I'm with my boyfriend but can't stop thinking about someone else.

[bikerchic69]

I just got back together with my ex (of 5 years)

but while we were broken up i was seeing someone else.

This guy was really funny and just completely different from my boyfriend

and the sex was incredible!!

Anyway this guy was way younger than me and he ended up wanting to see other people after 3 months.

He said: he wasn't ready to be with just one person

- even though he was in the beginning.

He kind of hurt me cuz i still wanted to see him.

Anyway me and my long term boyfriend worked a lot of things out........he treats me like a queen!!

So why is it that i can't stop thinking about that fling I had?

I had a great dream about him last night and I kind of miss him.

 

Does this mean I shouldn't be with my current boyfriend?

[average guy]

For my 2 cents worth, I don't think it is fair to your bf that you are wishing you were with someone else. You need to either get over this fling with the younger man and let him go (especially since "he ended up wanting to see other people after 3 months" and your current bf "treats you like a queen". The choice seems pretty obvious to me

 

Good luck

[Outrageous-X]

I currently have the same problem. I've been with my b/f for 5 months but I can't stop thinking about my ex and have even considered going back to him. Believe me, things will not work with the other guy. You know the old saying "the grass is always greener on the other side?" You probably feel that way, but it's far from true. You're fine where you're at. If you go back to the fling, you will just be setting yourself up for disappointment. I wanted my ex back for shallow reasons. My relationship is stable and strong. I'm pretty sure yours is too. The fling is a fantasy. You b/f is reality. You probably just have cold feet about going back into a committed relationship after so long. Give it time.

[Greeneyedgirl]

Well hunnie, I am in the same situtation at the present moment. I was in a relationship for three months also and he was in between my boyfriend and I's break up. Well when I was with my so called boyfriend,, I fell in love fast!! He didn't treat me good, he looked at other girls, belittled me, and went out all hours of the night, he also lied a lot and I would find out the truth and question him about it and he lied about that too!! It was ridiculous!! But guess what now that I'm back with my other ex.. I'm missing the ex that didn't treat me good... I use to do anything to make him happy... I find myself day dreaming about him and every song that comes on the radio reminds me of him... I'm not sure why I do this because my boyfriend treats me awesome!! What is wrong with us?? Is it because they are a challenge? And not only did this guy treat me bad.. he is 25 with no car... no job... no money... and a bunch of goals in life that he wants to get to but it seems impossible... and to top that off we broke up because he doesnt know what he wants in life!! When I write it all down it makes me think how did I love someone like this... but as soon as I am done writing I'll be saying how much I miss him... I have it good now... but I'm stubborn.. He is the only guy I've never cheated on... now that I'm with someone that treats me awesome.. I want to talk to other guys.. I need to learn how to realize what I have... I need help!!! [color=cyan][/color]