it a little ridiculous, that these short girls refuse to date shorter guys. it's a bit lame. So, you are perfectly right to not want to date tall girls, but short girls are ridiculous and lame for not wanting to date short men. Hypocrisy much? Link to post Share on other sites
PlumPrincess Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 As if being white was an advantage. I really hate it when white people say things like that. Makes them look really, really dumb. Bbeing 5'6 and managing to date and have sex, that's great for you. My guess is that you are lucky enough to have something else going for you that makes up for the height. Maybe he doesn't pity himself so much as you do? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
setsenia Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 Girl decided not to meet me because I never told her I was 6'5 and she felt that since she was only 5'3 I was too tall for her. Damm she was dumb Wait, she thought you were too tall for her, but you never told her you were 6'5"? So...how did she think you were too tall for her? Link to post Share on other sites
ScreamingTrees Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 Girl decided not to meet me because I never told her I was 6'5 and she felt that since she was only 5'3 I was too tall for her. Damm she was dumb Well, I'm sure there are rather tall, beautiful women out there who'd love a man of your stature.. Y'know, 5'10 to 6" amazonians who'd otherwise have difficulty finding a guy who'd be cool with their "imposing presence".. They'd be a much better match for you than a "wo-midget".. Leave the wo-midgets for the manlets. Link to post Share on other sites
PlumPrincess Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 I don't see guys who are fat, or working class, etc complaining about not being able to find anyone at all, atleast not as common. But short guys (as well as Asian and red haired guys) you have to admit, are the bottom of the barrel and the very last resort in the eyes of most women. I'm pretty sure those guys can complain as well, except maybe for the red-haired guys (never heard that they have problems with dating). Not sure why you think you deserve the most pity. Link to post Share on other sites
Dust Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 I'm pretty sure those guys can complain as well, except maybe for the red-haired guys (never heard that they have problems with dating). Not sure why you think you deserve the most pity. There is such a thing called learned helplessness. It's a word to describe a condition where a person has learned to feel helpless as their way of coping with life. I think that is what we are witnessing here. Any attempt to point out that asians or short guys can do perfectly well with girls will be met with much criticism. This ignores the fact that most men with gf's are both asian and short in this world... oh well can't argue with insanity unless you go completely insane too. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PlumPrincess Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 I have no problem with short women liking tall men, but then I am a tall man. Funnily enough, my most recent ex, 5'9", was always f*cking short men and comparing me to the short boyfriend she idolised, who brought other men to f*ck her, f*cked 7 other women, and jumped off her balcony and killed himself. She even f*cked a short man in the toilets at the pub on New Year's Eve. Oh, and a couple of short men from her kung fu classes. She went on a date with the short husband of one of her colleagues. Got terribly upset when I went to the cinema with a short woman after she declared she believed in free love. So yeah, I don't really feel sorry for short men. Life is hard. If all you have is a bad attitude and a porn addiction, why the f*ck do you think you're such a catch? Take advantage of your strengths, build on them, and engage in life. Deal with it. That's quite a story! Link to post Share on other sites
shorty7 Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 I get mad for almost the same reason. I absolutely hate seeing girls 5'3 or under with guy who are over 5'10. They look retarded together, and it's like he stole one of the few girls that would be OK dating me. I'm barely 5' and my SO is a shy over 6'4". Yes, we look Ridiculous together. Yep, it's awkward with us trying to even dance together. Did we choose each other because of our height? Heck no. It. Just. Happened. Actually, I kind of resent guys who seem interested in me because of my height. I'm really particular about feeling accepted for who I am, so feeling like I got picked because of my height would give me a reason to feel uncomfortable during a date. Link to post Share on other sites
PlumPrincess Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 I'm barely 5' and my SO is a shy over 6'4". Yes, we look Ridiculous together. Yep, it's awkward with us trying to even dance together. Did we choose each other because of our height? Heck no. It. Just. Happened. Actually, I kind of resent guys who seem interested in me because of my height. I'm really particular about feeling accepted for who I am, so feeling like I got picked because of my height would give me a reason to feel uncomfortable during a date. When I had an active dating profile, I didn't include my height. I somehow believed that all the short guys would start approaching me just because I'm small. I never really thought too much about height, but maybe I've been reading too much on this forum. I don't want to be approached because of a certain feature. Link to post Share on other sites
oldguy Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 (edited) 5' 8" -5' 9-ish is the average height for a guy. Some believe it's more because taller people get noticed more because they are - not - average. I have two brothers who are over 6' 5" & and although they carry themselves well & are proud of being tall I've heard them complain our entire lives because "the world is made for the average size person". I can buy clothes off the rack, even furniture; from counter tops to chairs fit me perfectly. There isn't a sports car out there that doesn't fit me like a glove. If I didn't have two freakishly tall brothers I would have never noticed; the world was built for the average size person & the rest have to adjust. Growing up I've noticed there have always been women who preferred one of my taller brothers simply because of their height but woman of substance prefered me for my, um, wonderful personality :laugh: It's "Quality over quantity" btw Have any woman here complained about men who only prefer women with larger breasts? Edited March 24, 2012 by oldguy Link to post Share on other sites
