How Do You Justify a Long Distance Relationship? What's the Point...?

[leftfordead2]

Lol I just realized Star Gazer can't seem to stay out of your threads...

[HeavenOrHell]

I'm sorry, I hope things improve for you..It's really not easy letting another person in after you've been hurt, I know what it's like big time.

 

 

 

I know...I guess I realized I'm not in the right mind to be in a relationship...I can't seem to get emotionally connected with anyone...I don't know whether my walls are still up from my ex, but I definitely feel like i can't "love"...I can certainly say it, but I can't genuinely feel it...So distance was just my out...I would just be stringing her along...

 

But distance still sucks...

[HeavenOrHell]

Aw, how wonderful I'm filling up here

 

 

so very sorry to hear that you ended your relationship, but then again, YOU are the only one who can make sense of an LDS. Obviously, this wasn't the right fit, and the decision was the right one.

 

that said, your earlier question about why go through an LDS, I thought Heaven or Hell had a fantastic answer when she wrote, "I'm not 'settling' for him, I'm with him because it's him I want, no-one else. ...What can I say? Real love is hard to find."

 

because 22 years ago, that was *my* response when the guy I was dating had to return to his homebase in Florida, leaving me in South Texas. And then, he went to Saudi Arabia on a 2-year civil service contract. I pursue that relationship heart and soul simply because I had a sure feeling about him and about us, and I wasn't going to let distance or time get in the way of that.

 

this summer, we celebrate 20 years of marriage. Not a bad pay-off for taking such a great leap of faith as a college co-ed ...

 

when you meet her, you'll do whatever it takes to ensure that relationship stays alive, and it'll be worth every second of separation in the end.

[jerbear]

Thanks guys...yea, it does suck, even as the "dumper"...the thought of never seeing someone again that you were once close to sucks pretty bad...

 

And Pyro, you're right...LDRs are NOT for me...

Even dumpers have feelings, it is hard for a dumpee to understand. We're all human and need to bond with other humans. When we end things, our routine changes, the air smells different, and our emotional state changes.

 

I wouldn't say that LDR's are not for you. I thought I would never pursue someone long distance but ended up doing that a few times.

 

What if you meet someone while deployed then both of you get redeployed one year or two years later? So never know.