Jane2011 Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 (edited) The dating site I was on most recently had me put my height on my profile, but didn't even ask for what height was desired in a guy. It may have asked that if you were doing a search, but it wasn't asked that you put it on your profile. At any rate, I got men of all heights contacting me. Someone who was 5' tall contacted me, but he was a lot younger than me. Here's another thing about being a short woman (5', 5'1", 5'2", etc.). If you're those heights, you're used to height differences. As I said in a previous post, most even short adult males are about 5'6" or 5'7". If you're 5', like me, an adult guy is almost always at least five or six inches taller. A guy 8, 9, or 10 inches taller doesn't feel that much different, nor even does one who's 11 inches taller. (Ehh, no, at the point of 10 or 11 inches taller, it does feel different, but as I said, one is used to height difference. One is used to never being with someone only a couple inches taller because of the relative scarcity of adult males who are only a couple inches taller). People in general who are in this 'middle range' height, like 5'6" to 5'10" are very used to encountering potential partners who are the same height, a couple inches taller/shorter, 3 inches taller/shorter. Because of that, they tend to think "why would someone need someone to be six inches taller" or "how is it appropriate to have someone a lot taller or shorter than you." But if you're really tall or really short, you're used to it being the case that people you like are sometimes a lot taller (if you're short) and a lot shorter (if you're tall) because you're not in that middle range where most everyone else is reasonably close to your height. And it's different for short guys and tall girls than it is for short girls and tall guys. Adults in general range from about 4'11" to 6'4". Very short women are at an extreme low and very tall guys are at an extreme high. It's gonna happen that they're attracted to people a lot taller or shorter than them. Short guys are 5'5" and 5'6" or so, while tallish women are 5'8" to 5'11". They may be tall or short *for their gender* but they're still in that middleish range of adult human height...they're the ones who say "why do you need someone more than 2 or 3 inches different in height?" And for the record, when I have dated guys who were 5'10" and 5'11", it really didn't feel like that huge a height difference. Certainly not an awkward one. There are tons of couples out there who are married who are about that much different in height. It isn't unusual at all, and it's certainly not a big deal. Edited March 24, 2012 by Jane2011 Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 Some people would argue it is the length of the person's torso that makes them more or less compatible in ways that matter to alot of people (ie sex) Link to post Share on other sites
Jane2011 Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 the world was built for the average size person & the rest have to adjust. Yeah, that's kind of what I'm saying (in my post above) Link to post Share on other sites
Jane2011 Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 Some people would argue it is the length of the person's torso that makes them more or less compatible in ways that matter to alot of people (ie sex) Last guy I dated was 5'11", and our bodies fit very well together in the bedroom. (I think I have a relatively long torso.) Ah, it was nice. Link to post Share on other sites
zengirl Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 Frankly, I do think that it's wrong that a woman as short as she is, thinks tall guys are ideal for her. The very thought is retarded. Then it's even more ridiculous that she can actually get tall guys. If there wasn't a double standard in dating, then the tall guys she expressed interest in should just laugh at her. But no, she's a woman and simply because of that one fact, she can get whatever she wants. Not really the phenomenon. Really, the thing is men don't care about a woman's height so much (many will reject women far taller or shorter, and there are individual preferences, of course, but I mean as a whole gender), just as there are many things men care about more and women care about less. From what I gather, many tall men like shorter girls because they're small and cute and girlish to them. I'm the tallest girl hubby has ever been with. If he were to vocalize his preferences, I've no doubt he prefers girls who look smaller, including shorter. I'm not a particularly short or tall woman (I'm a tall 5'6'' so taller than average but not so tall that it's ever been an issue in any way -- I could've used a few more inches, as I was a model in my teen years and I could've made far more with just a few inches, but I'm well over that now). I wear flats primarily. If I wore heels primarily, maybe he wouldn't have been as attracted to me on early dates even! (I'm not sure, and he certainly doesn't mind if I wear heels. But he does love that I wear mostly flats and encourage me to do so --- good since that's what I'm going to do anyway. ) It's not that "women have it so much easier and can get whatever they want," so much as "men care less about this particular criteria and may even prefer shortness." I would say girls my height probably do as well as short girls and it's more about other physical features for attraction, but very tall girls are even more disadvantaged in many ways than the average short guy. After all, guys don't care about matching up heights, unless they're short! So, that's a bit tougher, no, in terms of the options available? Personally, I never cared about height. I did not find any of the few men I met in my age range who were shorter than me to be attractive, mostly because they were also very skinny or very muscular -- two looks I don't like. I like a guy who looks strong but has some softness to him; too much muscle definition creeps me out, but I like strength. Generally, you don't see many FAR shorter guys who can carry that weight without looking fat or bulky, but most of the guys I dated were between 5'7'' - 5'9''. Hubby happens to be 6'3'' or 6'4'' -- I'm not actually sure which. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 It's not that "women have it so much easier and can get whatever they want," so much as "men care less about this particular criteria and may even prefer shortness." Really. Saying 'short girls have no business wanting tall men' is like saying men with flat chests have no business wanting girls with large breasts, IMO. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 Didn't read the thread past this post.... People want what they want, and they shouldn't be judged by what they're attracted to. Spot on and faced this head-on in my twenties when going bald. A generation later I reflect upon this and am thankful to have had such people avoid me. That's it. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
jobaba Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 Didn't read the thread past this post.... Spot on and faced this head-on in my twenties when going bald. A generation later I reflect upon this and am thankful to have had such people avoid me. That's it. I try and put this into practice more and more each day. Life is short. Surround yourself with good people. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 I'll rephrase it a bit: 'Be thankful for people who love and accept one for their humanity rather than some arbitrary number on a tape measure or follicles on their scalp or some other measure of physicality.' The older I get the more truth I find in this. And thanks. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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